I've been dating women without kids and I'm ready to try the other side. My kids are great. Your kids are great. They are our first priority. But maybe we would have a great time. Would that be enough if that was all you got, plus you kept the freedom to do what you needed to do and you didn't have to do anything for me?
2006-06-10 17:05:25 · 7 answers · asked by ? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I really want to know what you think. I don't have anything in mind. I'd like to better understand you so that we can communicate better.
2006-06-10 17:20:27 · update #1
Well darling, while I always love to have a good time I must say my children come first. And I must say that I admire that fact that your children are very important to you too. Since our relationship is just starting out, I think it is best that we don't meet each other's kids. At least not just yet. That way, if it doesn't work out, (or I find you to be particularly creepy...vice versa), it alleviates the need for any explanations or awkward situations for either us or our children.
In the beginning, I need you to take it slow but not too slow. If you have a question or concern, don't be afraid to ask me, and I will be honest and upfront about my desires. Don't try to give me any illusions about who you are because I know about the man behind the curtain. And try not to be too controlling. I am in no hurry to jump into a strong, possessive and legally binding relationship. If that was what I wanted, I would have stayed with my Ex. I want to have fun, but I also want you to be a gentleman and treat me like a lady. Let's keep it light the first few dates, and if things go well, then we can gradually begin to include the kids. After that we can talk about expectations. For now, mutual respect is good enough for me...
2006-06-10 17:22:09 · answer #1 · answered by ms_diva_dee 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the single mom. A single mom who is strong in faith and totally committed to her child/children is usually in a relationship for a sense of family. She is a good mother and knows that she would be a good wife also.
She puts her childrens needs first and needs to know that the man is committed to the relationship and not just going to be in and out of her child's life.
Sorry, most want the whole thing...........the knight riding up on the white horse and the happily ever after in the castle, with a ring, and a family that is committed to each other. She isn't looking for a prince to ride up and say......let's just have a great time together but keep our freedom to do what we need to do.
2006-06-11 06:23:52 · answer #2 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a single mother. I would not "date" someone just for a good time. I am a package deal, and I believe in marriage and families. However, I would definitely be friends with someone who wanted to just hang out. Dating includes a move towards intimacy, and without commitment and a future to look forward to, intimacy cannot exist honestly.
2006-06-11 00:08:30 · answer #3 · answered by Lara N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a single mom needs support from a man to help with the kids expense
2006-06-11 00:09:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me a single women with kids, to better understand me is that I need to take my time. I came out of a bitter marriage with emotional abuse from him to me, physical abuse from him to my youngest son!
Because of this I am more careful! Your question is Little bit confusing!
2006-06-11 10:44:34 · answer #5 · answered by poetrymylover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Single moms want to feel like the sexy vibrant temptress who screams while making love while our man shouts in passion "Who's your Daddy!"
2006-06-11 00:10:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom is 42 hott and single
2006-06-11 00:20:46 · answer #7 · answered by wizzy!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋