2006-06-10 13:39:49 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Been married 16 years.
2006-06-10 13:43:13 · update #1
I have only been with one man before my husband, and do fantasize/wonder. Just don't feel like I could do it.
2006-06-10 13:45:03 · update #2
The last 8 years of our relationship has been great. I am certain he has no motive other than this being a long-time fantasy of his.
2006-06-10 13:52:33 · update #3
first just try fantasizing about it together. Tell him a story about you being with another man. Be creative and make it good. See how he reacts and how you like it, too. Describe it in detail. If you both like the idea, then talk about taking it further.
2006-06-10 13:51:02 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah D 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I really do not think that it is a good idea ! It sounds like your husband would like to live out a fantasy. Or may be testing your devotion to him alone. Either way, some day in the future, your infidelity is bound to be a topic for argument or maybe worse. If you truly love your husband, find another way to spark his passion. Read Cosmo. Great ideas there. Good luck to you!!! Kisses for your heart and dreams for your spirit.
2006-06-10 14:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by onceuponachildsdream 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I urge you DON'T. You will ruin your relationship. Don't be fooled into thinking it iwll enhance the realtionship...it will only destroy it. First of all, you seriously need to talk with him about your relationship. Is the relationship so humdrum that he figures that you being with another person will spice things up? Also what about his fidelity? Has he been faithful to you? Mutually establish what defines a good relationship and then work towards it. If you discover that you all can't find common ground, then you may want to go to your pastor or counselor about it. Remember, a relationship is about compromise but one one should never compromise their integrity for anyone (husband included).
2006-06-10 13:51:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a good idea....I would also be offended that my husband wanted to share me with another man!! There is always the possibility that our husband is testing you to see if you to see if you would actually do it....or if you do do it, he might become jealous and resent you for doing it....which could cause for a whole array of problems and lead to divorce. I would just say I am sorry I am not interested in any other man.
2006-06-10 13:46:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thing is that there are people out there with a swingers lifestyle that seem ok with things like that. However if its in your heart not to then I would not do it unless he was present. I know plenty of swingers who have brought others to 'watch'. Usually that was their significant others. If you want to find out more if you can handle it I would go to some of the adult websits for swingers. There are plenty of people out there with experience. They could give you decent advice.My husband also wanted to do that and we tried it out. At first I thought cool, but later as I fell more and more inlove with my husband...I decided not to be involved in that lifestyle. We have significant amounts of trust and communications. We also kept our agreements and promises. Sometimes you just don't know until you try, but keep your hearts and minds open to one another. Be smart, be safe.
2006-06-10 13:58:20 · answer #5 · answered by m0mmatcat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should be with a other guy. My husband and I play a lot but we play together. I love being with other girls. If my husband wanted me to be with a other guy i would jump on it and tell him all about it when it was over
2006-06-10 14:07:59 · answer #6 · answered by suepooh23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are nuts for even considering this. Your hubby is perverted. You are not a toy. He should show you more respect and not make a request like this. Hold your head high and keep your dignity. If you go along with this he will request more pervision.
2006-06-10 14:11:43 · answer #7 · answered by MoonDoggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this sort of thing crosses boundaries in a relationship that were never meant to be crossed. Ultimately the decision is yours but I would think long and hard about it. Good luck!!
2006-06-10 13:58:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he cheated on you and want you to, so if you ever found out about him, you cant be mad because you were with another man, even though he ask you to. Or maybe he bi and wants another man instead of woman and wants wo warm you up to it by asking you to do that and then later asking for a threesome with a man.
2006-06-10 13:46:04 · answer #9 · answered by thatcutesexygyrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he want to watch? Or does he have some cheating guilt that he thinks giving you permission to screw around will fix? Either he's a perv or a guilty mother funker. Good luck with that.
2006-06-10 13:58:46 · answer #10 · answered by 4kidsmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋