I told my boyfriend I'm pregnant and he says he isn't the father! He then called me a slut and a whore! I don't want this at all and my mother is still pressuring me to get an abortion, but I REALLY don't want to kill it. Adoption would be a nice choice, but I don't want the child to get depression over the fact he/she doesn't know who her/his parents are.
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2006-06-11 01:10:10 · 13 answers · asked by teenomommy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
There are so many people out there who can't have children of their own, so believe me, someone will take care of your baby better than you can at your age. You can rest in that knowledge if you decide to put the baby up for adoption. I think that giving up a child is a very hard but noble decision for someone so young. Get plenty of therapy and let it be a lesson well learned. Please use birth control the next time, also.
2006-06-11 01:29:50 · answer #1 · answered by Evil Wordmonger, LTD LOL 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am 27 years old and got pregnant from someone who I was just friends with. We were not in a relationship and both were content with being single. When the test was positive, he pretty much told me he was not ready to be a father. He was just out of college and starting his own life. We weren't in love so we were not going to get married just for the kid. He wanted me to have an abortion, and I told him it was not an option. So, I gave him a choice. He would be able to see the child and pay child support or sign his rights away and never see us again. We were living in Las Vegas and I was not going to go through this with out my family, so I moved back to Atlanta. If he wanted to be a part of the baby's life he would have to make arrangements to come here. I havnt heard much from him since I moved back home.
Your parents can not legally force you to have an abortion. If adoption is your choice, there are families who will take you in and provide your medical care until the baby is born. There are lots of websites to help you get through the decision making stages. But abortion will leave a perminant scar and you will always play "what if".
My mothers siblings were all adopted. They were so loved and well taken care of, that they never got upset or depressed about who their mom's were. They were explained that while they were born from another mother, God knew that this was the family they belonged in.
If you can not provide the life you feel the child needs, then give the gift of life and allow someone else to have a blessing that cant. If you can not seperate the idea of giving birth and giving the baby up for adoption, just think of yourself as a serrogate. That you are providing life to someone who never was able to have a child.
2006-06-11 02:36:09 · answer #2 · answered by southrntrnzplnt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are underage, you are now considered an adult. (When a teen gets pregnant she is emanicapated) So the first thing you need to do is evaluate the situation. Are you ready to take care of this child? And you should because you were ready to have sex. Are you old enough to get a job? You need to have a part time job so you can at least pay for your child. But remember to stay in school. That would be the best thing for your child. You can go to your local Department of Health and Human Resources and ask them programs that can help you with raising your child. Then after your baby is born they will also help you with establishing paternity of your child. You will have to tell them who the father is and then they will help you get a court ordered petition so that he will have to have a DNA test. Once that is established they will set your child support amount. But rememeber you do want to keep encouraging the father to see his child. Don't fight or discourage him from doing this. You will regret it down the road, because the child will think that you are the cause of he/she not seeing the father. As long as you try to keep the child active in the father's life then he will have to answer to your child if he doesn't see he/she.
But the number one thing you need to remember is that you can do this. Alot of girls have done it and so can't you. Even if the father isn't there. This is a child and children are wonderful and precious gifts. I had my son in my senior year of high school and I went on to graduate. I am 22 and now pregnant with my second. Good Luck Honey! YOU CAN DO THIS!!!
2006-06-11 02:43:57 · answer #3 · answered by I love my babies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Well, it sounds like your mother in someway or another is really leaving it up to you as she is not making you have an abortion and simply is pressuring you... You are in a really tough situation, one of the things that you can do to try to make your mother realize how your baby looks right now and your reason for not wanting to kill - go online and type in "picture of 6 week pregnant", a bunch of sites will come up, there is one specific one that will show the growth and how the baby looks week by week.. it is very thorough.. Maybe like that she could bound with you and be a little more understand. But you have to understand her too, she feels very disappointed because now she feels that this baby is going to either destroy your future and simply not give you one.. You have to make sure to secure her that just because you are pregnant does not mean that you are not going to continue your education and that you do want to achieve not just for you but for your baby.... Let her see that you did a mistake and that you have learned from and that you are acting maturely... As to your boyfriend, screw him., do not even bother talking to him and simply take him to child support when you give birth...
2006-06-11 01:29:00 · answer #4 · answered by Snowwhite 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man, don't get an abortion, i went though the same thing as you and his parents and my parents both wanted me to get an abortion, but i knew in my heart it was wrong. so my mom and step dad told me if i didn't get one i would be kicked out the house, i had no one, and i refused to get one. so i was kicked out and i had to live with friends i went from house to another house. It was hard but i am glad that i was a real woman and i followed my heart because now my son is 9 years old and i am glad he is in my life, GOD gave him to me for a reason and there is not a day that he does not put a smile on my face one year after he was born i met a wonderful man that loves both of us, he adopted my son and he is still with us, i think GOD put him in my path because he is a good man. A Trueman HE took up someone Else's responsibility. as for my son's biological father he was an *** and i never once looked back, i have never asked him for nothing and i never will, Don't get me wrong i do not regret being with him because i got wonderful son out of it, AS FOR YOU EVERY ONE IS DIFFERENT IF YOU ARE NOT READY TO BE A MOM, AT LEAST GIVE THE BABY A CHANCE TO BE BORN AND THAN GIVE THE BABY UP FOR ADOPTION, JUST DON'T KILL THE BABY BECAUSE IT'S NOT HIS FUALT. IM AM 25 NOW AND IF I COULD GO BACK IN TIME TO ALL THE TIMES I HAVE SUFFERD I WOULD NOT CHANGE A THING, BECAUSE I LOVE THE OUT COME.
2006-06-11 01:41:06 · answer #5 · answered by disamari13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get couseling, medical attention and general help.
You should tell him to not acting so immature and step upto the plate. If he doesn;t get it together you and your family could ask for a family meeting with his family and all of you can decide to do; Adoption, keeping the baby, abortion, etc.
Paternity test will probably be necessary because he is contesting this. He thinks you sleep around or is really imature.
I don;t know how strong your relationship. GET HELPFNOW.Good Luck
2006-06-11 03:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by Robert Miller 95670 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think the child would be depressed because he/she was adopted? If thats the choice you make, you have options. Open adoption might be a good one for you. You can also make it very easy for a child to find you if they choose to later in life.
2006-06-11 01:36:41 · answer #7 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is in denial right now. I was with my husband for 12 years, boyfriend and girlfriend for 10 years and got married and was married for one year I got pregnant. When I got pregnant my husband did the same thing to me. He felt that he was not ready to have kids. He soon started to get over it because I was having the baby. Now he is soooo proud to be daddy. He just needs time for all of this to soak all of this in.
2006-06-11 06:42:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sure picked a winner there. You shouldn't have given it up to him in the first place. You really find out alot about a person when faced with a crises. He sounds like a total loser.
2006-06-11 01:14:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
slap him with child's support and then somehow transfer your pain in labor to him..that will show him lol...or go on maury (a show that has alot of paternity testing) and get a paternity test so (if your a 100% know the child is it) everyone in the studio and the world can laugh at him because he is retarded lol
2006-06-11 01:13:37 · answer #10 · answered by POR-FRY-CHICKEN 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋