my god mom resently had a miscarige she is like my mom and i dont wont to say the wrong thing and offend her so i really dont know wat to do about this problem
2006-06-10 10:14:04 · 7 answers · asked by roselyn_okoche 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Just ask her how she is feeling, and if there is anything you can help her with. She may not want to talk about it yet, talking from experience, the emotional pain will be there for a long time.
2006-06-10 14:29:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't say you know how she feels. No one can know what someone is feeling in a time like this, even people who have been through it have different emotions then others. Just tell her you are sorry and offer support. Sometimes bringing them a present for the baby can help, a flower, a plant.. something that is living that they can nurture. I would ask if there is anything she needs from you. Be specific. LIke "can I wash your dishes?" or "would you like me to bring a meal in for you?" These show you care without being intrucive on her emotions. Just being available for her is good too. Let her know that if she needs you, you are there. One of the best things people did for me was just to say that they were there if I needed a shoulder, or just to talk.
2006-06-10 17:35:49 · answer #2 · answered by odd duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you're sorry for her loss and you're there for her if she needs to talk or cry. You can also tell her you don't know what to say.
Don't say things like "You'll get over it. It was for the best. The baby probably wasn't well. At least you can still have other children." All of these will be painful for her.
I'm sorry she has to go through this.
2006-06-10 17:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Silence is abandonment. Go there, cry with her. Don't tell her she will have another. When you lose a child, you lose a future; when you lose a parent, you lose a past. They had hopes and dreams, this baby was real, grieve with her. You don't have to say anything, just be there. If you offer her your help, be sincere.
2006-06-10 17:26:08 · answer #4 · answered by amaridy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know that you are there for her if she needs to talk. There's not really anything you can say unless you have experienced it yourself. I had a miscarriage and nothing my family said comforted me because they just didn't get it.
2006-06-11 00:36:57 · answer #5 · answered by Ammie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could say "im sorry for your loss" but maybe its best that she brings up the subject, dont go to her and say sorry for your loss, thats the worst. Don't bring it up until she does.
2006-06-10 17:19:20 · answer #6 · answered by lalala 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry for your loss.
2006-06-10 17:18:59 · answer #7 · answered by evie_cooper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋