hubby cheated for years try to stay for kids but i cant no more he has move out i need to take that final step and scared kids will hate me but i cant be unhappy the rest of my life
2006-06-10 10:56:05 · 7 answers · asked by Frankie g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your kids will grow up and eventually get a life of their own, and if they don't understand now they will then. I am talking from experience when I say to go go go. Believe me, the kids feel the tension, and some take it personal.
Just make sure u let them know that you both love them, just not each other and things have to change for the better. You don't say how old they are but u can make it age appropriate on how to tell them. The younger they are, the more simple u say it. Good Luck.
2006-06-10 14:05:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You deserve so much more than a husband who cheats. Your children will be happy if you are happy. You can try counseling but, the most important thing is to realize you deserve better. Sometimes we stay with someone even if we are not happy because change is scary but through change comes growth and you will be better and stronger once through it. The kids will respect you as long as you don't bad mouth their father in front of them. If he had cheated once I would suggest something different but, if he has done it alot....let go and move on. You deserve love and happiness.
2006-06-10 11:25:59 · answer #2 · answered by healer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your husband still cheating and unfaitful to you? If so get out and leave and take the kids with you. It is actually more hurtful to your kids to watch you two not love each other and not get along and to see the pain in your marriage then if you divorce and move on with your life. Seek counseling and help for this and pray about it as well! Hope this helps you some!
2006-06-10 14:56:09 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you did was stay for the kids sake, you should have left the first time he cheated and the kids would have been younger and less to explain to them. You need to hold your head up high and keep your chin up and don't let anyone walk all over you like that. That is the biggest disrespect anyone can have for their spouse is to cheat. If there isn't any trust, there isn't anything.
2006-06-10 11:18:56 · answer #4 · answered by orgrmichael 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not always better to stay for the kids. You need to think about yourself too. Are you happy? Do what feels right. It will be a hard decision but don't throw your life away..
2006-06-10 11:22:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be 4 you move on make sure you know what ur lookin 4 and its good for the kids. the kids will adapt but. the kids will like it at xmas and birthdays they get more gifts. just be careful who u pick as a step-father
2006-06-10 14:21:29 · answer #6 · answered by fourwheelin60 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your right it time for you to move on,, you need to feel Happy inside ,if your not happy how can you make your kids happy, they will understand
2006-06-10 12:07:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋