this guy and i were togetehr now for about 6 yr we were engaged but lately ...we are really tore up...i feel like he dont care about me b/c he got mad b/ci cant move out of my parents house yet and he wants to go then he started spening less and less time with me now we barley talk he says he loves and misses me but yet we cant seem to get over this and he seems to care less and less what do i do ??
2006-06-10 16:00:59 · 20 answers · asked by dream_star16 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You take a small break...the engagement is on a break....the togetherness is on a break. This period of seperation will end when both people agree that they are willing to forget the past and forgive the other partner. At this point both parties must have decided that they cannot live without the other. Then you start again as if you never had any history. My hubby and I wake every day to a new day and theoretically never bring yesterday's fight into today's future. Best wishes
2006-06-10 16:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by colorist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why can't you move out of your parents house? If you have been together for that long, and now your engaged, you two need to start building a life together. the best thing you can do is live together before you get married so you know you can stand living together. You need to sit down and talk to him, to see what is bothering him, maybe he thinks you don't want to live with him, you need to be open with him and talk about how your feeling.
2006-06-10 16:05:27 · answer #2 · answered by yamahaviper_00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you move out of your parents house. Maybe he feels uncomfortable there. For some men, not being able to fully provide for the woman in there life is like and ego buster. After six years if you and he haven't gotten married, then maybe you should start looking into other options for your relationship.
2006-06-10 16:07:25 · answer #3 · answered by duncanchild7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all to be engaged for 6 years without marriage shows a serious lack or fear of commitment. what you are describing is what many married people go through in their marriage. Have you ever heard of the seven year itch? it literally means that after awhile you get bored or tired of each other, but instead of letting it go on you should try to rediscover each other, go on second honeymoon or do more things together, without others including children be involved. spend more quality time together and learn new things about each other.
2006-06-10 16:06:50 · answer #4 · answered by mo_nut53 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cold feet? Your lack of ability to spell or make any sense? Maybe he has a weird fear of people who dont use punctuation.
But to be honest, you guys are just going through a stage. This weird time will be over soon and you guys can just move on. For now, just let things happen and try not to be too clingy because that will just make things worse.
Good luck!
2006-06-10 16:06:10 · answer #5 · answered by Man Coon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that possibly that you are young yet...But love knows no age. If he really loves you and wants to make it work he will stick it out.If you can't move out yet that is something that he will have to understand and if you think about it this time will give you time to gather needs and funds to get a good start.
2006-06-10 16:08:34 · answer #6 · answered by Bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he really loves you he will be there for you no matter what but im here to tell you he dont want a woman who still stay at home with her parents he want a woman who he can lay up with so maybe yall do need to separate and 9 times out of 10 he has another female who he can lay up with
2006-06-10 16:04:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you guys need to get on the same page. A compromise is usually the best way.
2006-06-10 16:04:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me as if he is finished with the relationship. This problem is too small of a problem for him to be acting like such a ****. 6 yrs is a long time to be together and minimal things like this should NEVER tear you apart so drastically.
2006-06-10 16:04:32 · answer #9 · answered by xxxcariooo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are consdering marrying this guy, then I would have serious relationship doubts. Maybe a bit of counselling might help.... but marriage is a big commitment so dont just forgive him if you dont think it is worth it.
2006-06-10 16:02:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋