Last weekend we had a family emergency w/my family not in laws. My BIL came out took my son for the weekend I thought how sweet I said sure He would never let anything happen to him. So this weekend comes and I get home from work last night and my hubby said our son was at my MIL and FIL's I thought no big deal. I got up this AM around 830 and I have called there many times and can not reach anyone Please understand they would not let harm to come to him either. I can not drive over there my husband has taken the car he will not be car for 2 hours. I am not being parinoid But I can tell my MIL is keeping my son from me. She does not like me at all. She thought it was ok when my BIL gf told me that she would spank my son when he said "no" to the GF. She thinks that he shouldnot be in school but my son loves it I can not take that away from him. I do not want to keep my son from my in laws but she will not listen when I try and talk to her abt.
2006-06-10 06:22:17 · 12 answers · asked by Mrs. Mac 4 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please understand my husband does not agree with his mothers actions but also feels the same way I do does not want to keep our sn from his grandparents and uncle. We want to give him everything in life. So where do I draw the line when she will not even listen to me when I tell her that I want my son home with me. According to her my house is never clean enough funny thing is her son lives here too and he never cleans but that was her doing. He does clean up but not as much as I do but I am not mad abt that.
3 minutes ago
BTW I have been calling all morning and now I jsut called and they took the phone off the hook
2006-06-10 06:22:55 · update #1
GIRLFRIEND SOUNDS LIKE A MESS, HOWEVER LET THEM BE THE GRANDPARENTS AND YOU TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THE SITUATION GO AWAY FOR THE WEEKEND AND LET THEM LOOK FOR YOU
2006-06-10 06:30:59 · answer #1 · answered by Lorraine W 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Ok, so they want to see your child on the week ends. If the child returned home last week end and left this weekend.
If they will not allow him to be in harms way and they spend time with him on the weekends and you have to work?
He is just going to have to learn, each house has different rules. Not that big of a deal. Don't make it out to be one. It is not like she is never going to let you and her son have the child back.
As for the spanking to each their own, I spanked my children and expected anyone Else to do so if they acted up....... There is nothing wrong with spanking a child. Big difference in spanking on the bottom and abuse.
To be honest if you were ringing my phone off the hook, I too might be subject to turning the ringer off. Allow them quality time.
As a grandparent now of a 8 month old grand daughter. Her mother and I don't see eye to eye on some things, but that is life and we deal with it.
I must also say, when the baby gets older my son and daughter in law agree a spanking will not hurt them. Once again I stress spanking not abuse and you already said they wouldn't harm him or subject him to harm
2006-06-10 13:34:31 · answer #2 · answered by young at heart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is such a thing as "the next time." Before there is a next time, you had better set down some serious rules to your MIL, and make her stick to them. At this point, if I were you, I would not care what she thought of me...she is abusing you and if you don't put your foot down now, it will continue. She will play all hurt and innocent, but trust me, she knows exactly what she is doing and she is trying to get to you. Relax, wait until your son comes home, and cut and paste my answer. Print it out and hand it to her.
Dear MIL...you have one hell of a nerve. You are trying to come between your son and his wife, you are pushing your views on everyone around you. You had your chance at raising children, and your time has past. IF you want to be a part of your grand child's life, you will play by his mother's rules, not yours. Until you agree to this new arrangement, you will not have the chance ot try her patience again. You are NOT responsible for your grandchild's raising or care. He has been entrusted to you on a short term basis, not a long term lease. And if you cannot abide by the rules, then stay away competely. Your actions are threatening your future relationship with your grandchild, your son, and his wife! The colors you are showing are truely the fodder for MIL stories...all of them horror stories, at that.
2006-06-10 14:00:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your really concerned you would rather go get your child rather than sending a message out to the world!!! You don't have a car, bus, taxi, Bart!! pick your choice! How about calling the cops and reporting your child missing!! that way you get your child back and your MIL and BIL will get the message and they will keep their distance!! And that way the only time they get to see your child is when you take him to their place!! Your happy and also they get to see their grandchild as well!
otherwise its your call see wat you really want! Your a parent do the right think for yourself and your kid!
2006-06-10 14:10:46 · answer #4 · answered by Pari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get in cab if they near by and go get your child. Nothing wrong with grandparents spending time with grandchildren but when they purposely keep them away from you, now that's wrong. Keep trying to get them on the phone. If a cab is out of the questions, wait til hubby gets home and go get your child.
2006-06-10 13:27:33 · answer #5 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your feelings very much and with this incident you and your husband need to talk with them about their rudeness of not answering your calls. You are this child's Mother and they need to understand this, if not then you need to do what is best for the child and not your in-laws. Your one job in life is your child and protecting him. Yes, if it was myself in this situation I would be very concerned as to why they are not letting your calls go through. I would most certainly take my child from them as soon as possible and would care less what anyone thought about it...Don't put off allowing them to treat you this way. If not for you they would not have this beautiful grandson....
2006-06-10 15:42:28 · answer #6 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mother, I can fully understand your concern, and it sounds almost like you have married into my ex husbands family! (AKA the "everybody loves Raymond family".)
Your in-laws are subjecting you to emotional abuse. They are holding your son hostage because they know you will be frantic with worry.
When you get your son back, tell your in-laws they are no longer welcome at your home, and they are no longer welcome to have your son stay at their place. Your husband will probably object to this but stand your ground. You are the mother of their grandson, and they should be treating you with respect!
If they decide to be funny and keep your son, call the police and report a kidnapping.
2006-06-10 13:36:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all breath, remember the things you say, they will not harm him.
ok I can't speak for any one nor take sides, only you know what wrong with this picture. see how long it take for someone to return your call you know after 24hr you know what to do. give him the benifit of the dought but don't let your guard down, be strong for your child as we all are...I hope thing work out for the best with out you breakin off into someone's azzzzzzzzz haha, smile keep me posted ...comfort from me
2006-06-10 13:32:04 · answer #8 · answered by Make-Up 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes take the cap to their house and bring your son back home.If they try to act smart tell your husband you are getting ready to report them for this action.This is just disgusting i think.
2006-06-10 13:30:48 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like it's time to get the local police involved, call and share your concerns with them, maybe they can send an officer by to check things out for you
2006-06-10 16:22:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋