I have a good reason to be jealous because my ex-husband (he left me 6 months ago) has a girlfriend. It absolutely kills me to think of it and I'm not sure I can go on. How do I get past this? Anyone been in the same situation? I don't want to hear anything about her. Is this good or bad?
2006-06-10 21:53:45 · 8 answers · asked by Lotte T 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can definatly feel for you. I am hurting terribly right now due to my wife who I have been with for 11 years wanting a seperation. I went to my parent's house a week ago to give her some space. I recieved an embarrasing call from co-workers saying they seen another man dropping my wife off at our home. Of course she said he was just a friend and that she did not tell me because I would get jealous. I was jealous and filled with suspicion and rage. What other reaction should I have?? It sounds like you are having a hard time letting go....I am in the same boat. The thoughts of the person you love commiting acts that you felt were sacred between the two of you with another lover are unbearable. Mix that with the hurt of being left and it is the ultimate recipie for pain. It is that pain along with the fears for my 4 year old daughter that has me here typing at 3:02 in the morning. I simply can't sleep and it helps me to try and help others. Please know that you are NOT ALONE, at this very moment there are probably thousands of people who feel just as you do right now, me included. So before I close my teary eyes tonight I will think a thought of you.
2006-06-10 22:06:16 · answer #1 · answered by Scott B 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Totally understandable honey. U feel jealous because u keep comparing urself with her. And u wonder" what's that damn ***** got that i dont!" right? Well put it behind u, from today you are beginning a new life! Sweep the trash (ur ex and his gal) behind u,throw it in the garbage. And start taking care of urself! U have to distract urself hon. Start working out,search within urself for hidden talents,create a totally new life for urself! If u need help or just need someone to talk to, u can email me anytime. U'll get through this! One day u'll look back at all this and laugh!:)
2006-06-10 22:01:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are more hurt or angry than jealous. Sometimes if you can go out with your girlfriends shopping, lunch, movies etc it will help.
Once I got angry because I was abandoned, I began to heal, but in the beginning I made excuses for his behavior and even blamed myself, ie where did I go wrong.
Yes you must go on, don't let this get the best of you, stay strong, get an attorney...............be a winner! There are other gentlemen worthy of you. Time heals..........you can do it.
2006-06-10 22:02:24 · answer #3 · answered by rosesbloom7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I'm sorry you had to go through this. The only thing that can repair this pain is time. Time and the thought that if you stay upset then you are allowing him power over you and that isn't fair to you. I've been in that same situation I made sure I told myself that he doesn't deserve to have that much power over me and it helped ease the pain little by little day by day.... I know it may not seem helpful but it helped me.
2006-06-10 22:04:04 · answer #4 · answered by Kelé 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say lose some weight and get a makeover so you look better. Then you might be able to get another guy and stop being jealous.
2006-06-11 00:05:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
jeolousy is a rough thing. you are better off without him
and i know it is hard but you'll find a good man
jeoulousy and insecurity go hand in hand. i think you should pray, hang out with friends. i know when i hang out with my friends im not so depressed. feel good about yourself
2006-06-10 22:07:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He left you, so there's not reason to be jealous anymore.
He is happy now, so should you.
2006-06-10 22:27:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get yourself a man and see how you feel after words
go on a drunk
find a hobby
or keep single and see what happens later on and what is in your heart
2006-06-10 22:00:35 · answer #8 · answered by swash1992 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋