It lasted for two years, he says it was over a year ago. Very remorseful and begging me to stay. I am so angry and hurt, but want to move on and forgive.
2006-06-10 11:09:08 · 11 answers · asked by mondopie7000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Too bad he didn't think about all of that when he made the choice to cheat. Sometimes it's too late to go back and try to fix what was broken. Forgive and move on.
2006-06-10 11:26:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello V
If he is truley sorry and remorseful and wants to make it work you should be happy about this and try to give him another chance. At least he is sorry and remorseful unlike most men that do this. He obviously still loves you and wants to make the marriage work again in spite of everything so that is a good thing. I feel however you both need marriage counseling and help here. You also need counseling for yourself to start to heal from the pain this has caused you and that someday you should find it in your heart to forgive him! I am here if you ever need to talk and i would like to recommend a great website at http://www.marriagetoday.org with some helpful resources as well! I sure understand your anger and hurt but if you get the help you need and learn to forgive this will help heal you and your marriage down the road. SIt and breathe and think before acting is all i am saying and please pray about it!
2006-06-10 14:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How important is fidelity to the foundation of your relationship and your self identity? I think that if there are other things in your relationship that are more important, then you can probably over come it. However, it lasted for two years, so he had to lie a lot to make that happen. He probably also made up things about how you were to blame for fights so he could leave the house. The whole thing causes so many layers of hurt and poison, it is really hard to overcome. Fundamentally, if your husband is selfish and insecure, it probably can't be fixed. Even if you want to forgive - the problem is and probably never was with you. So, you being selfless, loving and forgiving doesn't help. Because the problem is inside of him. That, combined with the lying and sneaking that it takes to maintain an affair for two years is just hopeless. Well, not hopeless, but unlikely that someone who could do that to you has the character to face and overcome the disaster they created... in my opinion.
2006-06-10 12:51:28 · answer #3 · answered by luxury6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It went on for TWO YEARS and NOW he's remorseful?! Now, if it was a one time deal, I could see how you might consider forgiving (although personally, I wouldn't even do that), but TWO YEARS?! He had two years to respect you enough to stop and he didn't. Why keep yourself in that situation? Of course he's begging you to stay...she probably doesn't want him anymore!
2006-06-10 13:08:51 · answer #4 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can forgive him but you should leave him. It's dangerous to cheat period but to cheat with a prostitute is just crazy. He has issues within himself that he needs to deal with. If you stay the relationship will only get worst. He will change for a few months and then he will be back out there. You can either stay and deal with it or leave. You deserve better. Remember this Love is God and God has nothing to do with affairs, prostitutes, cheating, etc.
2016-03-27 00:11:56 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to resolve in your heart to truly forgive him. Once you forgive him the anger and bitterness will go. You should both get into marriage counseling. Counseling will help get your marriage back on track and help establish healthy communication. I've been in a similar situation and counseling has been a true blessing.
2006-06-10 11:31:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's a hard thing to do...forgiving your husband, that is. Getting over his infidelity is going to be difficult because there is a lack of trust. If you feel you want to move on, I would consider counseling. I think counseling would help out a lot. If you feel that it's too hard to forgive him, I wouldn't stay with him.Good luck.
2006-06-10 11:29:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well its good u guys want to work on ur marriage, sorry it happened to you all, it will be the hardest thing in ur life to put this behind you, because thats where it will always be, in the background, u will never be able to forget it, seek some type councling is the best thing you two can do, wish u all the luck in the world and hope things work out for you
2006-06-10 12:00:15 · answer #8 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk it over dinner. Make sure there is no emotional baggage and move on and remain friends only if u have children together. The best thing is just not to be enemies, its bad for the heart.
2006-06-10 11:33:50 · answer #9 · answered by thenameofthegame_violence 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless, you must forgive him...Not saying that you must forget it, cause you can't do that....Also forgive yourself for being so blind to his lies and deceitfulness..More than likely he will do it again, but just Pray on it and ask God to lead you..It will be alright...
2006-06-10 11:39:16 · answer #10 · answered by Feisty AKA Mrs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋