Example, everyone's down an Angelina Jolie but she's not the one who vowed to "love, honor and cherish; forsaking all others." Ol' Brad the one who broke his marriage promise. Not Jolie. If Angie came on to him, it's his responsibility to say 'no." But he didn't. He's the home wrecker. Why aren't more people giving him crap?
2006-06-10 18:47:12 · 13 answers · asked by anonymous 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A) I'm not a home wrecker (although my home is a wreck.)
B) Why is everyone assuming Angelina come on to Brad? That's a pretty bold assumption. Most men are the initiators. He may have made the first move.
2006-06-10 19:13:21 · update #1
Women feel threatened. Especially women in relationships--they're scared that their men will be preyed on. Its easier to blame the other woman as being a predator than to think of your own man as a potential homewrecker. Also weird how women will be judgemental of their own girlfriends if any of them are involved with married men.
And you're right, I think blaming Angelina is really unfair.
2006-06-10 18:56:26 · answer #1 · answered by shukuken 6 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I didn't realize people were giving her crap.
Women often get angry at women for "stealing" their men, because they think if the sisterhood of women, that kind of behavior is unacceptable. I mean Jen Aniston was very publically married to him, for what 1 or 2 years - still the tenuous beginnings - it's not like Angie didn't know he was married. Then he spends extended periods of time with Angie on the movie. She could have said - you dog no way. In fact many women who fall for a man who cheated on his 1st wife for them, become the 2nd wife who is left for another woman.
Certainly he is at fault - I agree with you that he is the homewrecker. He had no business getting involved with another woman, especially that way, so early in their marriage - but as actors, I imagine it is sometimes hard to seperate on screen roles with real life feelings.
The whole thing just makes me like Jennifer all the more (same with Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise) I think she has handled a very public devastation with class and dignity.
2006-06-11 01:55:44 · answer #2 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good point. They are equally to blame I think. He made the vows and should not have been engaging in another relationship with another woman. However Jolie could have just as well said after you are separated or divorced. It goes both ways.
2006-06-11 02:25:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exactly. They're most likely jealous of the "other woman", thinking... "What does she have, that I don't". The MAN is the true enemy here... He's the one who's in the relationship, and most likely, the other woman probably didn't even know about it. They get mad at the other woman, and the guy blames it on the other woman... and then the girl gets back with the guy, and history repeats itself all over again. I've had friends who CONSTANTLY fell for their BF's BS.
2006-06-11 01:50:18 · answer #4 · answered by Psychology 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that the brunt of the anger should fall on the married man.
However, there are a lot of women out there with low-self esteem who don't respect themselves enough to pursue an available man. These type of women seem to prey on married men which contributes to the problem. Then they wonder why they are alone and miserable and asking stupid questions like, "Will he leave his wife?" on Yahoo Answers.
2006-06-11 02:05:13 · answer #5 · answered by Janeen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you to a degree. The only problem is when the "other woman" knows the man is married and either pursues, or allows him to come on to her. But basically you are right, it's the responsibility of the married person to say no.
2006-06-11 01:54:48 · answer #6 · answered by SweetSatinDoll47 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It makes things easier for the wives to accept if you think that the other woman "seduced" your husband and he was just an innocent victim. Not that the other woman has no responsibility for her actions but when it all comes down to it HE is the one with the responsibility to say NO. You know the old saying "you can lead a horse to water......"!
2006-06-11 02:16:24 · answer #7 · answered by Alicia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation, at least it was for me. I found my husband talking to a girl in the way that he should be only talking to me online and the cell phone while I was pregnant with our twins. I had found his profiles and emailed the girl. Since I wasn't getting a straight answer from him, I asked her and put it as nice as I could. He never mentioned that he was married or was about to have babies.
2006-06-11 02:31:02 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True. But, as a woman, I couldn't see myself going after someone who was married. Yeah... he's a selfish bastard for what he did. But, she knew he was married. I think there is something morally wrong about that. I do hope Brad Pitts penis falls off though.
2006-06-11 01:54:17 · answer #9 · answered by *karasi* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are a homewrecker too...anyways, i agree with you. but you know how women are. we always go for the other woman instead of the man.
i feel like this, if my man is cheating, i'm going after my man, but if he is cheating and the girl knew about me (or happens to be my friend) then i'm going after both of them...now if the girl knew about me and wasn't my friend, then i would probably cut her some slack cuz she doesn't owe me anything and no telling what he is telling her but if he is my friend, then both of them are getting an asss whooping.
2006-06-11 01:55:51 · answer #10 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋