I have known this guys for like ten years in the beginning we where more then friends but friends also. We lost contact for a minute and during that time he got married (it wasnt' that long). When we got back in contact all the feeling and attraction from before came back. he and his wife where going through it before we met back up and he didn't want to be with her but she didn't want to give him a divorce. As per whats best we tried to keep cotact to a minumum becasue when he are around each other the feelings are intense we even started talking about what kinds of parents we would be ( we aren't sleeping together). Now two years later of being friends and trying to keep contact distant he and his wife are getting a divorce. Its hard becasue he is a very close freinds he knows the secrets that I swore I would take to my grave and I am the same with him. When I excepted that we could never be they decided on a divorce, what should I do.???
2006-06-10 05:59:00 · 9 answers · asked by LoTs2ShArE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We grew up together wehn we where togther the frist time we where just teenagers and i wasn't ready for anything that serious. I lost contact with him becasue I ran from him out of fear. He married her after she wasthere for him when he was sick. (she was a rebound).
2006-06-10 06:38:23 · update #1
Sounds like you already have your feelings for him and he has to decide what he wants to do.
2006-06-10 13:02:49 · answer #1 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until he gets the divorce and has some time to get his head back together. You don't want to end up being the rebound girl... nor do you want everyone looking at you like you're the reason his marriage failed.
Also, you really should take a long hard look at this relationship. You say that the two of you have shared deep feelings for one another and yet almost as soon as you were out of the picture ("for a minute"), he married. This man may be incapable of long term commitment, especially if the excitement of having another interested woman in the sidelines isn't there.
2006-06-10 13:09:36 · answer #2 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go and move on. Did he propose to you 10 yrs age? What prevent him from keeping in contact with you? The focus is not so much about him and a divorce but about you. Were you not both more than friends before now?
I encourage you not give in to a feeling of fair to let go of him; it will be best for you.
I know it will not be easy but like a death in the family the pain goes away with time.
If he real loved you as a wife and not as a woman (for pleasures) you would have been his wife even now. Feelings are like orgams that make you want more, and more....... but no committment. marriage is nothing more than a committemt. He made it to someone else and even now broke it.
Solomon said, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing,
And obtains favor from the Lord.”
How is he has not yet found you? He found a divorce before he found you?
Honey, move on.
2006-06-10 13:24:29 · answer #3 · answered by Agree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait till he is divorced... then decide
2006-06-10 13:03:20 · answer #4 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait til the divorce, they may not get one....
2006-06-10 13:24:11 · answer #5 · answered by wldaz1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find another he is no good for u
2006-06-10 13:10:35 · answer #6 · answered by abddua 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce is not "given".
2006-06-10 13:13:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go, you will only get your heart broke........
2006-06-10 13:14:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get with him
2006-06-10 13:06:38 · answer #9 · answered by Nightchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋