My boyfriend and I have been together for like 1 month. I'm 15 and he's 16. His Ex is now 2 months pregnant with is child ( or she says its his). I was wondering should I leave him. I mean i love him wit all my heart and I need him in my life.
2006-06-10 08:41:17 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
NO that's exactly what the boy doesn't need right now!! he'll need you to be there to help him through it. if you love him you'll help him in this time of need. and this is a BIG time of need! you'll be surprised how much he'll appreciate it!
2006-06-10 09:18:58 · answer #1 · answered by riotgrl1515 1 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Hello, my name is Christine and I am 20 with a two year old daughter. But before I woke up into reallity I was just like you, you are only 15 and a whole life ahead of you if you know you can't do better in life with someone that really cares about you and is willing to be with you know matter what and don't play games with your heart then stay with him. I had 2 miscarriges and 2 abortions in life with the same boy who had other kids on the side and was playing games. I thought I really loved him and he loved me I was 15 and he was a little older and I had to leave him to find better. But I was always told don't never look for love let love find you. An I would always encourage you to do what your heart says not your mind. If you have to second guess yourself then it's not meant to be.
2006-06-10 09:00:19 · answer #2 · answered by Evelyn R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the baby is born, they can prove whether or not the baby is his. I don't know what state you live in, but the father will be financially responsible for that child until the child is 18!! So if you stay with him, he may not have enough money for you guys to have a child, he probably won't be able to go to college and if he makes her get an abortion, do you want to date someone who wanted their own baby killed? The other thing to think about - she got pregnant 1 month before you started dating him - who will he be having next month ???? This guy does not seem responsible and you don't need this kind of issues in yur life.
2006-06-10 08:53:19 · answer #3 · answered by AnaMay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt base your decision of leaving him on her being pregnant. If she's 2 months pregnant then she got pregnant a month before yall even got together, so it's not like he cheated on you or anything. You say you love him so why would you leave him because his ex is now pregnant? It's not like you have to take care of the baby, he does. Unless you feel that he will cheat on you with her or something then there is really no reason to leave him just because of that.
2006-06-10 09:35:30 · answer #4 · answered by jpowell06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say see how he is handeling this situation...I mean if he is going to be spending all his time and money towards his ex because of the baby its a little sketchy. If he's acting normally towards you I dont see why you should dump him, it's totally fine.
Also- you love him after 1 month of going out with him, and you need him your life, how do you know that yet? I mean if you do great for you but doesnt it take longer??
2006-06-10 09:09:25 · answer #5 · answered by chellegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person you ever truly need is yourself, and a happy you at that! My advice, RUN!!!!!
If you were meant to be, you will be!
But you are way too young to become an instant "step-mommy"...don't you agree?
I became a step-mom at 23, but my situation was much different...I knew my husband was a single Daddy before I fell in love with him. After I met the kids, I fell even harder. But, and I speak from experience as I am now 36 and have 2 biological children with my husband, it is hard.
Having children, caring for children, being married/in a relationship they are all very important jobs and require a lot of your hard work and attention when children are involved! Good luck, talk to everyone that will listen, but most importantly TRUST YOUR GUT....BELIEVE IN YOUR INSTINCTS....God gave them to us women for a reason! Chin up...you are young and have a ton of good living to do!
2006-06-10 08:54:28 · answer #6 · answered by MaHaa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you have only been together a month the you need to sit and think of this at the decision of your life. I would not dump him cuz his ex is having his baby, but i would talk tohim and ask him if he plans to ever go back with her for the baby or whatever. good luck
2006-06-10 08:45:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is going to have to grow up and quick, that child is forever his responsibility and since you've only been with him for a month, it is time to back aside, because you will not be number 1 at any time, nor should expect to be with him, you are young, and there are alot of interesting boys to meet yet, don't make the mistake of tossing your life away so early.
2006-06-10 09:09:21 · answer #8 · answered by bryton1001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing tell him that he needs to ask God to forgive him for having sex when he is not married. Second thing tell him that he needs to get saved by God and only. Third thing tell his ex girlfriend the same thing. fourth thing after the child is born tell him to get a blood test. If it is his I'm not telling you to leave him or stay. You should ask somebody that know's gad to answer your question 100% percent. If the child turns out to be his DON"T get revenge. God said that he would do that better then you or anybody else can.
Good luck. I will be praying for you. Have a bless day and God bless you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-11 11:04:33 · answer #9 · answered by Faithhhh,[♥] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, you're only 15 and it's only been a month. i think you're too young to have to deal with something like this and that you should break up. let him focus on his baby coming and get a job. you should enjoy being a fun loving teen and hang out with your friends and find a new boyfriend that you can just have fun with. remember you're only young once. why play mommy to a baby that's not even yours for a guy you only knew for a month?
2006-06-10 08:49:15 · answer #10 · answered by origchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 month really isn't anything, not did he cheat on you but he is having a child with her. so wheather he loves her or not and if he says he loves you he will have to see that girl for the next 18 years i would leave him. your to young to get involved with someone like that
2006-06-10 08:47:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋