My fiancee and I fight alot but we love each other and have great passion, Do you thing this is normal?

Question

I was hoping to get more opinions....

I was married before and we never fought but we didnt have passion so it is hard for me to know what is relativaly normal so that is why I am asking for opinions...

Answer 1

It depends upon what you fight about and how the fights resolve. Are they healthy? Are the fights stupid? Do fights involve putting the other person down? Does one person always win?

It is one thing to have a lot of passion for each other but sometimes relationships thrive off of fighting. To me, this isn't healthy. Most successful relationship have healthy fights, but I wouldn't consider them all-consuming nor common. But each person is different. Perhaps you and your fiancee enjoy the high drama of fighting...

I suggest you do some reading at the book store before tying the knot on this one. Some suggested titles that might apply on Dr Laura Schlessinger's "Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands", "Women Power", "Ten Stupid Things Women Do To Screw up Their Lives." I believe she has another one called Ten Stupid Things Couples do To Screw up their Relationships. I find her advice dead-on for the most part. You may find other books that'll help you make the decision.

Ultimately, you have to ask yourself, "Do you want to live the rest of your life constantly fighting?"

Answer 2

I think this depends on what you are fighting about, how often and how far it gets taken. Me and my fiancee used to fight so much that I started to think that great sex is the only reason we are together, but one day I stopped to pay more attention and I realized that all of our fights were over money and th etopic of money bills and finances. We worked out a way to deal with that issue calmly and we get along great now.
Spats will always happen maybe even an all out screaming match will happen every now and then, the most important thing is that you always know when to swallow your pride and end th efight...

Answer 3

fighting is normal to an extent. usually when you spend allot of time fighting but have a abundance of passion that is a sign of a short term relationship if you don't work on what is the cause of the fighting and on strengthening your relationship a key function to being in a marriage is being together you two against the world that isn't possible if you two are against each other at times. If you are talking about marriage I would advice getting marriage counseling. so that you two go into it with a better understanding of yourselves and each other.

Answer 4

small spats are one thing, and if you brush them off and learn from them, then as time goes by, there will be less and less of them. And, once you all learn how to handle the relationship, the spats will be fewer. But don't think there will come a time when you won't fight...that is part of life. My advice is to PUT IT DOWN as fast as possible, avoid hot buttons that are not going to change. If you can live with each other's oddities, then no problem .. but if you fight over the same things again and again, you have a building problem that will get worse with time, not better.

Answer 5

Couples fight a lot. Two people cannot be exactly the same. So there is going to be some arguing.
Fighting = Passion
It's good to be passionate, especially when it's something you believe in.
I think it's normal.

Answer 6

NO- unless you want to accept this pattern as normal. And I have lived through 12 years of hell because of my wife's hot temper.

Answer 7

yes, It is OK to fight as long as you aways make up.

Answer 8

YES, JUST AS LONG AS NO ONE IS PHYSICALLY GETTING HURT

Answer 9

sure it's normal. do you want to live that way?

Answer 10

yea, just dont go too far with it though.