Okay, so I have two friends that have been friends sense 1st grade. Now one friend did something bad and they aren't talking to each other any more. I'm really worried about them and I'm not interseted in picking only one friend. Does anyone have any good advice? No bad words please and thanks.
2006-06-10 06:00:52 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
i understand that you want to help them out, but just don't get involved! they may lose eachother, but that doesn't mean that you have to lose the both of them.
2006-06-11 14:18:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I think you should talk to one at a time and try to figure what is wrong with them. Try to make them friends and if not then tell them that u can not pick one of them as u like them both. U can also ask them to sit down with u together and resolve their problem. Some times right after the fight or bad behavior it is not consider wise to make them talk as the wounds are fresh. May be after some time. And do not worry much they will be frineds again after a while.
2006-06-10 06:06:18 · answer #2 · answered by bunny_thunny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should not have to pick one friend, if one of them tries to make you pick only one, tell them they are both very special to you and the problem is between the two of them.. and that they have to solve it..often in life you will have friends that don't like each other... and may have to spend time with them separately, but any friend that tries to make you choose between is not a good friend to you... in the mean time since they both are good friends , there is no reason why you cannot speak to the one that did something bad to the other one, and try to point out what she did was not very nice and ask her to think about it and perhaps apologize so you can all be friends again... best wishes!
2006-06-10 06:07:52 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Fortune 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them both by themselves and figure out the problem and why they are fighting. Than plan a solution and tell each of them it and see what happens from there. If they're stubborn tell them each a lie to get them at the same place and show them how much they are alike and how good of friends they are together. You could even gather up somepictures and show them that they had so much fun together until this little fight.
2006-06-10 06:10:52 · answer #4 · answered by czubl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a trio of friends when one of them, I felt was 'doing me dirty' so I stop talking to him & anytime anyone referred them to me, I had nothing good to say & no matter what a person did to defend them against me, I ended up in my head or out loud saying "F that *****" Either way, we did this for about a year until the friend in the middle tricked both of us into going to dinner at a restaurant & no matter what, we got everything out in the open. (He picked a restaurant, b/c we weren't that far gone to do anything too insane at a public place)
Are we the best of friends now? No, but I am still friends with him & in 3 weeks going to see him get married.
2006-06-10 07:07:05 · answer #5 · answered by jmintecu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do grasp that you are a tolerant and praise high your attitude toward friendship and friends..Well,I have experienced the same situation you are into and I see as the best solution you to make a try to talk sincerely and politely with both sides(your friends) and even be their moderator if you can in order they to be able to "polish up" their mistakes..Maybe that will help and you'll not be forced to choose between them! Good luck!
2006-06-10 06:05:39 · answer #6 · answered by sunflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. girls at your age can be very catty, friends one minute, then not friends, and then friends again. the best thing to do is to show them both that you are not going to choose sides. let them both know that even though what one friend did was wrong, we shouldn't be punished forever for one little mistake. as long as she's learned from it, then why shun her? tell your other friend that if your friendship is valuable, she won't make you pick sides, and that you'll still be there for both of them when they need you. in time, the wounds of what the one friend did will heal, and you'll be hanging out together again in no time.
2006-06-10 10:38:00 · answer #7 · answered by Exodus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they have been friends that long,then they will get the friendship back on track in there own time,in there own way,your not friends that long & just throw it all away. Let them have there space from one another,don't take sides,be both their friends,don't show favoritism,if they come to you for advice,tell them you'd rather stay out of it,be supportive,but don't give advice,or they will turn on you.
2006-06-10 06:06:13 · answer #8 · answered by fairy53042000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(okay I hope this is good):
Your friends will probably get back together in time. You shouldnt get caught up in their problem, cuz its not any of your business. You shouldnt have to pick only one friend, if they're not gonna be friends anymore, you can still be friends with both. Just let them handle it.
(Was that okay? Sorry if it didnt really help.)
2006-06-15 06:48:37 · answer #9 · answered by ♥MsCullen♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they're real friends with eachother
1) That person wouldn't of done something bad.
2) The other would forgive her friend.
I don't know how bad the situation is but that's what I've come to.
2006-06-10 06:05:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just continue being friends with both of them. I`m sure their fight had nothing to do with you and they will eventually get over it. In the mean time if one of them starts talking about the other in front of you, just tell them you don`t want to talk about your other friend behind their back.
2006-06-10 06:04:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋