Pregnant again and having another c-section....?

Question

I had a high risk pregnancy with my first son and ended up having to have a c-section. I am now 36 weeks pregnant and am told I will need another c-section. Due to the risk and the size of the baby. I feel like I am missing out on something wonderful.

Does anyone else who has had to have a nessasary c-section feel they are not really a good mom or they have missed out on something?

I know that this is essential so that I have a healthy baby and less risk on him. But I just wish I could have had my children natural.

I do enjoy my son and I am sure I will enjoy my new son. But I just feel like I missed out on something wonderful and special. Alot of women talk about how wonderful it is to have your child natural. I mean I wouldn't have changed a thing about the way I had my son. I just wish I could have done it once. Because I will not be having anymore children.

I breastfed my first son and plan on breastfeeding this one. It helped with bonding with my first. I hope it does the same with this one.

Answer 1

I had to have a c-section and i was disappointed when i was told that I'd have to have one but by the time he was born i was completely over it. I don't think its how they got here that's important. I'm just glad my son got here safely!!

Answer 2

I had my first two children via natural childbirth (no pain meds at all) and the last two were done by C-section.

My first C-section was done while I was asleep while the second one was done while I was awake. If I were to do it again I would choose to be awake so I can be a part of the birth and able to see my baby right away.

I never felt I wasn't a good mother because I couldn't deliver the last two children naturally. A good mother takes care of herself while she is expecting.... she takes care of her child once it arrives. It makes no difference how the baby is delivered. One can only hope to have a healthy child.

I can understand you wanting to deliver a baby naturally and you might be feeling a little cheated. Please don't feel that way. Labor is very painful without drugs. Many women choose "pain management" now days anyway. It takes away from the natural childbirth and the ability to fully participate (pushing urges etc). I watched my daughter give birth with the pain management and she couldn't tell when the baby was coming at all. As I watched her, I thought that having a C-section while awake was a lot easier. If I had ever had another child I would have asked if they would do a C-section.

You are doing what is best for your child.

Congrats on the new baby!

Answer 3

I had a natural vaginal birth, and am happy with the way it all went. I'm trying to conceive for another baby, and am thinking about the possibility of a c-section, and how I would feel about it. I think that knowing that you carried your child for 9 months, and did and do all that you can for him is good, and also that sometimes you just have to sit back with certain things, and take what life gives you. I know that if I have to have a c-section with my second, that it will not matter at all, and that the birth will be just as memorable and special as my first.

Answer 4

Well, I have had natural birth, scheduled c setion and an emergency c section. I think that they were all wonderful. Frankly I had an episiotomy with my natural birth and that hurt worse after than the c sections, so if you look at it that way that is positive. I think that no matter which way they come into the world you will love them the same. I do not remember any birth more fondly that another. You are just being blessed with big healthy babies and that is great, nothing to feel bad at all about!!

Answer 5

i ended up having to have a c-section 1)because my son weighed 10lbs 4oz 2)he was face up instead of face down which they discovered after 2 1/2 hours of pushing the only thing that i ever wanted was to just have a completely natural child birth and when they told me that i was going to have to have a c-section i freaked out i did (and still do not) like the whole idea of having a needle placed in your spine but i know it was the best for my son and sometimes i still feel like i failed as a woman that i was not able to have my child naturally i know that it was not my fault but i still feel that way sometimes then my husband reminds me that i did all that i could do and it makes me feel better just know that no matter how you had your children that you are their mother and the only mother that they will ever have and they do not care if they came into the world naturally or by c-section

Answer 6

true it does make a difference, i had a c section two years ago, i wish i would have had the experience of natural child birth, i am 20 weeks pregnant now and most likely having another c section, i just got to work hard in experiencing the most of the next birth, breast feeding for a while helps alot in filling the gap.

Answer 7

I had a c-section, too. I feel that they have to come into the world one way or another and there is nothing you can do, so you might as well enjoy the baby no matter the method of it's birth.

Answer 8

I had a c-section with my one and only child and i do not feel like i missed out on anything.
I had pre-eclampsia and i ended up having him at 36 weeks. I was just so happy that he was healthy.
I was not awake during my c-section at my request cause i do not believe in epidurals because my sister had one and it caused her to have air pockets in her head (she almost died) they had stuck that needle in to far in her back and she had to have a blood patch and she was fine after that.

I bonded with my child and if i could go back i would not change the way i had him and if i ever have another i am happy to have a repeat c-section cause who would want to mess up their vagina?

Answer 9

I'm having my second child this Christmas via C-section. It's a necessity and I'm fine with that. My mother had my sister naturally, I was a c-section, and my brother was natural. She said she wishes we were all c-section. It was easier and less painful and she was therefor less worn out and more energy to enjoy me.