Why am i going thru hell?

Question

I and my bf, we had been couples for 2 yrs now. He's 41 n i'm 25.The problem is that, my bf is very possesive and overcontrolling. how did i come to this conclusion?First and formost, wherever i go or whatever i do or with whoever i talk to, i must REPORT to him and tell him b4 i embark on anything.Even to eat or bath i have to tel him.2yrs i had been going thru this torture.If i dont do this, he wud either call me names,mentally abuse me or the worst-link me with other men.I have cut myself, cried hurt and done everything to prove my love to him and tht i'm not a cheap gal.After i cry and cut myself, he'd come and pamper m and say he loves me and we'd make it up.The prob is, 1 week back i had been having heart pain and i told him i wasnt feeling wel.He said maybe due to exam stress but I guess its due to all the pain been inflicted in me and tht i had all these years cried in silence.Today,when i was coming Back from college n my handphone battry went low and the phone offed

When i came back home,I called him 1st thng. He asked me why cudnt get thru my line, i explained and cried to him tht my handphone battery went low, and he didnt trust me and he said I was having an affiar with another men and i was b z FU*K*** tht i didn't have time for him.I kept tellin him I'm a virgin and i'm not d kind of gal he thinks i Am, but he said i did all tht and he's going to dump me for tht.Many times this has happened,n for fear of losinghim, i usd to call him and cry and cut myself to prove tht i'm not tht kind of girl.But today's pain and accusation on me was so Painful i'm frozen to even call and cry to him to get him back.Should I call and cry to him to come back to me?He's keeping on sms'ing me and he's even trying to call me to call me names. Once he even told me i'm a B*T*H and i deserved to be F*C*E* in the streets. I come from a good family and i dont know why is he torturing me.I dont understand why this is happening.PLease Help!

Answer 1

first of all there is such age diff. in u and ur bf dat cleaifies dat ur relationship will always trouble u as he is 41 yrs and now he has grown to middle age where many men became suspicious and feel insecure even about their wives whereas u r still his gf.
he is very insecured that is why doing all this and i can say it ur realtionship will trouble u thru out ur life if u continue wid him, and u will hav ur worst period after 8 or 10 yrs when grew older and ur at the top grown up to a gorgeous woman. so its better u shud leave him bfore its too late
i hav also noticed 1 thing about the men of this age that they became more practical and think more in terms of money rather than luv. might be he is using u or seeing some profit thru u in the future or may be he just want to hav physical relationship thats why suppresing u so that when he wud demand u shud not be in the position to deny him.
again its a sincere request u must apart from him and marry some1 of ur age group. u will realize my sayings r true in future so its better to secure it.
bye
and send me ur opinion.

Answer 2

Drop him like a hot potato!!! Which he is! To mix metaphors--he is dynamite waiting to explode. What he is doing to you is ABUSE.
Drop him! Change your phone number; if necessary move. And get counseling. Go to your school's health center and ask for help. Get to a women's shelter. You need help for the abuse he is inflictling on you and the abuse you are inflicting on yourself. Cutting does not prove a thing to him except that he has control over you. GET OUT GET OUT GET OUT.
And I don't want to hear that little whine about not having a man in your life--you can get along with out one until someone comes along who appreciates you, trusts you, and won't tie your wings back! If this bf really loved you he wouldn't be abusing you, mistrusting you; he would be helping you fulfill yourself.
God Bless You! And He will help you--you just have to take the first step!
BigSis

Answer 3

You need to go to the cops. Seriously, when he isn't there- just leave and go to the cops and tell them you're afraid for your life. (They'll hook you up with a restraining order and if he's gotten physically abusive, detain him for 24 hours so you can get your crap and Leave his ***.)
Get a tazer and stop taking his bullsh*t, because no one has the right to treat you that way.
I don't know if your very strong physically, or know how to defend yourself- and if you dont, you really need to learn. So you can beat this phsycho down if he gets rough. May I recommend kickboxing, and once again- a tazer.

Answer 4

But after all this, u still love him? And have u done anything before to make u think u were meeting another man? I'm afraid I don7t have much of an answer. Ask him y he suspects u so much of meeting someone else.

Answer 5

It implies that regularly existence sucks and also you suppose like you're in "hell" however you will have to preserve on going through "hell" then quickly, very quickly you'll be out of "hell" and existence will probably be bigger. Its only a play on phrases

Answer 6

u dnt sound like that kind of girl at all to me.
U r a good girl. I know.
Ok.
He is not worth ur tears, he should be calling you a ***** thats so mean. especially coming from ur man.
Leave him.
he is not worth your time.
good luck.
And i am so sorry.
love ya,
Nita
xoxo
ur a nice girl and there will be a lot a guys that want a girl like you. he is not worth your pecious time.forget him ,move on.

Answer 7

first of all why are you with someone 16 years older than you? you don't need a father figure for a boyfriend. sounds like you have some self-esteem issues and he is taking avantage of that.i'm concerned about the cutting.you need to get rid of him go get a restraining order against him and get some help for yourself.
GOOD LUCK!

Answer 8

u should tell him to get lost...
hes just a self-centered , overly obsessive asshole..
dont u understand grl...he doesnt even respect u..
he doesnt deserve u..
leave him...m sure u ll find some really kewl and understandin guy...

Answer 9

Just forget everything and dump him

Answer 10

all i can say is... LOL