I have this problem that I keep envying others for there talents even thought I have talents of my own. Its like I wanna be the best at everything subconsciously, but consciously I don't. How do I get my subconscious to line up with my conscience?
2006-06-10 14:29:38 · 19 answers · asked by social_guyiii 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
That also goes for other areas of my life.
2006-06-10 14:30:02 · update #1
You guys are right, I should just be myself.
2006-06-10 16:12:23 · update #2
dont act according to ur sub conscious urges.
let thoughts come in ur mind freely.
2006-06-16 22:09:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is great to want to emulate the positive attributes of others we admire. Talents be they learned or natural are what make us each unique individuals. Be proud of the talents that are truely your own and if you can incorporate those other talents you admire in others than that is admirable. However do work within the bounds of reason and be aware that Admire and Envy are two very different conditions. You are wonderful ! Imagine how many people admire you for the talents you have. When you go to sleep at night embrace yourself with thoughts of all the wonderful aspects that make you so very unique and strive to be the best YOU you can be.
2006-06-10 21:51:21 · answer #2 · answered by stargateomega76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am majoring in counseling and you are like most people. We all envey wach other in some way. It drives a lot of people crazy. more then most will admit. Although ti can be a sign of depression and un resolved anger. I would try to find a good counselo r in you area that can help you sort through your issues. Also focus on the best parts of you. Those people may seem all happy and like life is perfect but in most cases it is not true. good luck
2006-06-10 21:34:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop comparing the way you feel inside with what you observe of peoples' outsides. They have their own insecurities too and what you think might be the most enviable position could in fact be the worst kind of liability. As for the subconscious, all it is is just what was once conscious memory for the most part. Change your outlook and experiences.
2006-06-10 21:52:03 · answer #4 · answered by synchronicity915 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Envy is the foul odour from the dead (unfulfilled) desires. The power of your envy shows, how powerful your desires were. Frequent failures in life will result in some people as envy and some others as disappointment. Envy behaves like an enemy when they see successful ones and disappointment behaves as an enemy to himself. Either way, it is harmful to health, mind and spirit.
2006-06-20 04:24:05 · answer #5 · answered by latterviews 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Envy is part of the Oedipus complex. It normally plunges its roots via envy of the Father because he can have the Mother.
So freudian and yet so true: because you won't surpass Freud but when you actually do, and at any rate that Freud is surpassed makes as much sense as saying that the Odyssey (much older than Freud) is surpassed.
2006-06-11 00:00:38 · answer #6 · answered by Alberto . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? I bet at least 99% of people feel that way at least some of the time. But, just because someone else is better at something than you are, doesn't mean you're a sucky person. Does you being good at whatever you're good at make others sucky people? Well there ya go.
What it all boils down to is this: you don't hafta be perfect, you just hafta be you. :)
2006-06-10 22:42:50 · answer #7 · answered by onyxflame 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are calling your subconscious is your conscious thoughts. What is occurring is confusion---you are seesawing with your confidence. Stop trying o be the best at everything---that's impossible. Everyone is good at at least one thing. Identify that one thing and concentrate on that. this does not mean that you must ignore your other talents. They can be incorporated in with your main focus. And stop concerning yourself with others. The Bible says that we are not to compare ourselves with other people. God has given you what he has given you for a reason. He can give you more when HE is ready for you to have it. God is not looking for perfect people, he is looking for committed people. Commit yourself to Jesus Christ who is God, and all things will be added unto you. Jesus loves you and he wants you to follow him. His lead will lead you to an abundant life and life everlasting. Trust Jesus.
2006-06-19 13:42:31 · answer #8 · answered by Preacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be thankful for the talents that you have been given-becuz you could have no talents at all
Envy is the #1 joy stealer-if you allow envy to steal your joy you will not have time to enjoy and stengthen your own talents
take the energy you have being envious of others and use it to better yourself in your own talent
2006-06-10 21:36:41 · answer #9 · answered by bulldog lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you admit to having talents of your own, when we have a healthy self esteem, we are proud of the accomplishments of others, not envious.
It sounds like you are comparing yourself to your friends, and would feel better about yourself if they were less talented. That signals that your sense of worth comes from praise and admiration from others, when it needs to come from inside. When you see others with talents that you admire, you are probably not looking at the talent but the attention it brings. You want that for yourself to feel valuable.
Are you using your talents? Do they bring you pride, a sense of well-being and joy, or are they just things you've been told you're good at? There's a difference. Are you following your passion and your dreams? Are you constantly challenging yourself, stretching and growing as a person?
Have you heard of the crab bucket theory? Fishermen throw crabs in a bucket without a lid and they'll stay in the bucket. It's not that the crabs don't try to crawl out of the bucket, it's that when a crab does try to crawl out, the other crabs pull it back down. No crab ever makes it out of the bucket.
It's like that with people too. When someone begins to succeed in life, others try to pull them back down with them... it's easier than trying to crawl out yourself, and no one wants to be left behind to feel jealous about the success of others who were stronger and more motivated.
If you are happy within yourself and have a good sense of self-worth, you will be more likely to encourage and celebrate your friends' achievements.
It's not about being jealous of the talents of others, but about you not being completely happy with YOU.
2006-06-21 18:26:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love yourself?
Did you feel that your parents and guardians cared about you during your childhood?
Do you feel there is someone putting pressure to you to be the best?
You are a very special combination of characteristics, nobody will never be like you, you don't need to prove to nobody that you are valuable, you have to know it and period.
2006-06-10 21:37:46 · answer #11 · answered by mbestevez 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋