My chef at my job is just so cute! I never cheated and I never will, but how can I hide the fact that he is attractive. When he talks he smiles and that just make my heart melt. Is it okay to feel this way. By the way I just want everyone to know there is nothing wrong in my relationship or anything I just have this crush. How can I go on with out the chef knowing how he makes me feel?
2006-06-10 15:41:02 · 12 answers · asked by T Burr 22 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is a hard one for me. I am married and attractive men flirt with all the time but, I never was attracted to someone after marriage. I guess just imagine him as your husband but, do not kiss him. I would not make eye contact with him and do not mess your relationship up. I married an attractive man and I believe that's why I can behave well around other men. Remember no eye contact and cute baby.
2006-06-12 13:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by Black_beauty 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You aren't dead ... just don't put yourself in a position where it would be easy to compromise. The chef may be playing you. It is ok to feel those feelings for another person ... the problem is what you do with the passion. Enjoy it but don't act on it. Over time, the crush will pass and you'll settle into a comfortable relationship with the chef.
2006-06-10 23:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who are you trying to convience us are your self. crush are for teenagers not grown womens so get ouer that. your marriage is in trouble if you were happily married no matter what the chef did you would not react because your heart, body , and soul would belong to the love of your life, leave this thought along before you loose your husband over a cheap booty call and end up along
2006-06-10 23:52:03 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being that you had the urge to type this question to a bunch of strangers indicates to me that your husband is unaware. While it's perfectly fine to find someone else attractive, your description is sickening. As a married man, I feel sorry for your husband. I wouldn't cheat on my wife emotionally or physically and I married her expecting the same in return.
2006-06-10 23:01:51 · answer #4 · answered by DS2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are married - you aren't dead, you will find other people attractive, it's just human nature. Having a little crush is one thing - letting your feelings run wild to where it affects your job and your marriage are another thing. Keep your feelings in check and put all that pent up sexual energy to work in your marriage and keep in mind how hot and attractive your hubby is!
2006-06-10 22:45:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with being attracted to other people, just don't act upon that attraction.
2006-06-10 23:23:58 · answer #6 · answered by SAChicky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking and noticing is one thing but lusting and wanting him is wrong!!! Do not do it . You may want to try to switch hours so that you dont see him as much. You need to check your feelings here and control them and get past them.
2006-06-10 22:47:01 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok to have a crush many people do your married not dead Just dont tell him that way he will never know and you wont do anything wrong
2006-06-10 22:46:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why should you go ou with him just to know how he feels about you?
and your telling us there is nothing wrong about your spouse. you are deemed to lose your family
2006-06-10 23:49:47 · answer #9 · answered by freelanceot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you stay on the same shift as him----you will end up with him
2006-06-10 23:00:00 · answer #10 · answered by Jim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋