I'm 17 and my boyfriend is talking about sex and he wants to break my hymen (I don't even know if I have it) I said I wanted to wait until I was 18 and I think he has the idea that we can just hit it off as soon as I turn 18. He said that his virginity meant nothing to him and he finds no real importance to it. He's pushing me into having sexual activites with him not including sex. I don't know if feeling uncomfortable about it is normal or not, but he just talks so causually about something I have never experienced. He's more eager about sex than me. Are all men like this?
2006-06-10 09:24:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
If he can't respect your feelings in this and can't wait until you are completely comfortable with this, then he's not the right guy for you.
Also, I do highly suggest you wait until marriage for sex. Anything you do now before you get married could affect your sex life after marriage (Ask me how I know). And you'll be giving something away that belongs to your future husband. Your virginity is a special gift that should be reserved for only your husband. It is not a useless thing, but a very precious thing that you can only give away once. Don't waste it on some 18 year old who will be done in 2 minutes. He's not worth it.
2006-06-10 09:40:13 · answer #1 · answered by momofkings 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You shoulnt feel pushed or forced into sex. No matter what. Is better if you wait until YOU are ready to. Is not up to him. Maybe you should really have a talk with him, make him listen to you.
I mean is it always about sex to him. Cause if it is what does that tell you. There is so much more than just sex
2006-06-10 17:26:32 · answer #2 · answered by you_me_set 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am 17 and I am not planning to have sex until I marry....think of the consecuences and how you will feel after...Say no and dump him if he doesnt accept your desicion because that means he is just using u and he doesnt really care for you. he needs to accept how you feel and your desicions
2006-06-10 16:29:26 · answer #3 · answered by Posh 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
alright. dont think im a slut/whore/etc... but im 15 and i had sex with my boyfriend. i was kinda pressured into sex as well. i was told our realtionship was "unfair" because he had eaten me out and i hadnt "returned the favor". the first time we actually considered and were about to i had an anxiety attack and started crying my eyes out. he understood but the next time we hung out i fell to the pressure and did it. and its not that it didnt make me happy..pleasing him, but that is the one thing i truely regret so far in life. we've had sex a few other times as well, and i really wish we hadnt have. if you dont want to, he should respect your opinion, and if he doesnt he, he doesnt deserve you.
2006-06-10 20:06:26 · answer #4 · answered by Emily 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex is something never meant to be rushed into please wait until you're married, it will pay off in the end. If your boyfriend loves you he will wait and do the right thing. Please don't let him have his way and do something you will regret later.
2006-06-10 16:36:17 · answer #5 · answered by sexy 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No wait until you are married DONT DO IT please dont ruin your life like so many others have!
2006-06-10 16:34:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No we aren't... tell him to calm down.
2006-06-10 16:27:12 · answer #7 · answered by whoselineguy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋