i was sexually assalted and have missed 3 periods, im 12?

Question

im scared to do anything even though i know that it wont go away. i need help!

Answer 1

You must tell your parents immediately or call 911. They will help you. Please do it now. You have nothing to be ashamed of. It is not your fault.

Answer 2

#1... you were assaulted, this is NOT YOUR FAULT.

If the perpetrator is not in your family or a family friend then go to your parents immediately and explain what happened. They are not going to handle it well, they are going to be angry (not at you most likely but at the perpetrator) It's going to be alright. In the future you'll understand but to them 12 is really really young and they aren't going to want to think of something like this having happened to you. You are precious. Tell them anyway. They need to know. Start by talking about the assault. That is the real issue that must be dealt with.

If it was someone in your family or a family friend then go to a trusted teacher or adult at your school. Again focus on the assault that is the biggest issue right now. This person is getting away with it if it isn't reported and while you may be fine with that when it comes to the situation with you. I would encourage you to think of other girls that this could happen to if he is not stopped.

Whichever trusted adult you talk to they will hopefully encourage you to talk to the police. I would recommend this highly for reasons I stated above. They will connect you with resources so you can have a pregnancy test and test for STD's.

Now about potential pregnancy... how long have you been regular on your period. I honestly didn't get a regular period until I was 14 so it is possible that you just aren't regular yet. If you go through the proper steps for reporting the assault then there will be resources for testing for pregnancy. You should keep in mind that it is not your fault.

I would like to encourage you if it is the case that you are pregnant that you consider the fact that it isn't a baby's fault either. It is still your choice to make. Don't let anyone bully you into either decision. It would be a hard road either way you move. People who have aborted babies often have a lot of grief and depression for doing so, same with people who give their kids up for adoption though I've seen that be much more successful for the mother. If you have a child and choose to keep it that is also a very hard path. There are a lot of resources out there for you though. Research them, take advantage of them, and come back with more specific questions as they come up.

Answer 3

Hun it sounds like you are pregnant. I am so sorry to hear that. You really need to talk to your parents if you haven't already. This is going to be so hard because you are so young. Please do not abort the baby though. After you have given birth to the baby, you can either give it up for adoption, or your parents can raise it or another family member. I know a lot of people say that if you give it up for adoption, it will end up in an abusive home. Thats not true...they only use that as an excuse. If you go about it the right away, the people who take care of the adoption for you, will make sure that whoever is intrested in adopting your baby, has filled out papers and undergone a backround check etc. They will make sure the baby ends up with the right people.
I' am so sorry to hear this, but please talk to your parents and make sure you make the right decicion. I wish you well.

Answer 4

No one has the right to assault you. Get angry about this! It's not your fault!

Tell your parents. If you're afraid to tell them - find another adult you trust and get them to help you tell your parents. Think about teachers, parents of friends - some adult will listen.

You could be pregnant and need to deal with that possibility but you also need to deal with what happened so it will never happen to you or anyone else again. You need counselling to help you deal with this situation.

No matter how this happened - you are not responsible. You didn't cause it or deserve it. It had nothing to do with what you were wearing or who you were with. Even if you were somewhere your parents told you not to go - it doesn't matter. They love you and will be concerned about you. People who assault kids are pedophiles. They are not good people.

Even if the person who did this is a family member, you need to tell. You can be a hero and get new strength from this. You are strong and you are not alone. Lots of people have come through terrible experiences like this. You can too.

Answer 5

Is there an adult you can trust who could take you to the Dr? Can you go to the school nurse? You should see a Dr. right away in case the person who assaulted you had an std. If the person who assaulted you has not already been arrested and charged you should report him. There are people who can help you. Go to the police. Don't let him get away with it. It could happen again to you or someone else. Most public government buildings (libraries, fire stations, etc.) in my area have a "Safe" sign on them. It is a yellow sign with a picture of arms embracing and the word "safe" on it. You can find someone in these places who would be willing to help you. They will help you find a child advocate and keep you in a safe place. Don't wait. You need to get help.

Answer 6

Hunni, you say you are 12, maybe you arent that regular yet. But then again I suppose it is possible to fall pregnant at that young age. I would suggest that you go the Special Victims Unit of your local police station. And get a test from a family planning clinic. They can help you all you need,.
There are options that you have. Adoption and rasing the baby yourself. I believe taht abortion is murder and that all conceived babies should be given the chance to live, it doesnt matter how they came to be in the first place. If you dont want your baby then somebody will.
[e-mail] is my yahoo ID if you would like to chat further.

Answer 7

Tell your mom or your best friend somebody u trust because when that day comes to have that baby or when u go shopping your mom will realize that u are p because u wear baggy clothes or u eat to much or usually things .So u need to tell your mom but do not kill yourself or the baby just don't just think about the best way u can tell your mom what happen.You should not get in trouble because u did not ask for this to happen.

Answer 8

You need to do 2 things. First, IMMEDENTLY go to the hospital and get yourself checked for STDs and pregnancy. Oh and missing 3 periods has a HUGE chance of meaning that you are pregnant. And 2. Go to your local police station and file charges against the man who assaulted you for it was rape.

Answer 9

People may hate me for saying this but you might wan't to consider abortion. You body isn't ready to give birth yet so just because you are able to get pregnant doesn't mean that you should go through with it. also you probably didn't ant to get preggie so you shouldn't keep the baby.. if you decide to have it (completly up to you) then you need to tell your parents; they will be able to help you and you should feel like you can go to them with anything... otherwise tell a trusted adult but tell someone!
Good luck!

Answer 10

Hopefully you've got someone real to speak about this issue, it's urgent.

Who could that be? Your parents, godmother, grandmother, neighbour, doctor, teacher...?

I'm absolutely sure: Anyone you will involve, will support you as good as they ever could do.

If you are unsure about, try to write down what happened in the next hours - possibly it's easier then to speak about or - otherwise - show someone what your thoughts are.

Wishing you that everything works out fine - you may e-mail me anytime.

Answer 11

First of all you need to tell someone so you can put the loser who did it in jail. Second of all you need to go have a pregnancy test cause most likely your pregnant and then decide whether or not you want to keep the child. If you want to have an abortion GO AHEAD, this is YOUR DECISION , no one elses.