Would you look after a friend's baby, while she goes out enjoying her self?

Question

Would you take that risk because your to frighten
to say no in case you upset her feelings.

Answer 1

No. I have a friend that keeps asking me to babysit. I have two kids of my own but I have a husband that helps. She doesn't. She is doing it alone. I think that if I didn't have kids I would watch hers once and a while. But not because I didn't want to hurt her feelings. I have told her no. If you want to spare her feelings a little white lie won't hurt. You already have plans or something always works. But if someone said no to babysitting my kids I would understand. Kids are a big responsiblity and not everyone wants to take that on. Maybe you should just try telling her that you don't want to. Who knows maybe she will understand. I don't think that as a mom you are going to hurt her feelings. If she is grown up enough to have a child she is grown up enough to understand.

Answer 2

Well, I don't know the details of course, but I can say that I will always look after my friend's baby if it's a situation where she and her husband have to do something together, and it's important. Otherwise, they can alternate and go out that way. I work hard and I look forward to a weekend to relax, to clean the house, do the laundry, etc. I raised 2 kids. I never left them to go partying except I think once or twice with my parents and even then I got an earful. I had situations when my kids were sick and I had to run to the pharmacy and I couldn't leave them alone. I was very grateful if someone came and sat with them for an hour. But I would never ask friend to take such responsibility just so I could go out and party and they will be stuck at my home with the screaming babies.
To answer the question: If I sat at home, didn't work, had nothing to do, I would watch friends baby to let them go out, sure, no problem. Since this is not the case, then I would watch the baby if they had to do something important but not to go partying because I have things to do to.

Answer 3

This all depends on other circumstances, I get the feeling that you (or whoever you are referring to) dont feel happy about this? I think it is perfectly acceptable for your friend to ask you to babysit whilst she goes out as long as she tells you what she is doing and does not take advantage of the situation by relying on you constantly or by being unreliable in her return or in what she is doing (i.e. anything illegal). On the other hand you are equally justified to say no, just because you are her friend it does not equate to you having to be responsible for her child caring needs. I think as a friend I personally would not mind very occasionally if it helps her maintain a life as a person and not just a parent but if you dont feel comfortable with it then dont do it and also tell her this and explain why. If the friendship is true you should be able to be upfront with her and she should accept this without it affecting your friendship.

Answer 4

first of all
I am never too afraid to tell a friend no
about anything
that is one of the rules of friendship
if they have problems with a no
then it is their problem, not mine
my only problem may lie in how did I say no
in this case
I think being a friend requires some understanding of your friend
she needs to get out from time to time
& most of all she trust you with her kid
that is quite a compliment!
if you feel too insecure with the job
then you should explain this too her
it maybe she can give you some pointers or traing to overcome your fears
maybe a good time to start training for the time when you will have your own child
you never know about life
& it is better to be prepared than not
don't do it all the time on a regular basis
for after all its a favor & not a job
so you can say not this time but ask me later
that way you are in control
& can help out a friend from time too time

Answer 5

well there is sort of a thing called saying no you want to sit you friend down and tell her how you feel and make them understand that she has the child and she has to look after he/she shes the one who decided on having a baby and its her responsibility not yours but you are prepared to help her ie once week or something so she can have a break!!!if she was a true friend she will listen and nit get upset about it

Answer 6

yes but not all the time,
a child is a big commitment and if she feels its stopping her living her social life then its her fault! she should stay in more and enjoy the few preacious years she has till her child is a teenager or atleast a minute bit more self sufficient!
by all means do it from time to time but dont get too tied down or you AND the child will end up missing out!

Answer 7

I am not sure in what context you are asking.

Is she asking you to take care of this child for WEEKS or MONTHS while she goes out partying it up? Hell no, that's not something that I would do.

Is she asking you to watch the child for ONE night so she can go out and let her hair hang loose? I would watch my friend's child so she could have a break. I see nothing wrong with that.

You are going to have to provide more information for me to understand why you have a problem doing so.

Answer 8

I suppose you need to look at how often this is happening....

If its every now and again - yeah your friend deserves a bit of fun, and its good that she trusts you with her baby.

If its all the time, then maybe she should think about spending more time with her child or at least she should look at someone else to help out with watching the baby.

Answer 9

What is the problem... People need some time to themselves and looking after a baby is no big deal...

Unless she is off to enjoy herself for a weekend...

Answer 10

If I didn't feel capable of watching the baby then I wouldn't. I would just let my friend know I didn't feel comfortable for whatever reason. If she does not understand then she is not a true friend.