see i was sith this guy for almost a year and we were engaged and we broke up twice and i just recently found out that he is seeing someone else and it's killing me and i don't know how to get over him if i have to get over him... i know i'm supposed to be with him but i can't tell him that anymore and it hurts really bad please someone help me
2006-06-10 13:03:17 · 11 answers · asked by Vicky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
see the reason we split the second time is cause he thought i was cheating cause i was talking to his sisters ex but that was only to save her from him coming after her and beating her up and her new man...so all i was doing was saving my best friend and i lost the love of my life cause of it.
2006-06-10 13:23:08 · update #1
I know exactly how you feel. I have really been missing a guy that I dated for almost a year. My family and friends were aginst me seeing him, but he is what made me happy. We have not spoken in 2006 and now it is really getting hard. There was no closure and I still have a lot of unanswered questions. Some bad things happened so I do not know if he does not want to talk to me because of those things or is he just afraid and does not know how to approach the situation. I think about him all the time and I can not help but to think about him. I have been trying to wait it out but I'm tired of waiting, so to you I would have a heart to heart talk with him again. At least you can still contact him.
2006-06-10 13:13:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is seeing someone else - then he is not ready for a commitment. Perhaps he cared enough not to hurt you by keeping his other interest a secret. Trust is the foundation in any relationship - secrets can destroy trust.
It seems he may have been looking for an excuse to breakup so he could be with another - using the excuse that you were talking to a friend's ex is lame - but it was enough for him.
Take the time to let go and you will meet another. I'm sure you deserve someone honest and true.
2006-06-10 22:09:41 · answer #2 · answered by G.. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gyrl, been there and still going thru it, but I learned tp just try and have fun. I'm not ugly and I'm sure your not, so why not get back in the dating game? I know it hurts, because I'm still hurting and not over my ex, but I have to get over him someday. I can't keep stressin him. If it's meant to be he and I will be back together. Think that way and you'll be ok. Use this time to take care of you and he'll regret the day he left you. Make him want you back, by showing him what you can do. Play hard to get. I wish you luck!
2006-06-10 20:14:00 · answer #3 · answered by favoritegyrl21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time--I know it sounds trite, but it is true.
I was in a relationship for 6 years, we were engaged. I found out he was cheating. Needless to say even though I ended it, I was still very hurt and depressed over his betrayal. Even though I dated some, I wasn't ready for a relationship for approx. 2 years. Truly you need to stand firm and not call him. Believe me I do understand the withdrawal symptoms. But you do have to be strong, eventually they will lessen and you can get on with your life. DO NOT CHASE HIM. If he changes his mind, believe me, he will look you up.
2006-06-10 20:17:54 · answer #4 · answered by cyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been 8 years that I broke up with that guy who meant the whole world to me and you know what??? I am still not completely over him! I don't think I ever will get over him. From time to time I still cry for him. I am the one who walked out because I had to choose "him or my career(future)" Just something I have to deal with, live with for the rest of my life!
2006-06-10 20:22:27 · answer #5 · answered by MissShorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Vicky, Sorry to hear of your heartache. I kinda know what you are going through. I lost the person that meant the world to me, in a different situation I lost her, but she's now gone from here. and I think that you need to think of this:
"Every person in this world has a special somebody, if you lose the one you love, especially to someone else, don't take it too hard, because maybe you were with that persons special somebody, and yours is still out there for you to seek."
i know it may be hard at first, and trust me, you cant get over him quickly, but dont torment yourself for his mistakes. Because now, as wounded as you are, you need to motivate yourself, and find your new purpose even if it means being single. That special someone of yours, may be going through what you are going through now, and one day, who knows. dont torment yourself, it's hurting you internally.
Also... if you know you're "supposed to be with him" he wouldn't have hurted you. he's not meant to be with you, no one is meant to be with someone who will hurt them
2006-06-10 20:25:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay vicky i'm kinda in the same situation but i've found a solution.
start looking for more guys that catch your interest. go to clubs look around for other cuties. and u never know u may find some one new.
2006-06-10 20:06:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you really love soomeone you want them to be happy even if that happiness does not include you.If he is dating someone and you really love him you should be happy that he is happy.In the meantime move on with your life and find your own happiness.
2006-06-10 20:13:13 · answer #8 · answered by girlqueen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youll never get over someone that means the world to you and ,youll never want to get over them if they truely were the world to you, and youll never let them go if they meant the world to you
i think you should let it go for now cause hes with someone esle and doing his own thing but if he wanted to be with you he wouldve never left or hell come back
2006-06-10 20:11:01 · answer #9 · answered by Risa' 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT,S EASY. TAKE THAT ENERGY YOU HAVE AN FOCUS MORE ON THE THINGS YOU DO LIKE A JOB. YOU KNOW SOMETHING TO OCCUPY YOUR MIND.
2006-06-10 20:08:35 · answer #10 · answered by 0samaria s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋