We had a major fight a few months back, and she asked for a divorce. But yesterday I had a talk with her father that I would like to have her back, and today she called saying that she wants to discuss the whole matter. Now I dont know what she has in mind or what she wantes to tell me, but I want to let her know that I still love her and would love to have her back. She always wanted to have a car but we didnt have the cash, and I just found a good second hand car for sale with a good price. Would that be a good gift to surprise her with? Or do you guys recommend something better or maybe more sentimental? Any help is appreciated, thanks!
2006-06-10 22:34:01 · 10 answers · asked by Zwerg 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know how you feel.....you will do anything. The old saying money can't buy you love is absolutely true. If you need to buy her something to win her love back you are headed for disappointment. My marriage was falling apart and I tried to buy my wife happy and it simply did not work. I got her a mother's ring and black hills gold bracelet for mother's day, a new Jeep Liberty, Flowers, constantly cleaned the house, and every other thing I could think of. After all that I am here alone typing at 4am to try and kill the pain. If you did something wrong sincerely apologize and make a commitment to her (and yourself) to better meet her needs. If she loves you she will accept you with or without a car. Love based on material things is not healthy and will not last. I suggest you show up with a single rose and an honest heart.
2006-06-10 22:49:58 · answer #1 · answered by Scott B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not buy her anything or talk about the car. Talk to her and find out what the issues are and if she is willing to work things out. Would you really want someone to get back together with you because of a car? That is not love to me.
My wife told me that he was leaving me about work related issues 3 months ago. But I know there was something else at play. Actually she was making up many bs reasons of why she was leaving and I know they were not true.
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Good luck to you.
2006-06-11 07:30:03 · answer #2 · answered by dean_moriarty00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be real. Listen to her. Take her some flowers. Not from the grocery store, from a flower shop. Don't promise a car. Iron out your issues because THINGS don't cure problems, they just delay them. Get some counseling. Major issues have deeper roots than the lack of a car. Take it slow.
Good luck
2006-06-11 06:03:17 · answer #3 · answered by BP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if the reason of fight was the car & since you dont have th emoney at that time then still no because in the future she might resort to such tactic just to get what she wants. but if not then i suggest just something special netter yet give her some victoria's secret that way she would immediately know what you want(not just the sex but her as a person) & want her bad, the car can wait...be imaginative.
2006-06-11 05:41:25 · answer #4 · answered by Dave B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something not too expensive such as flowers would be perfect. The situation isnt really resolved and until it is, Id save the lavish gifts for another occasion.
2006-06-11 10:34:21 · answer #5 · answered by opal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HON, You shouldn`t try to BUY her love..
You have ISSUES to deal with.. You need to talk and talk and talk and talk and work out a plan that makes you BOTH happy..
The answer is NOT to buy her stuff.
Find out what really went wrong... Gifts are not the answer..
Good luck and God bless. hugs from Texas.. {:-)
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2006-06-11 05:40:32 · answer #6 · answered by jaantoo1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to buy her a car because you had a fight and have been separated and want her back? If you do that she's going to realize you are trying to buy her love. Don't buy her anything! She wants to talk to you, she does not want you to buy her love.
2006-06-11 08:19:10 · answer #7 · answered by Lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't buy her anything. She wants to talk. Just listen to what she has to say. Make sure you discuss your feelings as well. Don't just sit there and shrug your shoulders. Be honest and if you don't agrre with everything she has to say, tell her.
2006-06-11 06:14:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flowers and a nice Tiffany's bracelet.
2006-06-11 05:51:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would start off with flowers
2006-06-11 07:26:48 · answer #10 · answered by JULIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋