How would a Scorpio & Cancer long term relationship work out? It's been seven years so far & it's been rocky

Question

I'm possesive & he's insecure. (He's the cancer) I like to talk problems out he likes to yell. I want new things in bed but don't know how to get this Cancer to go with it.

Answer 1

The funny thing between the two horoscope are Scorpion likes to lead and they are truly borned leaders and very intelligent, very adaptable to anything, anywhere. Once when they made up their mind on a decision, no one in this world can stop them, not even Hitler or Saddam Hussein. But the funny part about a Scorpion is they have very forgiving personality. Today, they get angry, tomorrow they will joke about yesterday's anger.
Now about the Cancerian. They have very opiniondated personality. The minute they formed an opinion, same thing, even Hitler or Saddam Hussein cannot changed their opinion. Stubborn is an understatement to use on them. I think ignorant and versertile is more appropriate. But the interesting part is, they are very nice to outsiders although not for long, I always wonder why? Talking to a Cancerian must be very careful, because they are super-sensitive though their sensitiveness may come the next day as their character will be why this person say this last night kind of attitude and they will start to imagine things. Their strongest and weakess point is love. Now, we put Scorpions' character and Cancerians' character, all of us will know why they always fight like cats and dogs and yet they both are the best of friends and lovers for such a long time.
Scorpions'
Borned leader Intelligent
Forgiving personality
Decisive

Cancerians'
opiniondated
ignorant and versatile
super sensitive,
imaginative but love deeply
So when you look at the above chart, you will understand, no matter how they fight or quarell throughout their entire life, they just have to live with each other for at least another 40 years if they ever live that long, that is to say.

Answer 2

All relationships go through problems I believe thats what keeps us strong. Im a cancer and I do like talking as well as you do, If he startes to yell dont yell back just keep talking. Seven years is a long time to just give up, I have been in a relationship for Five years and I too have those days when we dont get along but were still together and like i said those rocky days just make our relationship stronger. I know you guys will make it past all this mess. right now both you and him need to be strong and yes communication is the key. Ive never known a cancer that would not want to talk things out but you too have to remember we cancers are sensitive and most times shy in trying new things but if you make the move its alot better for us cancers. Cancers are often quiet because they are worried that if they shared their feelings, others wouldn't love them. For use cancers it is an issue of building enough trust so they feel secure with verbalizing emotions. As for trying new thing sexually cancers can be highly expressive sexually, but may be more hesitant than you, cancers needs tender encouragement and care along the way. Still,cancers are able to receive and reflect the power of your physical urges, even if they seem more fragile.

Answer 3

I wish I could help you but I was in a relationship with a Scorpio and it was also very rocky. He doesn't listen!!! Plus he loves drama! Here's something that might help, I like this site a lot:

I am Scorpio, My Lover is Cancer

Are you in love with a Cancer? Then you have chosen one of your best possible matches. This pairing gets a "10!" Your Cancer is as deeply emotional and empathetic as you are, and together you will develop a rich, intimate life unequalled by any other sign match (except for Pisces and Scorpio). Both of you have your moods, but you allow that in one another, and view the changing emotional landscape as interesting and adding texture to your life. Cancer is a water sign like you, and your lover understands the need for strong, intuitive bonding. Of the two, you are the more inflexible, but Cancer's ability to flow with changing events will be an asset to you.

Sex together will be outstanding. Cancers want a family, and Scorpio rules procreation, so this could well be a very fruitful union. Cancer also rules nurturing, so you will have the kind of home life you always dreamed of.

Now a word of warning: Scorpios want one great love in their lifetime, so if they marry the wrong person due to pressures and circumstances, the results can be disastrous. Prince Charles is a Scorpio and was married to Princess Diana, who was a Cancer. But his true love was the other Cancer -- Camilla. So here you see a Cancer-Scorpio pair that did not last. The moral, Scorpio, is to be sure that you marry your one true love. Even compatible Sun signs can't override that rule!

A Cancer in love, whether in the beginning or after years of life together, offers food as an expression of love. So cook together, feed one another, make love in the kitchen. Have fun! You've got lots to look forward to, Scorpio. Don't let this one get away!

Answer 4

The thing is with horoscopes and people is that it's kind of a tool, but it is not a guide. It gives us clues to a person's personality, and helps a little but I'm sure you know as a Scorpio, water runs very deep. And so do people. Going along with sun signs is hard.

Perhaps you should assess what is going on in your relationship with him. You could have all the planets aligned up the right way for you, and it might never be perfect. In theory, scorps and cancers are perfect lovers, but people are complex beings.

Just remebmer cancerians, even though they can be open minded, they are big traditionalists at heart - that goes for the boudoir as well! They will do things to please you, but it can be volatile. Just remember, cancerians take a long time to change. They don't like change. It's not so much about routine, it's about keeping things the way they are. They cling. They are insecure too, deep within. Just like Scorps. ;).

Maybe it's not about what sign you are, but also what's going on in your heads. Think about that for a while, and it might help you out.

Answer 5

Humm my wife is a Cancer and I am a Scorpio been together bout 13 years. Its been way up and way down. I hear the same parallels in your question. I believe after the first five years in any relationship it will be hard work. And it will only work if you have true love to count on.

Answer 6

First, get rid of the zodiac hang-up. Try accrediting your traits to your own unique and independent personality, and let him take ownership of his traits too. If you honestly believe that a person's character is defined by the stars, then logic dictates that their character is also as unchangeable as the stars - in which case there is no hope of you ever becoming less possessive or in him ever becoming more secure. The relationship will (or won't) work out based on the attitudes and expectations of each of you. Chalking up your personality flaws and disagreements to constellations creates a situation where no one has to be responsible, no one has to compromise, and no one has to grow. This may be why your at a stand-still in the relationship. This won't get better until you recognize your character traits as parts of you that are your own, and that you (not the stars) determine your behaviors, attitudes, decisions, as well as your possessive tendencies and insecurities.

Answer 7

I'm scorpio and my brother is cancer. he is the possesive one and I'm stubborn. we just dont talk for a month or so to cool off.
we love each other so very much though. as for your situation, be happy with what you have, noone is perfect nor have the perfect relationship. now, if you still are uncomfortable, then look for someone better, someone that takes care of your needs :)

Answer 8

I am a scorpio female. I dated a cancer male for 4 years. It was good while it lasted. If you are happy and you want to make it work stick with it. I read a phrase'Anything worth it, is worth working hard for it.

Answer 9

It has nothing to do with astrological signs. If you can't figure that out, you have a lot of growing up to do.

Answer 10

try maybe talking to him - you know communication- works wonders. maybe dont base everything on your sign.