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Question

ok if u had a13 year old daughter would u let her date? but after your other daughter got peregnat at the age of 16? why or why not?

Answer 1

I would let her date. I would take the experiences that I've had with my older daughter to be more communicative with her and teach her more. If she's asking your approval to date, it means that she's a good kid, and she's obviously learning from her sister's experience. Just make sure that she knows about respecting herself and you. Talk to her about protected sex, and make sure that she knows that you don't expect her to have sex right away, but that you want her to be prepared for when she does. This will open a window of communication with her that you didn't have with your other daughter.

If you don't let her date, she will do it anyway behind your back. I tell you that cause that's what I did.

Answer 2

Sorry I wouldn't let my daughter date at 13 regardless of whether another child got pregnant or not. In my opinion 13 is just too young for "dating". Now I wouldn't mind group outings to a movie or a school dance, just no couples dating at all. I would start letting her date at about 15-16 depending on her maturity level and how well I knew the boy involved.

Answer 3

I am a nineteen year old mother that had my son six days before my seventeenth birhtday because of the fact that my parents let me date. I never knew what it would feel like to be a parent and now that i am i have matured in many different ways and married to his father not because i got pregnant but because we love each other but it is ok to let her date just keep a close eye on her and the way she is acting towards her boyfriend or whatever. What my mother did was put me on the Depo Provera shot once i started dating and going out with my guy and it really works the reason i got pregnant was because i stoped taking it for six months and this shot you only take every three months but my husband and i planned it and my son was not an accident and adoption and abortion were never an option for me and were never in my mind. Just do what you think is best for you and your daughter but without making her hate you as girls tell thier mothers when they say NO to dating. I hope this was help full by telling you my experience.

Answer 4

I would want my daughter to have many friends and have the opportunity to go out and have a good time. But, I think that I would prefer that she go out on group dates, rather than dates with a boy. I think, that 16 years old is a good time to start dating more one-on-one. I feel very sorry for your sister. I had a child at 19, and that was too young. I can only imagine how hard it must be to have a child at 16. Well, sure hope that you learn from your sister's mistakes. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

well I have a 3 year old daughter but let's just say that my daughter is your daughters age first I would talk to my daughter and tell her how sex at a young age is not good because we had sex when we were teens doesn't mean that our kids have to follow in our footsteps just let your daughter know that it's hard to raise a child at a young age I was pregnant at the age of 16 and believe me I wanted an abortion so bad but I'm not that kind of person to take an innocent child's life so I said to myself I got pregnant so I'm stuck with the responsibility until she's 18 years old now I'm a 19 year old parent and trust me It's not easy and It never will be.

Answer 6

I think 13 is way too young to date! We have 3 daughters under the age of 5. I don't think their daddy will allow them to date at 16! There will be more important things for them to worry about than boys!

Answer 7

I would say it depends on what you mean by dating. Sometimes a date to a 13 year old is different that what her parents are thinking. I do believe that 13 is too young to be "alone" with a boy. I think movie (with parents somewhere in the same movie), a school dance, or some other outing with supervision would be fine. I know that from experience that 13 years olds can get in over their heads.

Answer 8

I wouldn't let my daughter date at that age either, I would say wait until high school. Hopefully like other posters said she learned from her sisters mistake but all the more important is teaching her responsibility. Maybe she has learned from her sister but she thinks you don't trust her still. It's difficult because the more you push her away from dating, the more she may want to and may do it behind your back and thats when unexpected pregnancies occur. But one thought: just because she starts dating does that automatically mean she's going to start having sex? Only you know your daughter well enough to know whether she will or not. I wish you luck...

Answer 9

NO. She's not old enough or mature enough to date. She's not ready to handle the emotional responsibilities--she's still a baby going through puberty. And while some may think she's learned from her older sister's pregnancy, she may end up pregnant anyhow. She may even try to get pregnant to get attention that's been taken away since her older sister got pregnant. So, NO, NO, NO!!!

My best friend (freshman year of college) had two sisters. The older one got pregnant very young. Her parents thought that she and her younger sister would learn from the older sister's "mistake," if you will. Right after Christmas break, my friend told me that her younger sister was pregnant, too--and her younger sister was having to help take care of the oldest sister's baby.

So some may think there's a lesson to be learned, and there is. But with teenagers, it doesn't always sink in.

Answer 10

No 2 children are alike just because one makes mistakes don't mean the other one will. I would tell my 13 year old daughter I will let you date if you can show me you are mature enough not to have sex and be a teen mother. I am putting my trust in you and hope you will be adult enough to accept the responsibility of saying NO to any guy that would try to pressure you into having sex. You know what can happen because you seen it happen to your sister and you know what that has done to her life. So what about it are you mature enough and responsible enough to say no and not be tempted. If not you won't date until you graduate.

I started dating when I was 13 and I waited until I was married to have sex. So it can happen.

Answer 11

I wouldn't punish one for the other. That's not fair. At 13 no one on one dating. Go out with a group to the movies or other group activities. That's what all three of my kids did. And make sure she knows she can get birth control for free at Planned Parenthood. I told all of my kids that when they were 13. I didn't say they would be promiscuous. I just said that if they have a friend who is sexually active to tell them to go to Planned Parenthood so they would not get pregnant.
We had a neighbor who would not let his daughter date. Told her no boyfriends until she was 18. she climbed out her window at night to meet a guy. She got pregnant. She was not in a normal dating relationship because she had to sneak around. I think it's better to have it open and under your supervision and rules.