2006-06-10 22:43:48 · 36 answers · asked by Sheila C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
They can relate to there friends more then family.
2006-06-24 22:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by Nicky C 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As a teenager myself, I found this to be an interesting question. To us, it seems obvious. We want to be with our friends 1)because they "understand us better" and by that I mean that no matter what we do, they won't lecture us, and tell us what we SHOULD be doing. We already know what we should be doing, and we don't need people to constantly be reminding us of that. 2) family (especially parents) can stop you from doing something...friends can't. And most times, it's not even bad things...it's going 100 mph on the freeway, just to see if we can, and then slowing down b/c we're scared sh**, and things like that. and finally...the last reason...3)b/c our families embarass us. they are at the point in their lives where they can be themselves, and we aren't there yet. we see that that is the reason that they are "weird" , and we hope that one day we can be strong enough to be individuals (but we will never admit that!!) but right now we aren't (b/c of hormones, etc.) and it is easier for us to be with people that are like us then to learn how to deal with individuals, and realize that one day we have to be individuals as well. Please keep in mind that I am speaking for the "majority" of teenagers, and there are major differences between all of us. I hope this helps, and good luck (I"m assuming you're a parent) with your teenager...one day we all realize that family is more important, and we all come back around. Just keep loving us, and having faith in us, and it'll all work out in the end. :-)
2006-06-24 07:20:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Teenagers start the independent socializing process. It is when they first are allowed to decide who they do and do not talk to. Unless younger and older people, they think and chatter forever about one conversation. They will go round and round with favorite phrases like: Did she mean this? What did he mean by that? Who does he think he is? Why did she do that? Do you know what she was thought about it? How could he not know that would hurt me?
In the end, they will take what they were taught and combine it with their own beliefs to create their family values. Yes, if you get in the way of the process, they will NOT ever thank you for it.
2006-06-24 11:32:11 · answer #3 · answered by T_C_FLY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because after individualism emerged as a result of liquid modernity, we see the creation of a society based upon 'until further notice' relationships. When people are forced to make difficult ethical and emotional decisions a lot of stress is caused. The consumerist society in which we live, and with the body now more free, we are set up with constant desires which can never be satisfied. To put it simply, we get bored with our families and other relationships, just as a child would get bored with a new toy.
2006-06-10 22:52:25 · answer #4 · answered by junk_mail_100 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teenagers have so much goin on in their lives...
they have so much to say, so much to do and so much to discuss.....and they like to do all that with someone who can look at things the way they do...
Parents always say "we have been thru this...we know how it is".....but that is just not good enough!!
sometimes u just need to let go.....at some point of time, they will definitely realise that u were right......
And since kids spend all their time at home wid their family, they are far more excited abt meeting their friends....
itz like....u never realise the value of sumthing when till u lose it....
2006-06-10 23:00:34 · answer #5 · answered by Jean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just a phase in life but after a while you will have to go back to where you came from. Friends are important in molding ones character and for an individual to know his place under the sun. So if you feel that way towards others or to your son or daughter if you will, don't sulk it is just a phase.
2006-06-10 22:48:50 · answer #6 · answered by Jetty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because sometimes their families can't identify with the Teenager angst that inevitably starts out of the blue when they hit 13.
It's a defense mechanism that we all go thru.
2006-06-10 22:48:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because their friends are the same age with them, so there is no sassing or misbehaving with an aldult. Their friends usually have things that are in common and they care about each other. Go shopping together. If you go shopping with your parents, their styles usually old and....poor. If you have a crush, you're friend can push you to him and try to make him notice you. In that situation and instead of friends and it's your parents, they are gonna be like, " you should care more about education than boys" They don't care about who we care or love. And when you tell a secret to your parent, they are going to tell their husband or wife, they can't keep a secret between each other. But your friend can keep your secret safetly.
2006-06-24 10:48:22 · answer #8 · answered by DBSK LOVER! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family and friends are two different things i have a 121\2 yr old girl and she always spends time with her friends they are different than us parents. They seem to feel like we are dinosaurs when it comes to having talks and chats. Dont worry as long as you think theyre not doing anything bad give them there space.
2006-06-24 13:31:10 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teenagers spend more time with their friends than their family because he/she don't want to get embarrassed of them. So they spend more time with their friends because they're his/her age and he/she knows they won't embarrass him/her.
2006-06-24 12:40:46 · answer #10 · answered by Lola 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋