I am very open with my boyfriend about everything. He knows my past [I'm not a virgin] and he accepts me anyway. A while ago I was having anal sex with a man [before we started dating] and he didn't use a condum and he came in my butt. When my boyfriend asked me about it, I lied and said that it was with protection and that he had pulled out before he came anyway. I know that this secret will kill me if I don't tell him. But it will kill him if I do tell him. Do you think I should keep it a secret and forget about it [seems impossible to me] or tell him and hope for the best?
2006-06-10 09:11:32 · 12 answers · asked by lil_tiny_thang112603 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i didnt cheat on him. this was a year before we got together.
2006-06-10 09:32:21 · update #1
dont say ****...if he leaves you for it? trust me this will work: get a love spell done. it will work! but still dont say **** because you done ****** yourself over already..lol
2006-06-10 09:17:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No u know if u really cared about him u would have told him the truth when he asked u the first time. Since u already lied about it...it might take awhile for him to forgive u...but u need to tell him the truth...bc the main thing in a relationship that can break up anyone is a lie.
Good luck!
2006-06-10 16:20:34 · answer #2 · answered by fairy_freedom84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this happened before you guys got together, than I really don't see how it would help if you told him. Obviously he would be very upset, or you would have told him to begin with. What can be gained from telling him? Unless you fear that you have the potential to have or spread some kind of std because of this contact (in which case you are obligated to tell him), then it will only cause grief. What you did before you got together is really none of his business unless you think it puts him in some kind of danger.
2006-06-10 16:50:37 · answer #3 · answered by Autumn BrighTree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats the big deal. He came in your butt, so what. Thats where it is supposed to go. tell him to grow up and not worry about stupid little things.
2006-06-10 16:25:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well first you should make sure the guy didnt give you anything, and then tell your boyfriend. If you dont tell him it might effect the way you feel about him.
2006-06-10 16:17:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Past things are best forgiven :) Just move on !!!
There is absolutely noway, he'll come to know about it in future ?
Just move on and enjoy your relationship, digging buried corpses will only worsen matters!
Move on gal ..enjoy it, but just be loyal to him from now on!
Abhishek
2006-06-10 16:18:34 · answer #6 · answered by Arakan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some other guy came in your butt big deal, if your boy has a problem with that, then get rid of him
2006-06-10 16:17:58 · answer #7 · answered by amanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never cheat on anyone in my life, but if I did I'll let him know, just imagine ur boyfriend cheat in you, how would u feel?
2006-06-10 16:17:47 · answer #8 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell him but make sure u come at him the right way
2006-06-10 16:16:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u shood tell him because you never know what can
happen because u have to say i am really sorry i was just really worried you wood break up with i love u allot so i am really sorry please forgive mewhat i don
2006-06-10 16:21:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋