my hus is a womenizer.he is having much interest in seeing girls&good looking women . i cant tollerate his behaviour.how could i over come from this problem?how can i satisfy him?but he is promising me that he was not like that kind of man.but iam closely watching his activities.he want to go out &want tosee someanother girl.if i control this he is behaving like a animal.what can i do for it?
2006-06-10 19:43:01 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Other - Arts & Humanities
If he has a problem and will not deal with it, then you can do nothing to help.
Sit him down. Tell him how you feel. Tell him the activities that he does that you see. Tell him to go to counseling with you. If all you do is get lip service and no action, then you have already lost the battle.
The key to any relationship is honest communication. If he cannot be honest with you then the relationship is doomed. Either you can work this out with him (getting professional help if necessary) or you can start the separation process.
2006-06-11 15:06:37 · answer #1 · answered by Richard 7 · 61⤊ 1⤋
Do you want to stay married? If so, why? These are not judgement questions. They are for you to answer.
How can you satisfy him? Sweetie, dont even try.
The good news is that he is promising you he was not like that kind of man.(even tho we all know that is a lie) That still tells me he wants to preserve whatever he has with you.
Dont play games or give ultimatums (which unfortunately I dont think you would anyway) but dont tolerate his behaviour. That you know all about him, that he (lies anyway to you) but does tell you he wasnt that kind of man, you can start there.
If YOU want.
He can shape up or one of you can go back to mom and start again one day with someone else.
You are giving him all the control right now. Stop, take back control of your life.
It is very hard on a woman to be treated this way. It makes you think you arent attractive, sexy, interesting, feminine. It gives you an unseen and undeserved rival. (which really is what HE fostered not HER). It undermines your foundation and if you put your worth into him it can make you feel worthless.
Its hard to say in an answer on Yahoo! This is your life. Dont give him all the control hes got over you.
It boils down to do you want to live with this or not? You may think so. But I'm sure you'd find that drawing on your own inner strength would make you stronger and strong enough to leave a draining situation.
But here...1.he's probably enjoying that he's the center of attention between you and the others...so dont give him satisfaction there.
2.I'd be repulsed if my wandering husband wanted to touch me. That HE turns YOU off might be a big surprise to him!
I'm afraid the "behaving like an animal" part is most concerning. Did you mean he is an animal sexually with you if there isnt another woman or did you mean he is an animal as in mean and angry if you stop him? Neither one is safe.
He needs to control.
I dont know what your beliefs are. Personally, my husband already knew I would never tolerate infidelity. Once opens the door to again. The same with violence, being hit or slapped.
You need support of someone you can trust to talk to.
But, I'd dump him. I had that kind of husband once. He dumped me. What a waste of my time!
My prayers are with you. You can email me just to get it out if you want. I'll listen and only answer if you ask.
2006-06-10 20:56:55 · answer #2 · answered by baghmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should do nothing he is not trying to make you happy,it takes 2 people to make it not 1.why are you still with him?you don't have to live like that nor should you.what that one person said about giving him all your attention well that's just bull,as i said it takes 2.you must be Indian or one of those other countries.if you are i feel sorry for you as those men are pigs,they get on the net and bother women about sex and they get perverted.they do that but they want their wife to be pure and obedient.and thats bull
2006-06-10 20:04:44 · answer #3 · answered by greeneyes634970 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change his behavior only he can. You can try counseling but he has to be serious about it also . It doesn't work if only 1/2 of a couple is trying.
Other than that try to find what makes you happy..
2006-06-17 15:40:12 · answer #4 · answered by jabbertalky62 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your role in this relationship is more like a mother than a wife.
He isn't taking care of your needs, but you're taking care of his.
You are sad & alone.
Go to your place of worship & ask them for help.
2006-06-11 20:21:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a big issue for a wife.I feel Ur prob.Go for a mental doctor he need counseling.love him very much.give attention to him with Ur full efforts.Good Luck.
2006-06-10 19:52:12 · answer #6 · answered by Diya Sen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire a studmuffien guy to mow your lawn.
2006-06-16 07:56:38 · answer #7 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no idea
2006-06-10 19:50:53 · answer #8 · answered by skf s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no idea
2006-06-10 19:47:07 · answer #9 · answered by asoka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋