I have a dilemma about my ex wife?

Question

My ex wife left the children and me about three years ago
and does not contact any of us
She is passive aggressive and always plays the victim
One of her co- workers approached me - because my ex is backstabbing her at work to get her fired - this woman says it is because she caught my ex stealing office electronics -laptops and pen units

My Ex has used her skills as system administrator to do this to at least three other women that I know of, she hacks into their account and sends out spoof letters from them to other people
This woman wants me to reveal to the director what I know

I see only trouble if I do
If my ex is fired she will attack us again mentally - we are happy now
also we would lose the child support - which is considerable, it allows the children to live in comfort

If I do and she keeps fooling the company we are a target again also -with her being the victim

If I do nothing then I am an accomplace

Opinions please people, what would you do ???

Answer 1

Whoa, your ex sounds like a real doozey. I would hesitate to interfere in her work place though.

The person who has the problem with her should deal with it by going to her management herself. You have no idea if she is really being honest with you.
Tell her that she should handle it herself. She is an adult, and if she caught your ex stealing, why did she not report it right away?

Do yourself a favor, stay out of it.

Answer 2

What your ex-wife is doing is a crime. Her co-worker should report her to the company and the authorities and leave you and your kids out of it. From what I gather the only reason you know what's going on is because the co-worker came to you. I don't see how you can be considered an accomplice. You aren't doing anything illegal. Maybe you can kindly tell the co-worker lady that out of concern for yourself and the well-being of your kids you don't want to get involved. Your kids come first.

Answer 3

If this woman is indeed STEALING, than you and your co-workers have every right to call the police. She would have a trial (probably lose it) and go to jail, and never harm you or your children. This next part might sound lame, but if you need child support for your kids, ask your ex's parents (they're their grandparents, right?) to pay it.

Answer 4

I wouldn't say a word what comes around go around she will eventually get hers god will take care of her just go about your business and take care of your kids. No need to stir up anymore unnecessary drama. She will get caught though eventually which means maybe some jail time now that Im thinking about go ahead and tell on her which means you will propably lose the support so either way it doesnt matter if you do or dont she is going to get caught.

Answer 5

Tell the woman that saw her stealing to go to you're ex's boss and tell them.Have her report it to those who are over her. If I were you I would stay out of it. That would only get her mad at you. She needs to deal with her issues and not drag you and your kids into her drama.

Answer 6

I think I would stay out of the situation and let the co-worker handle this for herself. It sounds like you have had your fair share of her now let someone else handle her for awhile.

Answer 7

You are not an accomplice since it's hearsay on your part. Don't get involved on this instance. Let her fellow employees go to the director.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

stay out of it-two wrongs dont make a right
she will get her "karma" when the time is right-she will not be able to get away with this forever

Answer 10

send an anonymous letter detailing what you know