I have a very low self-esteem?

Question

Im a 21 year old college student and i have an extremely low-self esteem and even though some people think im cute, I still feel im really ugly.. How can I change this?

Answer 1

well honstly, if you think your ugly how can anyone else prove you wrong, you have to believe in yourself before you can truly ever be happy, so love yourself, and everyone else will fallow, teehee

Answer 2

well.. first off all.. you are a 21 yr old college student.. right there.. you have made some major accomplishments.. that is a self esteem builder. a lot of people will never get that far... next... you are asking for assistance... and there are a lot of people that dont have the courage..ability or desire..to get out of their mind set... so that again is an esteem builder. ugly is what ugly does... i have seen people that are considered drop dead gorgeous and are ugly as hell once they open their mouths and show who they really are. who dictates ugly.. ? what i consider unattractive..some one else is head over heels . so lets face it... you are not ugly,...and you are wasting time and energy worrying about this. now there are ways... to make some improvements..if you have a preference in the way you want to look. hair cuts... dye..style... new wardrobe... skin cleansers.. conditioners.. contacts.. whole bunch of stuff. take care.. study hard.. and stop sweating the small stuff.

Answer 3

Hey. I'm 15 and as long as i remember I've always had low self esteem, until this day. I checked out this website: facetheissue.com and i think it really helps. Check out the animation about self esteem narrated by Jlo (who has or had low self esteem) It has information on how to overcome this. There will never be a time where low self esteem isn't existent but we could probably decrease the intensity.. Good luck! :)

Answer 4

I understand how you feel cause I have very low self-esteem on a normal basis also. No matter how many people tell me I am beautiful, there's still something inside me telling me they are wrong. The only way I have been able to deal with this is by trying to have a positive outlook on myself and my life and to think of all of the things I have accomplished. I know how hard it is to have low self-esteem so I hope this helps you!

Answer 5

I looked at your other questions ... they give clues to the source of your low self-esteem. First, don't be so hard on yourself. If you don't get along with your mom and if your dad isn't helping too much, you are in an uphill battle. You need what your parents aren't giving you. That is all. My oldest daughter is 18 and doesn't do well with her mom. I try so hard to give her as much as I can because she needs soooo much emotional support. She grew up in a divorced home from age 12. That is tough on a girl's self-esteem. It isn't you that isn't worthy. You are beautiful. You are special. It isn't your fault that your parents don't give you all you need. God created you to be beautiful. Your whole life is ahead of you. Just walk in that direction and have faith that things will get better.

You will eventually discover who you are if you can keep walking in the right direction. Don't feel sorry for yourself. The only person who can really make you happy is that lovely girl in the mirror.

Answer 6

This feeling is very normal, when you are a kid and hit puberty girls go through an emotional roller coaster gain weight and get very moody.....At age 20 ro 22 (you are 21) you are going in your life through the transition of a different change (from a teen to an adult) More life pressures are in the game, you measure your self with corporate gurus, magazine model and all that is perceived as success..... Weather you have a collage education or not....... just try to do the best you can with what ever you have available ....family...friends....kids.....do the best you can that is all we can do as people and that is good enough for GOD so it should be good enough for all of us here on earth....smile

Answer 7

Your character is made up of all the things life has taken you through so far. Someone should have instilled your beauty in you at an early age. You probably tried hard to make someone very prod of you and they didn't or still hasn't noticed. Well, that's their problem start today doin what eva it takes to make you proud of you. F**k what everyone think. If you think u not beautiful because of others then look at yourself as a very intelligent, beautiful decision maker. You are in college for your benefit this will help you later with your degree you will have one more accomplishment for yourself no matter what anyone else think you will b able to care for u.
Stop looking on the outside and see whats inside u seem very bright i agree take a look at the things you do like and dwell on them more.We all have hangups but God made us all in his unique artisical way so that we all are different and i think we are all beautiful creations. You were made in his image. God Bless You!

Answer 8

Just read this book. You can buy it in two sizes of paperback; get the larger size edition, it has additioinal help after each chapter you will like. It is called "Think and Grow Rich," by Napoleon Hill. If you have a boyfriend, you both should read it. You first. Do this: highlight every sentence that you think pertains to you in yellow. When your boyfriend, or signifiicant other, whatever, reads it, he should highlight the sentences he thinks are relavent to his own or his relationship to you in blue. Blue and yellow make green--that means read the green parts together eventually. Talk about how that matters to each of you. Your low self-esteem wilil have disappeared long before you are finished. Enjoy your life; it's the only one you have!

Answer 9

Well a good way to build your self esteem is to excercise. You might try changing the way you look like your hair color/style, clothes, or even just the makeup you wear. Things like this always boosts my self-esteem when I am down. You are going to be harder on yourself than people around you since you see yourself in the mirror everyday. Hope I have helped.

Answer 10

You have to accept yourself no matter what it is you think you have or don't have. Because once you accept yourself i am dead serious it is like a liberation because then it feels like you don't have to please anyone.

But hey don't overlook that concept, because it is key. Seriously go to the mirror and write everything you see TRUTHFULLY with no opinion about it on a piece of paper. Don't stop to reread just keep going than think about your personality and how you act and everything that has made you you. Keep going never look back on what you wrote. Then write down the things people have said about you the good, the bad, the whatever anything they have commented about you. DON'T LOOK it over.

Okay now go back to your observations and your personality and check what you like and dislike. STOP. Now just accept it, just look at it close your eyes and accept it as it is. Don't think of change at the moment just accept what it is. Give yourself time to allow the idea to fully sink in.

Now look at the side about what people have told you, you know you've accepted yourself when the good things make you smile and the bad things don't care about becaue they came from
sh*&tt^ people who are not worth your attention or your acceptance to their stupid comments. Now take the good comments and compare them to your opinions about yourself and you will find out a lot of not only who you are, but also people who really know you and care a lot about you.

After a while you will be able to work with what you have and allow it to become a unique and beautiful piece of you and your personality and personal appearance.

I know where you've been my mom gave me the advice because she got tired of me and my mopiness and change in character, and she got tired because she didn't know how to help me. So the day she gave me the advice was one of the longest and most meaningful days I ever had with any one.

I hope this advice will help you realize what you haven't been able to see, and help you find what you sought after the most.

Answer 11

We are in the same boat. I am 21 and in college too. Try this, everyday write something you like about yourself, if you run out of thing repeat and repeat until it is implanted into your head. Also pray, find a relationship with the God you serve. Know that God loves you no matter what and you are beautiful because you are a child of the King. Good luck and God bless.