PLEASE HELP ME to understand?? I am homophobic..read more?

Question

I am trying to be a good person and a spiritual person. However, I am human.I don't understand the gay/lesbian life because I am hetrosexual.I don't especially understand how a man could kiss another man and "other things". this is a serious question. I would prefer answers to help me change my viewpoint - as I understand we are all children of God...thank you for help in HELPING ME see from a different perspective....i am trying to grow as an individual

Answer 1

You don't have to understand, you just have to accept. I accept that some people are idiots. That is just the way they are and they can't help it. I don't discriminate against them.

Answer 2

The fact that you can admit to being homophobic is a good sign. Sometimes being spiritual means accepting that we are all on this earth together. Period. You are right, we are all God's creatures. That is a start for you, since no one here can give you enough of an answer to solve your problem, because it isn't a matter of trying to understand how gay and lesbian relationships happen. It is a matter of understanding that love doesn't need an explanation. It is simply a fact of life.

Answer 3

Well, I could say (like your answer to moia) ‘Someone gave you some Bad Dope,‘ and in some respects, that isn’t probably too far from the truth (subjective use of the word ‘Dope’).

Tell me, do you know how a telephone works?

Ok, you answer is likely to be ‘No,’ but you accept that it does. Well, homosexual love, or desires and your understanding of them is no real different. The bottom line is that ‘you don’t understand and don’t NEED to understand, you just need to accept’ ….Then you are free to get on and make all the calls you need to (if you follow my metaphor).

My neighbour is an ugly woman, and quite how her husband can love her and think of making love to her, well, it’s not something I can understand and refuse to dwell on. But then, I’m not him and don’t see her through his eyes and with his heart and desires, nor do I need to. I simply accept that they love each other and have feelings for / about each other.

(Actually, my neighbour and his wife are both lovely, but I’m just stretching the image a bad way to make a point here.)

It might help you if you’d drop the label with ‘Gay / Homosexual ’ written on it and simply look at it as ‘just two people who have feelings for each other.’ They may be the same sex, the same religion, ethnic grouping and so on, but, and the point is this, two individuals feel emotions for another. Hopefully, from their emotional experience they can grow into better (more rounded and richer) people.

Regards,
Sash,.

Answer 4

To understand how silly this question sounds to me, let me re-write a part of it by changing a few words around:

"I don't understand the straight life because I am homosexual. I don't especially understand how a man could kiss a woman and 'other things'."

That must sound silly to you. Why? Because it's what's "normal" for you. Well, normal is relative. If you can possibly stop thinking of straight love as the only way that people can love, then you may have a chance to understand it. Otherwise, never mind, you'll never get it.

P.S. Why is it I never hear anyone say they're heterophobic?

Answer 5

first of all , wondering about what people do in their own private life is perverted whether you are imagining gay or straight people. If you get a kick out of doing that in your own privacy that's fine. However, when you start describing and judging what people do behind their close doors, you are a pervert!! I do not know how wide your knowledge is about sex. From the very normal mild to the most kinky and extreme. Regardless of sexual orientation, I bet you could not imagine the things people do to each other out of pleasure be them gay or straight. So take the sex out of that equation, you pretty much look at there are no difference between the straights and the gays. Humans need to feel belong and love regardless of what kind it is. Under the eyes of God, we are just one of the billions of his creation. And only he can judge and explain why things are the way there are. Not by you , I or anyone else to make judgements on others.

Answer 6

It's scary that there were so many hateful and ignorant replies to your post.

People fear what they don't understand.

I will try to make it short and simple but it is very complex, just like many things in life and love.

#1. Lesbian women like to kiss other women because they are attracted to them in a romantic way, just like you being a girl are attracted to a boy. Love is love. The body is just an outside shell for the soul where true love lives.

#2.There are gay, lesbian, bi, straight, and other people and animals that God make as his children and loves. He wants us to love each other and be good. You can show love and be good in any of these forms. Again love is love. God would not dislike somebody for loving someone, think about it.

#3.You may have stereotypes in your mind about what other people or sadly a bogus church told you. They are not true. Go to a Gay/Straight Alliance to meet people different from you or volunteer at a group that deals with GLBTQ youth, so you can talk to and learn about these people as real human beings.

Please keep us informed about how you are going to get rid of your homophobia. You have taken the first step wanting to learn more about it and other views. Education is power. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 7

Why would you want to change this viewpoint? I'm serious. You can love the person but you don't have to love their sin. You actually SHOULDN"T love the sin. Are you aware of all the Bible verses about homosexuality? (If not, contact me and I will send them to you..I would post them here but I don't know if you already know them all). You are a good person and a spiritual person-you just have a conscience and you know when something is sinful. This is not to say that you have to hate all gay people...but you don't have to try to force yourself to think that these things are all okay and natural just because that's what people are telling you you HAVE to believe to be a good person!

http://traditionalvalues.org/urban/three.php

Answer 8

It's actually pretty simple. It's like me asking you how you could kiss a man with blond hair when I prefer people with black hair. It's a matter of preference. I prefer to be in relationships with other women. The same attraction you feel towards a man, I feel towards other women. It's not something you can control, it's just what you're attracted to. The whole religious viewpoint on homosexuality doesn't affect me because I am atheist.

Answer 9

its okay to be homophobic. I am also and I don't care. I treat homosexuals fairly and If they applied for a job I would hire them based on merit.

Yet at the same time I would be aware of the type job I would offer them. I actually have friends who are gay. They are females, I have learned from them that homosexuals to impose their beliefs on young and the weak.

I also would not have sex with a gay female. Why? because they are a high rsik group for aids. Well, gays are just as disloyal to their partners as hetrosexuals are. Gay females would have sex with gay guys. That way less strings would be attached if they wanted to slip over the line and not let their gay mate know.

So I think you can be justified in being homphobic.

Answer 10

If you think that being gay doesn't make sense, imagine what a gay person thinks about a homophobic person! Gay is illogical by nature. Homophobia is illogical to the point of ridiculousness. What the f is there to be afraid of? Grow up and understand that interacting with a gay person can't possibly hurt you.

Answer 11

Many people are homophobic.
It's a normal feeling a lot of people get.

Homosexuality is NOT wrong.
Christian groups are out to make a Holy War.
Sign's reading "God Hates Homosexuals"
and "1 Man + 1 Woman".
Fact is, God doesn't hate gay people. Christian people hate gay people. I am Christian and I support gay people and gay marriage.
What two people want to do with their life is between them and God and nobody else. And if it's a sin, then that's between them and the Lord. If your gay, you are not going to hell. It's what you do in life that paves the road to the afterlife, not your sexual orientation.

Don't be confused by gay people. They are as normal as you and me. They just like the same sex. This is caused by the way they grew up, a one sex family (1 boy 5 sisters) and sometimes (most times) homosexuality comes from out of no where. They start to realize that they like the same sex. No one knows how this happens and why... but that just the way it goes.