my girlfreind cuts her wrists when she is angry of depressed. i dont get to see her at all this summer, and im worried about her. i dont want to lose her. what do i do, i have tryed talking to her and it didnt help. please help me
2006-06-10 07:46:54 · 30 answers · asked by fallin' angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
UR GF HAS PROBLEM.. GET HER HELP B4 SHE KILLS HERSELF.
2006-06-10 07:48:08 · answer #1 · answered by AzNgUrL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her throughout the summer, u know with a phone! one of my friends used to cut herself, and her bf gets so pissed when she even talks about cutting herself again! um... u just need to find a way to connect to her, and get through to her, i know ur question is how to do that, im really not sure, the only solution i would have is talking to her, but u say it doesn't work so i dunno! looks like ur in a tough situation! well i wish u the best of luck, for u and ur gf!
and im not sure if turning her in is a solution, she could take it the wrong way, and u will lose her, but then again, turning her in could be a good thing, and maybe she will appreciate it, im not sure.
but ask urself what is causing her to be depressed? and maybe she needs anger managment class, so that she can learn how to channel her anger other than cutting herself. again GOOD LUCK!
2006-06-10 07:49:54 · answer #2 · answered by Missy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her issues are more than skin deep. She needs help. If you can't see her this summer, I am sure she is around others that know she self inflicts self mutilation. There is nothing you can do, but hope she gets real help. I knew a girl who did that over a guy every time they got into a fight. Now she is scared for life all over her arms. She admitted herself into a inpatient hospital treatment center and is now attending law school. So there is hope for her yet.
2006-06-10 07:50:37 · answer #3 · answered by young at heart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend is a cutter and since she trusts you enough to allow you to know about it you maybe one of the only people that can help her.
I suggest you try to stay in touch with her over the summer. Talk to her and her parents about it, but more than anything let her know you care about her. Tel that it is because you care about her that you have decided to do this. It is highly likely that she will be angry at you for telling but be frank with her. Let her know you would prefer to have her alive and angry with you than to loose her (have her die) because you kept her secret.
My parents both have(had) co-workers who weren't as fortunate as your girlfriend (to have someone realize something was wrong) they both succeeded in their attempts. So please tell someone else close to her about it and see if you can both convince her to get help.
Also try this site they should be able to help you
http://www.coolnurse.com/self-injury.htm
or call this number 1-800-DON'T-CUT (1-800-366-8288)
2006-06-10 08:22:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is to tell her family to seek for professional help, and support her (ask the psychiatrist what you can and can't do), don't let your gf's problems ruin your life as well... it may sound selfish, but is the best thing you can do for the rest of you, she will need a strong support and that's gonna be you, and you need to remain sane to do so... good luck!
2006-06-10 07:56:47 · answer #5 · answered by ma_isa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you REALLY need to tell somebody who can help you, or atleast help u figure out what to do! my friend did this and it ruined her life and now she is so messed up and always says i just wish i wud have had someone to tell or somebody wud have cared enough to step in but we were all a little blind to it. Talk to anyone who could help a counsellor, parents, whomever and when she comes back they will be ready to help her..its the best thing u can do for her, take it from someone who didnt help their friend......help her even if she resists!
2006-06-10 07:50:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to go see a doctor so find a way of doing that. Always be there for her. She may not want to talk yet because it's to painful for her to talk about. Give her time she'll talk.
Good Luck!!!!
2006-06-10 07:51:39 · answer #7 · answered by Breanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to get her help ASAP. and while she is going through all of this, stay with her and be there for her. In the beginning, she may be mad at you, but she will understand later. Even if it is hard, you must do what is right for her if you care about her.
2006-06-10 07:53:27 · answer #8 · answered by pinneapple_418 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then talk to an adult to try to talk to her. cuz if she doesnt get help something bads gonna happen to her like she culd commit suicide. leave everything to an adult after uve talked to him/her. if u dont wanna do that then just be there for her. ask her wats wrong and y shes like this and ask if u culd help with anything. u culd also tell her how u feel bout her doing this to herself.
2006-06-10 07:51:33 · answer #9 · answered by michelleee♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should get her help, go and talk to someone with you and her and someone like a consuler. if you will not be seen her this summer, get her a cell phone and call her and talk to her at least once a day. this will keep you up to date.
2006-06-10 07:52:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you REALLY loved her you'd get her to seek professional help. There are A LOT of places out there that help people like your girlfriend cope with their problems.
2006-06-10 07:50:09 · answer #11 · answered by myhopelesslyshatteredheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋