i really need to know,,how to say no to use drugs and free sex???

Question

in this day,as a teenager drugs and free lifestyle are not the silly thing again,,but i don't wanna stuck inside that things...would you help me how to be strongger to say no????

Answer 1

Free sex? You mean any sex other than prostitution? Why say no to that? Perhaps you mean 'promiscuous sex'.

The most important thing to do is, if people try to persuade you to use drugs or engage in promiscuous sex, recognise that those people are not your friends, but are your enemies; do not trust them, think well of them, or be emotionally attached to them. Maintain that state of mind, and your difficulty will vanish, because it gets to the root of the problem.

Also, whatever you do, do not talk about your problems to school authorities, or ESPECIALLY your parents, or to church officials or a made-up god for that matter. Why not? -because doing so does not solve problems; it's just emotional venting; only logic and direct force (such as by police) solve problems, and I have already provided you with the logical solution that you had not discovered by yourself. Also, to tell them would be to serve injustice; people should serve justice. The reason that parents, especially religious ones, want their children to tell them about their problems, and about their lives in general (I only tell you this because of the large response below), is because they enjoy the crude blind pleasure of disrupting the fine clear truth. Specificly, they disrupt the truth with the false belief that parents and/or a god are the solution to all problems. Why is there such a strong overlap between theocratic ideology and omniscient-parent ideology? Well, the made-up god is called the heavenly FATHER, right? Such people enjoy disrupting the 2 fundamental logical truths of existence, which are 1. The worthiness of an entity in one respect does not determine it's worthiness in a different respect, and 2. All entities are separate and distinct. The parent-fanatics that disrupt both truths disrupt the second truth by believing that you are mixed with them, and disrupt the first truth by believing that they are superior to you simply because they are your parents, regardless of your actual character. Likewise, theist fanatics disrupt the second truth by believing that a god is mixed with everything and all-seeing, and they disrupt the first truth by believing that if goodness and problem-solving don't come from the god, then they must be worthless, regardless of their intrinsic value.

...Congratulations, you now know some of the most important and fundamental truths (if you accept them, that is). So, the religious fanatic posted fundamental lies, and the consequence was that fundamental truths which very few people know were in turn given to the recipient of the lies, so as to expose the lies. That consequence should always exist. Comprehension is irreversible, whereas lies are not.

Answer 2

Just say no. if that doesnt work, picture yourself pregnant or dying of an Overdose. Here is a really good way to solve this problem. get a pen and paper and a newspaper.

First, think about how your obituary would read and write it. Your parents can use it when you die from an over-dose. You can read the obits to get some ideas.

Second. Imagine your pregnant and your going to tell your parents. Write down how you would tell them and think about how they would react. Then write down how you plan life from that moment on. Career, home, food, bills. Where would you live? How much can you earn? How much will your bills be. Get your newspaper out and start looking for apartments, look at cost and location. You will need to be able to walk to work if you don't have a car. Or ride a bike. If you think you can afford to live on your own and raise a child with your income and education, then say yes and live the free lifestyle. If it scares the hell out of you, then just say no.

Answer 3

Look at yourself in the mirror and picture yourself looking all strung out on drugs, or pregnant, or having STDs. Really visualize what that would be like. Get a real good mental image of it. Also ask yourself, if you were to engage in this lifestyle, "Where do I see myself in 10 years hooked on this lifestyle?" Tell yourself everyday that you have more respect for yourself than to let someone else define you. LIVE ABOVE THE INFLUENCE. You owe it to yourself to.....Good luck...

Answer 4

The wording of your question is difficult for me to understand, so I may not have picked up on all of your intended meaning ... but I'm sure that I 'get' enough to make some Very Good suggestions. I'm taking the liberty of 'assigning' you some 'homework' that I've read myself, & Benefitted Greatly from:

HELPING TEENS IN TROUBLE :
... Youths in Crisis
...... The Pressures Facing Today's Youths
......... Help for Todays Youths
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2005/4/8/article_01.htm
[This demostrates how well the writers of all these articles understand your problems.]

How to Make Real Friends :
... We All Need Friends
...... Satisfying Our Hunger for Friendship
......... Good Friends - Bad Friends
............ A Note to Parents
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2004/12/8/article_01.htm
[This set is pretty self-explanatory, & teaches you what you need to know to make your life better.]

How We Learn to Love :
... Love Is Indispensable
...... How to Develop Genuine Love
......... The Noblest Kind of Love
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2003/7/1/article_01.htm
[Did you know that there are several kinds of love? This series explains the kind of love that you need to learn to have. Also, how anyone can learn to have it. You obviously don't have it for the 2 most important persons in your life.]

What's Wrong With Binge Drinking? -- Young People Ask
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2004/9/22a/article_01.htm
[Gives excellent answers to the question that is its title!]

CHILDREN - Are They Growing Up Too Fast?
When Childhood Is:
... Lost
...... Rushed
......... Cherished
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2003/4/22/article_01.htm
[Accurate descriptions of what children are going through -- & what CAN be done about it -- even in this day & age.]

Youths--Let Your Parents Help You Guard Your Heart! :
... Why Obey Your Parents?
...... Attraction to the Opposite Sex
......... The Persuasive Power of Your Peers
........... Worthy of Honor http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2004/10/15/article_01.htm
[This explains what a Benefit concerned, loving parents-or- guardians can be to you ... iIF you'll 'let' them. It helps you to understand them, as well as yourself -- and makes suggestions how to handle the problem of peer-pressure.]

If you have any more questions -- or if you'd like to comment on your 'homework' -- I'd like to hear from you.
Or, you are welcome to visit the index or search engine on ...

Answer 5

when you are at a party or off with your friends just chillin and some one asks you to do drugs and drink just simply say no thats not my thing most people will respect that you arent into drugs or drinking and some people wont! You just gotta learn not to give in to peer pressure!

Answer 6

Find a new group of friends that aren't into that kind of thing. You'll end up happier in the long run,

Answer 7

ummm lets see if believe you act like you have a brain open your mouth make a funny sound in your throat and say N O

Answer 8

just dont be an effing whore. its that easy.. Kids these days, so nieve. Keep your panties on. That is the besst thing for you to do.

Answer 9

Just say no and don't hang out with those who do.

Answer 10

wish i could... ive never been able to say no to either one good luck