i was engaged to the father of my 3 children and while pregnant w/ the 3rd he left me and got w/ a girl i thought he may have been cheating on me w/ i stood by him 4 almost 2 yrs while he was in jail and he is out 4 a couple mnths b4 we move in after being engaged and he cant stand by me for even 1/2 of a year. i thought what we had was real. the 1st time he got me pregnant on purpose and know he hasnt even seen r twin boys and has nver seen the new baby. i just dont understand how it all fell apart how someone could hurt me so bad when all i did was love them has anyone else been thru something similar i needadvuce on how 2 truly move on on the surface i tell myself i have but honestly it still hurts alot sometimes i just breakdown and cry
2006-06-10 20:47:55 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hmmm.. It'll take some time. Indulge in other things.. get bz. TRy not to think about the past.. you hafta move on..
P.S : sows.. i cudnt b bothered to read your sob-story.
2006-06-10 20:51:06 · answer #1 · answered by Electrifying! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It can take a long time it is like someone dying. It takes TIME for things to heal and you may still have feelings for him and that is understandable but you need to get yourself to the point where you make the conscious decision to not love him anymore but to just "deal" with him in a respectable manor because of the kids. He really isn't the guy for you and I am pretty sure you know this by now. When you do need to just break down and cry that is alright don't put yourself down for it, it's natural and a good cry never hurt anyone. Once you can get to the point of cutting "ties" to him you can free yourself. (If you have to have a little get together with your friends and burn some of the gifts he has given you.) If you can get rid of them and keep pictures of him out of sight it will really help. I did that and it liberated me.
2006-06-10 20:59:27 · answer #2 · answered by pinkmonkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl just think about the wonderful baby's that you got out of the deal and keep your head up. no one heals completely for love but you have to think what does not kill you makes you stronger. I have two baby's and a relationship for 10 years so if you want some thing get girl , tell that man what you want and need!
2006-06-10 21:02:33 · answer #3 · answered by cocobean 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for you, but in the long run you will be much better off without this loser! Get on with your life, find a good new guy! Time will help heal the hurt. Oh and BTW go to court and get child support, don't let that dog off the hook!
2006-06-10 20:53:27 · answer #4 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you got twins too! mine are almost a year this weekend. i would talk to you in an instant message but i am at work and they have blocked that program. Yet i can contact you on my home's computer if you want send me an email sometime i prolly can help you out. No, imma not looking for anything im Happily married.
2006-06-10 20:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by The Whopper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl ive been through the same thing my wife left me for a 60yr a bmw and a crack pipe time heals a broken heart and occupying your heart and mind i still break down and cry over my ex beacause all i did was love her unconditionally and she broke my heart just always remember to hold your head up and keep going if not for yourself but do it for those babies they will always need you momma when it hurts so bad you cant stand it look up
2006-06-10 21:14:56 · answer #6 · answered by bigredneckfromtx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as you start hangin out with someone new, you'll feel better and will think about your ex, a whole lot less. gL
K, just went back and read most of what you wrote... The first time through, I just read the first setence.... My advice now is... Even if you find a guy and you know that he isn't mr. right, it will be okay. I think right now for you, any halfway decent guy will suffice, just to get you out of your rut and to stop you from thinkin about dude.
And you got kids involved, ouch... D to the R, to the A-M-A sry.... um, Idk then... dramody central on your end, huh? But, cryin ain't gonna help. Sounds like he isn't cryin over you. Like I said, Idk... I feel bad for ya, tho. gL...
2006-06-10 21:02:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its soo sad!! i hav nvr gone thru dis kind f pain ,bt ya, mi heart has also been brokn!! so i undrstnd ur problem. i dont thnk, u can evr get ovr dis. men donot hav d capacity 2 luv as women. dats y dey donot gt the greatst gift 2mankind by god, that s 2 giv birth. pray 2 god mam, pray for ur luv and children and jst wish dat no1 has 2 go thru d pain f a brokn relationship. thnk f d gud times u spent and always smile. liv lif as it cums. may god bless u mam!!
2006-06-10 21:01:53 · answer #8 · answered by cutegurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it never really heals, you will always have the scars to remind you, and every now and then, those scars will rip open and expose the wound all over again, its a never ending pain, but if it really hurts all that much, then the relationship was worth it
2006-06-10 20:50:40 · answer #9 · answered by zombie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOME TIMES IT TAKES A LONG TIME TO HEAL , AND SOME TIMES IT NEVER WILL . I KNOW IT HURTS US . BUT IT HURTS THE KIDS MORE .
2006-06-10 20:56:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋