How do you handle a controlling husband or b/f, ?

Answer 1

You know these guys are the "MY WAY OR THE Hy WAY" types, well you let them know there is more than one road leading to the same place,same Hy-way, WHO CARES who is right???

Answer 2

You know, why is it always the mans fault? Does he beat or abuse you in any way? Does he belittle you or mentaly abuse you? If he does then get out, but if he doesnt then just grow up and accept the fact that you are not single any more and you cant get out and run the roads and party like you did when you had no one to come home too. Accept the fact that there are someone else's feelings to take into consideration now. Your not a teenager any more and you now have responsibilities. You are no longer an independant company but have merged with a partner to form a major corperation in which you have to sacrifice certain freedoms in order to create a long lasting and succesful business

Answer 3

why , do you want to be the controller? you take the whole package, not just part of it, the contoller was there when you chose him. now you are trying to turn a pony into a racehorse.
you may of even chose him because he was a controller. funny how our taste can change when our situations change. be content that he is a controller, he will always be looking out for you and your critters, that's the hidden side some people don't see when looking at the controller. he will be in control of everything, you will come to no harm or do without. don't give him a reason to smother you and he won't. he will sense you trying to shake the chains that bind you, he knows you one way and when you try to set yourself free, he will sense that, baby steps, baby steps. suttle little things, that's how he took control, with baby steps, that's how you break free. like staying on the phone a few more minutes when it is dinner time. little things , nothing drastic like standing up to him and telling him you are tired of his controlling ways. controllers are controllers because they don't trust others with their future. good luck........

Answer 4

Any person whether male or female who is controlling, is so for a very specific reason. A person who is controlling is very insecure. They feel that they have no control anyplace in their lives and so they try to control their sweethearts. Is there any signs of any mental illness, drug use or abuse? Alcohol seems to worsen the personality of a controlling individual. If there is a drug or alcohol problem. GET OUT NOW !! Domestic abuse is an ugly situation to be in. I know from experience. If he is simply jealous, then it is his ego that needs a good massage. Give him the support he needs to feel confident in your relationship. Have you spoken to his family or any ex's he may have. Sometimes their insight can be invaluable. There are many types of control. You did not mention why you feel his behavior is controlling...

Answer 5

The easiest way is to let them know You are not a slave or idiot. What you want and do not want comes first in your life. They can take it or leave it especially if you are not married. You have left them have too much to say and need to assert yourself. Remember that 50 /50 is never supposed to be 75/25 and the two of you need to compromise now and then. If you let them get in control they will be like a child and keep pushing you until things snap. Use your tools to get in charge or at least on equal footing.

Answer 6

As a REFORMED controlling husband....yes it is possible to change. My best answer is to leave, right away, just walk out. then call 4 hrs later and talk to him. If he becomes abusive or controling still. Tell him IT'S OVER.

Answer 7

Unfortunately you don't. It's good that you recognize this problem in him. You have three choices. (( Remember: it's HIM, not you that has the problem))
1.) You can tell him about it. Tell him if he wants you to stay with him he needs to go to counceling and resolve his insecurity/abandonment issues or you're leaving him. 2.) You can just get out now. Or 3.) You can be the meek, timid little girl and let him become increasingly domineering and psychotically suspitous until he starts taking his "suspitions" out on you emotionally and physically until you and the kids are forced to go to a battered women's shelter after years and years of abuse and domestic violence calls to the police department where he'd always be realeased after because you'd always cave in and not press charges.

Answer 8

Talk to him and tell him how you feel about him being so controlling. Let him know what he does thats controlling and ask him to stop. If he refuses to stop his controlling behavior you might wanna go to counseling together or at least ask him to go. Depending on the extent of his controlling ways you may even want to consider leaving him. Either way, you need to let him know how you feel and how his behavior is affecting your relationship.

Answer 9

simple,if he's only a b/f,then i would certainly begin looking for another one. and if he is the husband,first off i would wonder was he like than when the two began dating,secondily,understand that people who try to control others are out of control with theirselves and they feel they have to control something relationships like that almost never work out! my advice get out while they can and certainly dont look back and remember if they wanted to be controlled they would move back in with their parents! best of luck!!!!

Answer 10

I had a controlling fiance. Truth is if they are actually controlling you can't handle it. Leave before you loose yourself completely.

Answer 11

Handle them? First of all how are they controlling you and are they abusive? Get out if it is abusive!