i quit drinking about 2 and half months ago my wife and i still live seperated.she insists that she loves me but only wants to be friends.she also had an affair for 2yrs.i know its been over for 6 months now.i dont know what to do i love her so much and want to be with her but i dont feel the love back.any advice or simular situations would be greatly apprecated.thank you
2006-06-11 00:44:02 · 10 answers · asked by billf06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are experiencing life through sober eyes, probably for the first time in a long while and that takes adjustment. I am sure you are realizing that we really do hurt the ones we love when we spend so much of our time in the bottle. Fact is she found her own way to cope by turning to someone who would show her the attention and love she believed she needed. Not that having an affair makes things any better.
You have both wronged one another and that hurt doesn't just disappear. She says that she just wants to be friends right now? Then be her friend. She needs time to get to know the SOBER you again and the sober you needs time to get to know the woman she is now as a result of the past years. There is always the chance that the love can be rekindled. But you also need to be aware that the damage may be done.
There's no rush is there? You have invested this much time in one another without divorcing, take all the time needed to find one another again. But learn how to turn the one you love loose if that is what she believes she needs.
2006-06-11 00:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by adagia27 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you quit drinking only 2 month know you are not ready for any kind of relationship you know that this is what you do go out buy a plant and if you can love that plant for one full year and if that plant is still liveing after one year then i think you are ready to get your wife back.but 2 month who are you joking with you are just lien to your self at this stage of the game you are still in the area of your life were you are just drying up if i was your wife i wouldn't go back to you for a long time.
good luck
2006-06-11 03:16:42 · answer #2 · answered by little ace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit back and take care of your sobriety. Let her see the changes in you over time and she might come back. If she doesn't your probably better off with out her.
Yeah, It sucks, I know. But living a good happy and healthy life is the best you can do for yourself and she will probably regret her decisions. Either way, you win.
2006-06-11 00:52:10 · answer #3 · answered by dean_moriarty00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your feeling your still very much in love with your wife, you may try to show her how much you have sincerely changed for the better for the both of you. how ever there is a chance she may not take you back and may only want to be friends in the said event this should happen you still have her in your life. it's really up to her if she takes you back or not i'm pulling for you
2006-06-11 00:54:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must first prove to her that you really have quit drinking and win her trust back. Keep talking to her, maybe 'ask her out on a date' (and good for you stay away from the booze!)
2006-06-11 00:50:43 · answer #5 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-02-19 14:22:36 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh I'm so sorry you never have her back because she knew you at all and besides you said she had an affair for 2yrs so give her up and find someone else...good luck
2006-06-11 00:55:58 · answer #7 · answered by majo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2014-08-18 09:31:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'M SURE THAT SHE WILL COME BACK TO YOU IF SHE LOVES YOUR REALLY.
TELL HER THAT YOU DON'T DRINK ANY MORE.... I HOPE SHE WILL RETURN BACK
2006-06-11 00:50:47 · answer #9 · answered by Sumi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay sober and ask her to go to counseling with you.
2006-06-11 05:33:35 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋