I recently found out my soon to be husband is sending nude pics of himself to women..pissed..should i be??

Question

We live together and he says it was an internet game. I'm thinking run as fast and as far as I can. Should I believe him? He has never done anything to make me worry but now I know theres a lot that I don't know. Or do I??

Answer 1

He has just violated your trust and what true love is which is this..Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
If he isn't protecting the sanctity of your future monogamy and is self seeking he isn't loving! Drop him like a bad habit!

Answer 2

If you can, wait one more year and talk this out. Many men are show offs at a harmless level ( even when they get old and fat they'll lounge about in their drawers....) and also have a strang fantasy mind.
The internet seems safe because of the distancing of the wires but tends to be overly concentrated stimulation for the visual male.
You'll need to find out if he is seeking contact with these women or just filling a need that hasn't been expressed to you. (possably he already has and you rebuffed it)
I have done the internet flirt as has my lady and no big suprise- NEITHER of us liked it when the other did it...
We have concluded that there is a thrill there that fades at home and noticed that our fears were that each would do what ourselves felt we would, given enough temptation.
This means you both need to examine yourselves together. There are lots you don't know yet.
I would recomend a marriage course. this behaviour might go away, get worse or be a part of you as well as a couple. (he would likely ask you anyway if he plans NOT to meet these other ladies)

Answer 3

Well that could be a big problem. It sounds like it's a lie as far as it being an Internet game, and even if it were true, it's kinda strange that he would send nude pics of himself to anyone. If I were you, I would honestly slow things down with him. You mentioned he is your soon to be husband, I hope it's not too soon. Also, remember this, sometimes people show us who they really are, and because we are blinded by love, we tend to over look a lot of those red flags. Open your eyes to the facts and don't make a commitment until and unless you absolutely feel comfortable

Answer 4

You are so very fortunate to catch him cheating before you committed to marriage. Take this as an opportunity to learn and move on. I realize that it is easy for me to say that, and I know it can be hard, but honestly, I think you would be doing yourself a huge favor by leaving and that you will be glad you did when you are older. Be warned that he will do everything he can to persuade you to stay but don't let him sweet-talk you into making a mistake. You have the right to be in a faithful marriage and the right to leave him. This is one thing that does not warrant forgiveness or second chances. If you felt inclined to look over all my answers on this subject you will see that I always say that "Once a cheater, always a cheater."

Answer 5

Pissed is putting it mildly. He has crossed the lines. He is revealing his most intimate feelings and thoughts with strangers. What was he hoping to accomplish with those pics? What message was he sending? Evidently, if he was willing to pose nude for other women, he was willing to sleep with them also. He probably did most of his dirt while you were in the house. Chances are he thought he could get by with it. Sweetie, run as fast as you can. Don't look back. Good Luck!!

Answer 6

My ex-husband had an online porn problem... NO joke...
Found thousands of files... which he wouldn't delete...
Then a few months passed and I caught him participating in a CHAT porn (where guys log-on and tell the girl what to do LIVE).
I found this out because I found the charge on his personal credit card... called up the number and they GAVE ME his personal information (great security).
Sure enough... It was HIM... I asked him for his password so that I can log on and find out what it's all about and he was using MY NICKNAME as his log-on name...
(It doesn't end here) A few years later, I find out he has a personal ad out on a skanky "meet to have sex" website (not innocent like Match.com) and I finally divorced him...
The way I found this out was, one day he forwarded me a joke from an unfamiliary email address... so I took it and conducted a google search... and his AD came up....
Same town, same occupation.... I mean the moron had ALL his true information EXCEPT for his AGE (2 years younger...LOL!)

So through this experiance... I say RUN girl RUUUUUUUUUUUN!!!

Answer 7

Well, it sounds like he's into having fun be it a game or solicitation over the internet. Either way I would run as fast as you can. If you cannot trust him then really what have you got? But it's your life and your decision. I wish you happiness and the best!

Answer 8

Normal mentally healthy people do not do this.
Your fiancee is an exhibitionist and he receives gratification by doing this.
If he is doing this now,it WILL NOT get better and with time it will get worse but the question is....How worse will it get?
This person needs some professional help.
If he thinks this is OK,ask him 2 questions......
1. Would he be willing to tell his parents he is doing this?
2. Would he do it if Jesus was standing there watching?

If he answers NO to either question then he knows he is wrong and YOU do too.

Pack your ^#&^* and git. You deserve better.

Answer 9

I think that you need to be concerned about his behavior but not pissed. If he is sending nude pics to women, he has some issues that may cause a problem in a marriage.

Answer 10

This is NOT a game, it is in my opinion very disrespectful toward you and dishonest and undermines any trust that you had in him. Plus I feel as if he plays this off and acts as if it is not a big deal then there is either some defensive behavior going on OR he is simply not ready to commit. I am agreeing with you, RUN!! Good luck, hon...

Answer 11

Take it from me, call off the wedding. Been there, done that. If he is doing that post-wedding, he'll be doing it afterwards. There is such a thing as porn-addiction (sex addiction). Take it seriously. First it is pictures, then meeting, then sex.........then a divorce. Get out now! Do we ever really know anyone? This is first hand advice. I'm sorry.