i love a guy he is good in nacture n charecter we love each other so much the problem is my parents r against?

Question

this relation coz he is not good looking we have very good understanding what should i do pls help me i m helpless

Answer 1

The Bible does say 'Honor your father and your mother.' It also says 'Obey your parents in the Lord - for this is right,' and even 'Obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.'

However, it also says we must listen to God more than man. This does mean that if you are planning to disobey your parents (particularly if you are still under their roof), you must have a very good reason, preferably one straight from Scripture. And that means you need to know your Scripture, know exactly why you believe being with him is the right thing, why it would be wrong to discount him. And if you are still living under their roof, and you attend a church or other place of worship, you should probably consult with the pastor or other leader before you do anything.

But I absolutely agree that before you even do that, you need to get your parents' side of the story. And you need to listen without judging them in any way. Just to find out their opinion in detail. No arguments afterwards, just 'Thanks for sharing that with me.' If you don't do that, you will have a much bigger problem than whether to see this boy.

Depending on your age, it may turn out that the problem has nothing to do with him at all, and plenty to do with a perception on your parents' part that you are not ready for a serious relationship. They may believe that you should not be 'serious' with someone until you are ready to be married.

Quite frankly, if you aren't ready for a permanent relationship yet, I agree. You should stay just friends. Be faithful to each other, if that's how God is leading you, but keep it platonic and see what happens later when you are ready for something permanent.

And yes, that something permanent does involve 'leaving father and mother.' But that does not mean 'leaving mother and father when it's convenient for me, and running to them and expecting them to provide for me when that's more convenient.' But once that moment comes, then, yeah, your husband absolutely does take priority over your parents.

Answer 2

They don't like him cause he's not good looking? Amazing. OK, I'm putting on my Dear Abbey hat and giving you my best shot. Here goes. Assuming you're an adult, unless this guy is a frog - and I mean a real frog and not just as ugly as a frog - tell your parents to drown themselves and keep going out with the guy. It's your life - not your parents'.

Answer 3

I'm sure there is more to your parents not liking him than because he's not good looking. Sometimes parents know best. Mine sure did. I was with this guy for about a year and my parents didn't like him. They just knew he wasn't for me. He had no good job, he was basically a bum. They were right. I'm so glad I didn't stay with him. I cry when I think I dated him it makes me so sick.
Talk to you parents get their side. Remember they love u and want whats best for you. Don't forget that.

Answer 4

Ok, you parents don't approve....you're how old? And they are how much older and experianced than you?

Try giving them a break and honestly looking at the situation.
What is their objection?
Is their objection in your long term best interest?
Do you love your parents?
Do you respect their judgement.......their judgement has provided for you all these years.
Now ask yourself..is this GUY worth pulling away from your parents for?

I know I seem unfair here but give it a try and be totally honest with yourself.

Answer 5

He treats you well, is a decent person and a you love him!

And your parents are against it because he is ugly?

Either this is a BS question, or your parents aren't all that bright!
Either way- follow you heart, not the dictation of someone who doesn't know what you are feeling.

Answer 6

Kc and Fifi are both wrong I'm not a parent, but the bible says to always obey your mother and father. I know it most be hard, but your parent are not dumb they have experience what your are going through and they know the answer.

Answer 7

don't care about what ur parents say. It's your life, not theirs..... And if you love each other, then they'll understand that he haw a nice character and they'll forget the looking part..

Answer 8

prove to your parents that he is worthy of your love.
let them understand how much you love each other, that his looks should not matter to them.
what's important is what's inside, and the truth that you are both in love.

Answer 9

You are the only one who can know who to love!

Answer 10

I agree with kc