I work with a lot of witchy people, should i put up with it or leave.?

Question

Here recently I went from a straight married women, to a single dyke. Before everyone at work was really nive to me and I would have considerded them my friends now they will hardly talk to me. And would not even dare to be sitting beside me. They act like I am going to hit on them or something. I have tried to explain to them that I would not go there wiht them and I do not look at them in that way at all. And that I will never. It has gotten to a point to where they are talking behind my back and spreading untrue rumors. It is getting really hard to put up with. So what should I do stay with my job or leave quietly. Another idea has crossed my mind it is kinda child like but it would make me feel better. Just start beating the hell out of them and then leave. I know I will never do the last one, but it is good thought. But getting back to the point. What should I do?

Answer 1

Oh honey, please don't insult me. You would be much welcomed, Loved & accepted in the company of witches. What your dealing with is closed minded idiots. A far cry from my people.
If you leave, they win. Try letting them know (suptlely) that what you do in your bedroom has no effect on your job performance. You may also let them know how ignorant it is for anyone else to believe it is any of their business(your bedroom). Only by fighting this kind of reaction, can we do anything about it. Open Minds!
Point Blank...it ain't none of your business! Or maybe we should talk about what you do in your bedroom. Would ya like that!

Answer 2

In the Buddhist sense of thinking: it is better for the harsh behavior in this life as to enhance your afterlife. We beg for the problems because it also enhances our strength. You must realize that all human behavior is this way. People will always judge you. At least you know who your real friends are! The ones who talk behind your back is pretty much all of human behavior. You will find this everywhere! No matter where you go and the faces just change that's all. It is human fact and one must just learn to put on the horse blinders and plow through life without malice and contempt. Always be yourself and never wavier from that. I love what Dr. Wayne Dyer says: "How some ones else feels about me is none of my business". This is my mantra and should also be yours! Don't give anyone the satisfaction of ruining your life!

Answer 3

The way I see it, you can either

1) Quit and save yourself the headache

or

2) read this essay (http://www.heartless-bitches.com/bi/bitchitorial04jun06.shtml) and committ yourself to not giving a sh*t what your co-workers think of you, just do a kick-a$$ job.

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PS: On behalf of the Witch/Wiccan/Pagan community, I know that you probably used the word witch because they wont let you say b*tch with the censors, but witches are actually some of the nicest people you'll ever meet and the gayest as well. I would guess that at least half the community is somewhat queer.

Answer 4

The Ricky Nelson "Garden Party" syndrome. I suggest immediately scoring with the next hot lesbian to cross the threshold at work, preferably while still at work, perhaps sweeping off a table, or desk, and yanking down her shorts. This will make them all know you don't like them like that, and who doesn't love the sight of two lesbians getting busy? You may even win new friends.

Answer 5

If you like your job then stay there and tell people right to their face how mean it is of them to act so badly, don't be fearful of letting people hear your views and feelings. Make a fuss, give them something to talk about. If you don't like you job or feel too uncomfortable then move on, but I would still give your "friends" a little of what's on my mind, very loudly. Sorry that they are treating you so different.

Answer 6

I think I understand. Everyone had an idea of who you were in their minds, and then everything changed for them. That kind of freaks people out, when it comes to sexual identity. We live in such a mainstream society. I think you have two choices; wait it out and be nice till they come around, or find another place to work where being a lesbian won't be such a problem. I used to work with a lesbian who was always talking about her sexual escapades. I didn't care to hear about it, but at least she wasn't too afraid to talk about it.

Answer 7

I've always been a really really strong believer in keeping my personal life and work life very very separate. People I work with have very little knowledge of what i do out of work hours and people i socialise with after work hours know very little about my work life. It works well that way. Too late for that in your case though.I see you have two choices..and it really depends on how much you like your job. If you like it, just keep doing it, ignore them and dont let them push you out. Dont touch them, they'll have you charged with assault. Just keep working and pretend they dont exist, they'll eventually get tired of it and leave you alone, or alternatively, find another job and change..if you do that, make sure to keep your private life exactly that...private.

Answer 8

If you feel that you are being discriminated against, you can file a formal complaint. It is against the law to discriminate because of sexual orientation. You could have a lawsuit. If you are very uncomfortable there, you might want to change jobs. Keep your sexual identity to yourself at the new job. It's nobody's business but your own. Don't discuss it or flaunt it.

Answer 9

you stated you went from straight married woman to being a single woman...swetie, that is a whole new transformation....you left your old lifestyle behind...i think it would be healthy for your to move forward in your life and start your lesbian life with a clean slate.

Answer 10

Well, it's either leave or come to work with a gun.
I suggest the former.