I'm very frustrated with the relationship between my husband and my mom. Over the years, I have learned that my mom can be a very controlling and manipulative person, but I still care for her, as she *is* my mother. My husband of five years has tried his best to befriend her, but Mom still finds faults in him. I know that my husband does try his best, but it frustrates me when he refuses to put out a helping hand at all, just because my mom doesn't like him. If it were me, I would still try to have the upbeat, friendly attitude and give it my best shot. He just refuses, which makes my mom dislike him even more. I don't expect them to be "buddy buddy", but I would like to be able for them to get along well enough so that I do not feel torn between them in arguments. I'm pitted on sides, either picking my husband or my mom! By just letting my husband's attitudes slide, it makes him look worse to my mom, when he really is a great person. What do I do???
2006-06-10 06:58:16 · 4 answers · asked by vintageapple 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell her she is making you take sides.
Tell them both that they need to get along, for YOUR sake.
2006-06-10 07:02:11 · answer #1 · answered by Hippie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
will to me it sounds like you think your husband is in the wrong but he is not i think he is right and maybe you need tell your mom off because he is your husband and you shouldnt feel like you are being torn in between you should be on your husbands side especially if he has been trying to get along with her if anything i would just let them hate each other you love your mom and still see her if she starts to talk crap about him you need to set her straight and the same for your husband be on his side to his face love him and if he starts acting bad against your mom set him straight and if it keeps on just let them both know you are tired of it and if they love you they will get along or quit bi*ching because you dont want to hear it
2006-06-10 14:09:02 · answer #2 · answered by charity_nicole_07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, here's the deal. U no longer have to please ur mom. ur family is now with ur husband. it is not ur husband that has to learn to get along or accept certain things in the relationship it is ur mother that has to do that. She stills wants to control ur life and now that he is it, she wants to control his as well. U have to tell ur mom that she is out of line and if she can't control herself and accept ur husband and respect ur marriage to him. Then she will just be missing out on the new things that might happen in ur life.
2006-06-10 14:06:08 · answer #3 · answered by anikogc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only put up with so much for so long. Why should he put on a front for someone who doesn't give a damn about him. Good for him. Give the bi_tc_h a taste of her own medicine
2006-06-10 14:02:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋