she found his phone with text messages to me, she assumed the worst. He was drunk and said "i love you " and some other stuff that was a joke. How do I protect myself? And how do I help a friend? Any advise?
2006-06-10 05:58:53 · 34 answers · asked by ♥*´`*ღPink♥*´`*•.¸¸ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He text me, I was asleep, I did not reply. We are really good friends , we work together. We like each other as friends. She knows he was drunk that night, he was with her.
2006-06-10 12:00:27 · update #1
Hey what do ya know. Same situation right now. You can do like I did. Talk to her, explain your relationship, and repeat. If she is anything like the one I am currently dealing with she has taken what she has learned and spun it into a story that a soap opera couldn't come up with. Her imagination is running away with her. Answer her questions and remember you may have to repeat yourself SEVERAL times. Just be patient and calm. She is entitled to her feelings but she should know the whole story from both ends before she makes a judgement. Good Luck........your gonna need it.
2006-06-10 06:06:29 · answer #1 · answered by Luvnu_always baby 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Be honest. You can't blame the wife for wanting to talk with you. Besides, alcohol can be a truth serum so she's right in being upset. I also note that you did not mention how you replied to the texts so it's possible that you may have inflamed the situation even more. She's going to believe what she wants to believe ultimately but you need to be up front and honest, not in the least defensive with her. If he's nothing but a friend then you have nothing to worry about. He and his wife have a larger issue to deal with so don't be surprised if he's forced to choose between you and her.
2006-06-10 06:26:39 · answer #2 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do, is to invite her to go out for coffee. This move show that you have nothing to hide and you are open to any question. Avoiding to meet or talk to her shows that you are guilty and you really want her husband. Emphasize to her that he was drunk that night! Be honest and I hope everything goes fine.
Tell your friend to talke care next time and not make silly moves like
this one. Threaten him if this happens again, he will be out of your list and your frienship will be over!!!
2006-06-10 06:07:22 · answer #3 · answered by super_sexy_amazona 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... if there is nothing going on, what are you so afraid of?
Besides, although you may not be his lover now, it is a possibility that you will be in the future ("i love you" messages... c'mon).
I guess it is normal for your friend's wife to talk to you about this.
Make sure that you don't make up stories though. The truth is always the best defense.
2006-06-10 06:08:21 · answer #4 · answered by VAVAV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants to talk to you then you talk to her.
Women can read women pretty well - and unless you have something to hide the wife should see that you are only a friend.
However, unless you are wanting to be more than friends why are you frequently texting another woman's man and why are you having drinks to the point of drunk?
2006-06-10 06:01:44 · answer #5 · answered by offerofopinion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, she obviously doesn't trust her husband. that is the only reason she is checking his cell-phone for text messages.
She has larger issues than just you.
If you honestly don't have anything going on with him, that is all you can tell her. Personally, if he is the one instigating most of the "i love you" text messages I would just tell her you don't want to talk to her about the subject, because you don't want anything to do with him.
In my opinion, if a married man text messages another woman "i love you" he does have motives that might not be pure, even if you think it was a joke.
Good Luck
2006-06-10 06:05:15 · answer #6 · answered by Frank M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has all rights to be mad at you. I too would be. So I suggest you tell her the truth or have the husband be a real man and tell the thruth. So if your just friends, why is she just finding out the hard way about you. Why wasn't she invited to drink with you guys and have fun too?
I thinnk you better leave the married men alone and find your own man. God forbid he has friends.
2006-06-10 06:05:52 · answer #7 · answered by young at heart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that her husband is only a friend, and give her the following reasons:
1. He is married.
2. You are a lesbian.
3. He's not good looking enough to make you want to turn straight.
Good luck! Been there...
2006-06-10 06:05:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame her for wanting to talk to you....If my husband was texting some other woman telling her he loved her, I'd want to meet with her too....but I'd be meeting her to beat her a ss down. So, your best bet is to talk to her on the phone....and the best help you can give your friend and his marriage is to back off. Try to remember the wife will always win.
2006-06-10 06:05:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did not have to let him to get that close to you to say " love you" that is too much and being drunk is not a good excuse...plus how do you know he was drunk? I am sure that is why his wife will ask you too.
it is very hard to make her believe that you are just good friends...
I would give her my word that will not see her husband and I would do so... if he is your friend and you care...his marriage must be very important to you.
Good Luck
2006-06-10 06:04:21 · answer #10 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋