iam from chenn-i and i feel deficult so plz help me
2006-06-10 12:17:12 · 17 answers · asked by love every one 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
There are several things you can do. First, unless he's a freak of nature chances are your vaginal vault is large enough to acommodate him comfortably. After all, it stretches large enough to push a baby through it. A penis isn't a big challenge.
Most often, when women complain of this problem, it's because they are feeling very tense and the muscles of the vaginal vault, which can be quite strong, are tightening up... making penetration more difficult and intercourse much less pleasant.
So, the first thing you can do is figure out whether or not you're tense in bed, and learn to relax. Your husband can help you with this, and there are a lot of techniques you can use to do so. A lot of it is foreplay and relaxing, and teach your husband what you already know... that jamming things in and ramming them as hard as he can doesn't do any good.
During foreplay, him cuddling you, him spending time caressing you, stroking your hair, gently stimulating you with his fingers to get you ready, etc, because when females become aroused, their vaginal vaults actually relax and expand to acommodate their partner during intercourse.
During actual intercourse, you can change positions to keep him from penetrating quite so far if he is exceptionally large. Subtly scoot your thighs a bit closer together and it will limit how far his penis can be inserted.
You can also simply switch who spreads their legs. You keep your legs together and let him spread his legs apart. You'll be able to accomplish love making just fine that way, he'll probably discover a bit more stability and control from the position, and you'll be able to much more easily keep penetration to a comfortable level for you.
Also, if he changes the angle so his hips are farther up in comparison to yours and his penis is entering at more of an angle, it won't go as far in (and that one has the happy advantage of also having the shaft of his penis stimulate your anatomy much more, so women usually report sex feels much better when guys do this).
Positioning where you're on your side and he cradles you from behind will also provide that effect and allow you to control how far in he gets by how close or far apart you hold your thighs.
There's a lot more you can do, so if you and your husband need more help, feel free to email me privately and I'll tell you all I can. =)
2006-06-10 12:31:32 · answer #1 · answered by AndiGravity 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's funny, but i have encountered this myself. There is such a thing as too big and some men are FAR too big. It can be very painful, particularly if they are the kind to rush. A woman must be properly lubricated to handle such a man, and that mean either lots of foreplay to get the juices flowing or it mean you need to think about something like KY jelly.
You also need to tell him so that he can be gentle with you, particularly in the beginning. It can be very painful to have a too long penis poking your cervix. You need to couch it in very respectful terms - but he will understand and if he is a good man he will want to please you as you want to please him.
I do think that as time goes by this will be less of a problem for you, but I can imagine that it is hard to take now. Peace!
2006-06-10 20:06:35 · answer #2 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what you're asking but I did see this thing on Family Business, it's called a 'Not Too Deep Donut'. From what I understood it supposed to help in situations like yours.
Google that and see what comes up.
2006-06-10 19:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to only use half of it an you tell him when to insert more until you feel you can't take it anymore. It's all on how you feel, I'm sure he doesn't want to hurt you so just let him know when he has enough inside.
2006-06-15 13:38:12 · answer #4 · answered by Star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh girl! That's a problem?! Enjoy that nice penis! :)
Have sex in positions where he is not penetrating you deeply.
(Get a karma sutra book)
2006-06-10 19:21:52 · answer #5 · answered by TwiggyJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce and marry AndyGravity :-)
2006-06-12 13:40:49 · answer #6 · answered by Lalasamayi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jack his hogg off.
2006-06-14 15:53:34 · answer #7 · answered by stosh2799 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope your not complaining-thats a good thing
2006-06-10 19:20:45 · answer #8 · answered by crazzzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to you ob-gyn and mostly tell your husband so he don't think you are rejecting him--men have so little ego
2006-06-10 20:23:46 · answer #9 · answered by lvhumphries 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him not to use it all then only put half of it in not the whole thing.
2006-06-10 19:20:57 · answer #10 · answered by shopgirl27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋