My boyfriend owns a bar and I think he is sleeping (having Sex) with one of his female bartenders. I wanted to find out if it was true. I asked him and he said no he wouldn't mess around. I made his best friend whom is also my best friend ask him and he told him he wouldn't cheat on his girl friend (me) so should i beleive or dig deeper to see if he is actually telling the truth. To top it off the female bartender hates it when i come to the bar and talk to my boyfriend.
2006-06-10 07:28:45 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No real way to know for sure, but if you're already that mistrustful of him that you're going behind his back and having his friends ask him..... Odds are it's not going to last much longer. In my opinion you should believe until you have reason not to trust him. Does he come home with lipstick on his collar, other women's hair all over him, etc. etc. etc. Then again, with owning/running a bar, even that won't be a dead give-away as drunk people are all the time trying to score a free drink or get on the good side of the owner... As for the female bartender hating it when you come into the bar, multiple possibilities here.... 1, you're right and she's annoyed that you're where she wants to be with him... 2. He doesn't pay attention to the bar when you're there, so therefore she's annoyed at the situation more than you... 3. You make a big issue of being his girlfriend and make her feel like she's doing something wrong when she's not, and THAT's what she hates... Or could be something else entirely..... Probably haven't been too much help, but figured I'd put my 2 cents worth in and give you another perspective to view on this subject.
2006-06-10 07:35:35 · answer #1 · answered by Alan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is trust him and take his word (unless he has cheated on you in the past). If you keep pressing and asking him and his friends, etc he will either dump you or end up really cheating on you! Let it go. Just go to the bar and visit him every once and a while and make sure you are in that girls face so she can see you and your BF are still together. OR apply for a job at your BFs bar. Tell him you need some extra money and see if he could find a position for you. Then he would never be able to cheat even if he wanted to cause you are there. And if he is willing to hire you then he isnt cheating unless he is majorly stupid cause if he was cheating he wouldnt want you around.
2006-06-10 14:35:53 · answer #2 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a change that maybe she likes him and is jealous. But if he says hes not that's what you should go by. Trust is key in any relationship and if you feel that you can trust him then maybe you need to reevaluate yourself and your relationship. But if you dig deeper and find nothing and he find that you didn't trust him you can risk him leaving, and if you find something are you ready to deal with that.. People often search for answer that they don't really want to know or aren't ready for
2006-06-10 14:35:40 · answer #3 · answered by LoTs2ShArE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are in the bar one night...ask her. Look at her reaction to the question. Having a mutual friend ask the question isn't gonna solve anything, he knows the answer will get back to you. Have a friend of yours that he doesn't know play spy for you one night. Might be a bit immature, but it might help ease your mind. Good luck.
2006-06-10 14:33:52 · answer #4 · answered by Spicer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check his accounting books and see if the female bartender in question is making overtime!
2006-06-10 14:35:04 · answer #5 · answered by tim b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is no trust move on. What's the point of all this drama?
2006-06-10 14:40:04 · answer #6 · answered by Irish 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
watch his every move stay at that bar all day if you have to
2006-06-10 14:31:10 · answer #7 · answered by jjd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why, besides paranoia, do you think he's cheating? that's a very big accusation with no apparent basis.
2006-06-10 14:33:12 · answer #8 · answered by Daniel T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stalk him.
2006-06-10 14:31:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋