why is it that women are heart less and vindictive.?

Question

married for ten years and then my wife walked out on me 3 days before christmas like it was nothing she told me it was because i was a angry person so i took anger management to prove i loved her but she wouldnt even stick by my side how ever after i graduated class she came to see me graduate but she was seeing another guy wtf why would she come to see that even tho she was with someone else aka her boyfriend. needless to say i learned alot from that class its 2 years later and still alone just wondering why women are like that plz answer

Answer 1

Are u sure she is the blame? A woman is only as good as her husband

Answer 2

If it has been two years, why do you even care about her? Not all women are heartless and vindictive but some have been victimized by men (or even other women) so much that they become that way as a defense mechanism. By the way, she can't be heartless or vindictive if she came to see you graduate.. she came because she realized that it was important to you. Also, sometimes, one party in a relationship realizes before the other that it is time to let go and move on. Eventually, you will decide that it is best for you to move on too.

Answer 3

I'm sorry your story turned out that way. My suggestion is to realize that this one got away partially because of the damage you did before managing your anger and its not someone else's fault or a genrally trait all women have in commom.

Women are not vindictive. Women are people and there are vindictive people and kind people. Now that you are not out to find a mate to work out your anger issues with (we attract the ones we need to work out our issues, you know) maybe you have a new chance to find another woman who is kind and loving.

Don't focus on 'why are they heartless and vindictive.' That will only bring vindictive women into your perception. Ever buy a new car and suddenly you see those cars all over the place. Same thing with our other thoughts. If you are lookings for unkind women, you'll find them. Look for kind women and you'll find them too.

AND finally, when you can see it is not all women but one woman you have a problem with, you need to work toward forgiving that erson, namely your ex. I assume you were not in a bad marraige the entire 10 years. Well, you and her worked hard to keep it together for that long. She deserves a lot of credit. She did good things too and she deserves a little credit for those as well.

That relationship, hard as it may be to face, failed and you have to move on now, as does she. Try being kind though this ordeal and kindness will be reflected back into your life, even now if you start today. Human beings are very reflective creatures. Ever smile warmly and say hi to a stranger on the street? What happens 99% of the time (unless you live in New York, or course)? They say hi back. Being kind to people has the same affect. Be kind to you, your ex and the new people in your life and things will get better, I promise.

Answer 4

I am sorry for what you have gone through but not all women are the same... And you should focus on the future that you have instead of why she did this or that... I know that I have a husband that can fly off at your least expecting it but I finally stood up for myself and told him what I thought and now he is different for the most part... You have two issues to deal with and the anger issue seems to be under control, now you just need to deal with the fact that it is two years later and move on and stop thinking that we are all the same.. It simply is not the case... I commend you on how far you have come and I hope the best for you... I am not sure what type of person she is but in her defense she dealt with it the only way she could. I am sure she lost some of herself over those years.. Move forward from here... I will be looking for your questions from now on.........

Answer 5

Women do what they want. They can act anyway they like and you have to deal with it... It's all about power and who has it... I think women have the upper hand... Maybe in some case it's the opposite but generally women have more control.

Answer 6

Hmmm... Not all women are 'heartless'. Just because you got your heart stomped on by one girl doesn't make us all like that.

Yeah, but it is a little odd to take another guy to your ex-husband's graduation thingy.

Sometimes it has to do with something you did. If she said you were an angry person maybe she just got fed up with your negative attitude and her feelings for you gradually decreased. I don't know the entire situation and I really don't know you so it's hard to predict.

All I can say is that she wasn't happy in the marriage...

Answer 7

My GF has a mustache and guy hair on her nipples and he or she's 70 pounds obese, by no ability makes a mistake, is often suited, and is maximum manipulative.She's Italian, from northern element.

Answer 8

It's not fair to say that all women are like that. There are plenty of women who are caring and loving. Glad you learned something from your class. Be patient and I'm sure you'll find one of the nice women that I know for a fact is out there.

Answer 9

Not all women are heartless and vindictive. My husband cheated on me and then told me about it on my birthday but you don't see me grouping all men into one category. I stayed with him so i'm not heartless and as bad as i wanted to get even i didn't so i'm not vindictive either. i'm sure you'll find someone to stick through the bad times with you if you quit lumping all women into one category.

Answer 10

Did you take the class for you or for her?? You are alone by choice. It sounds as if you may have gotten the knowledge but not the lesson.She showed support for your well being by being at your graduation.Continue to work on you for you and the rest will come. Peace.

Answer 11

yo ur angry at your wife so to brand all women heartless isn't being fair there are alot of women out there who have been through the same as yourself