Can true love be possible in this situation? Say..the woman is 50 and the man is 25? Whatcha think?
2006-06-10 13:36:56 · 24 answers · asked by mgrpupp 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As long as the individual is over the age of consent I really don't see a problem. Unfortunately, society has a strange double-standard when it comes to relationships between older women and younger men. While older men dating women half their age is easily accepted by many, society tends to perceive such unions as taboo when the female is the eldest partner.
When you think about it really, age is many times only a number. I think happiness, love, commitment and maturity are the chief issues in point. Once both persons are mutually content, in love, dedicated to their relationship and certain that they are mentally and emotionally capable of maintaining a healthy, long-lasting union, I doubt it truly matters who is younger :)
2006-06-12 11:15:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Love is possible regardless of the ages of the couple. The question is will it last. If you were in a society like our country, I would say, there will come a time when the man, who is younger, will dream of having children of his own. Apparently you will not be able to give that to him. By the time you are 60 he is about 35, the age where he is most sexually active. You may or you may not be able to respond to him in an adequate manner. And your body will not be as charming as a woman of his age.
All those factors will have to determine whether you love, assuming it is really love, will survive.
Why don't you take stock of the whole situation, look at the big picture, so to say, and see what really attracts him to you? Is there money or properties involved? Is there security for him?
2006-06-11 10:19:48 · answer #2 · answered by seabug_46 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that 25yrs is a pretty big gaping age difference - and what you both have in common must be kind of amazing being that you could have already graduated college when he was born. If you both love eachother and can handle people looking at you and wondering why you could possible be french kissing a man who looks like he's your son then go for it. I can't imagine his parents would be thrilled about it - so you might have some drama there. Does he want kids - if he does or you think in his heart he wants them it's not fair to marry him when you can't give him a family.
If you've thought about all the pro's and con's - for both him and you and you think you can overcome all of them then theres nothing wrong with you both getting married. Best wishes with whatever happens!
2006-06-10 20:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! I'm in the reverse situation... I'm the younger woman to a much older (19 years) man.
Most people are skeptical, but that's their problem.
Do you love him, does he love you? If you know in your heart that the answer is yes, then don't let other unhappy people who don't really matter bug you or tell you that your relationship won't work.
The areas where we have problems sometimes are social and cultural things-- what ages of friends do we hang out with, what music do we listen to, what movies do/did we see. I haven't ever found those significant enough in 2 years of dating to bother me.
2006-06-10 20:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by thinkofasong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have dated a few much younger men. My current love is 35 and I, 46. 1 major problem that can arise: If he is much younger, has no children and wants children, are you willing and able to give them to him? My tubes are tied and so cannot become pregnant. I have 5 children, mostly grown. This can be a real relationship buster if your heart gets in the way and it becomes serious to the point of marriage. Get clear about expectations from the go!! Save yourself and your lover the heart-ache.
2006-06-10 21:02:49 · answer #5 · answered by onceuponachildsdream 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi I know it can work. I am 43 and my fiance is 24. I do have to say I believe the reason it works so good between us is because of his maturity level. He seems older in the way he thinks and acts. I love him so much and we are well suited for eachother! Good luck to you and I pray everything goes well.
2006-06-10 20:46:07 · answer #6 · answered by softlyinspired 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen I am happily married and my husband just turned 30 and I am 37 age is a number and an excuse if you need it to be.... true love knows no age unless it is illegal....
2006-06-10 20:55:59 · answer #7 · answered by swtigger1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with it. But the woman might want to be careful if the guy is a stud or in it for the rent.
2006-06-10 20:43:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOBODY,has the right to tell anyone not to feel the way they do. and i dont think anyone really knows what true love is they all have an idea but not all are 100% sure in my oponion if i was you look and see if your hurting anyone in both familys and if not GO FOR IT !
2006-06-11 01:56:29 · answer #9 · answered by eric_big_dog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything wrong with the example you gave us. If two people are in love then go for it, they are both consenting adults and can do anything they want now. Just as long they don't hurt anyone doing it.
:)
2006-06-10 20:51:13 · answer #10 · answered by flguy36 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋