If marriage is about "trust" as so many people have stated in my previous question, why is it that men can't take their wives name? or is the answer that this is a society that values men dominating women? Why not exchange names? Why does it have to be "all or nothing"? There should be some compromise.
2006-06-10 13:05:43 · 15 answers · asked by darshunk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He can. Name change is a tradition and has evolved over time. It originated when women were considered more property than partner. Now it is not uncommon for the couples to blend names, hyphenate or be creative in the choice of their common last name. Just remember to do the legal paperwork with social security, DMV, etc. Happy trails!
2006-06-10 13:08:02 · answer #1 · answered by Lost M 2 · 11⤊ 1⤋
Trust is an extremely important part of marriage, but so is compromise. Marriage is a union, and that is one of the symbolic reasons why both people have the same name. If you are as attached to your own name as you seem, then you might need to examine the possibility that you are trying to dominate over him. Some women keep their maiden name and also have their married name. Although I don't think it shows proper respect to the husband, at least it shows that the wife values the husband enough to have his name included in hers. If you don't want to be associated in name with him, why would you want to be in any other way?
2006-06-10 20:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some men don't want the womans last name it is more traditional for the woman to take the mans name unless for professional reasons she keeps her sur name.
2006-06-10 20:24:36 · answer #3 · answered by Danette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband can take your last name - but it's tradition for the wife to take the husband's last name, as to carry on his family name. For instance if you have a brother he would carry on your family's name, while you and your husband would carry on your husband's family's name.
I don't think it's so much about dominating women, it's part of tradition and when I took my husband's last name I thought of it as an honor.
2006-06-10 20:08:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt work like that and you know it. There are compromises and then there are traditions. Why is this such an issue for you, you know that this is a tradition so if you are to get married, you either can do this or not. If you have a hubby that is ok with you not taking his name, then great.
2006-06-10 20:07:49 · answer #5 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you have to be so arrogant as to expect a man to take on "you" last name? Your last name means nothing! A woman gives up her last name to her man as a show of her submission to him, her husband. For the man is the head of the household as Jesus is the head of the body. It's a Divine chain of command ordained by God Himself. To defy this chain of command is a defiant slap in the face of God! Do so at your own peril.
2006-06-10 20:11:53 · answer #6 · answered by love_2b_curious 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are in the USA, I believe you can do what ever you want to do with your name! Yes, He can take your name at marriage, I don't think you will find such a sissy that would do this, but I believe it is legal
2006-06-10 20:10:47 · answer #7 · answered by and,or,nand,nor 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Guess That Is The What People Allways Did.
2006-06-10 20:09:01 · answer #8 · answered by mks 7-15-02 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They can. Had a friend whose husband's last name was Lugie. Neither of them liked it, so they took her name instead, Barnes. Or both can keep their own names -- it's no big deal.
2006-06-10 20:08:24 · answer #9 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its been that way for the longest. it gives them power and means something if a husband takes a wife last name it means they arent a man something like that
2006-06-10 20:18:10 · answer #10 · answered by kiki aka lady lebron 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋