My 14 yr old freind recently told me she was proposed by her mother's friend who is 46!!!!!
She says the guy is crazy about her and wants to marry her as soon as she is ready!
she is pretty sure he is not kidding around, because he is risking 25 years of friendship with her mother and also his social reputation!
she totally trusts him because he has not misbehaved with her even when they were alone together in a room with the door locked...
If her mother knows abt how her friend feels abt her daughter, she would literally kill him!
she still talks to him and also calls him pretty often.
she also told me she is worried if she might feel attracted to him.
Thou my friend is only 14, she looks 27...
this guy loves her for all she has...her face, her figure, her heart, her all.......she was totally shocked by somethings he said but she still likes him as a person and hopes that they can still be freinds...
I have no idea what kind of advice i should give her....
Does anyone have any ideas
2006-06-10 05:07:04 · 5 answers · asked by Jean 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The thing is....he has always had girlfriends around the age of 17-20....
and he dosent look very old...he looks 35-40......
and he always had teenage girls running behind him....so he just beleives things will work out between him and my friend...
2006-06-10 06:14:30 · update #1
If the man is 46 and your friend is 14, then the man is a pedophile. It doesn't matter how old your friend "looks", she's still just 14 years old. She only thinks she has feelings for him because he's being nice to her and the attention feels good. That's a very common ploy used by older men to get a very young girl's trust. And this man has totally crossed the line by some of the things he has said to her as well. This is a very dangerous situation for your friend. There's no such thing as being "friends" with a 46 years old man who's trying to take advantage of a young teenage girl. I think your friend should put on the brakes immediately, perhaps even letting her mother know about it. Her mother also has a right to know what kind of man she's supposedly involved with. There's a chance the mother might not believe your friend, but at least your friend can feel like she did the right thing and that will also send a clear message to the 46 year old scumbag that he won't get away with pursuing an underage girl.
2006-06-10 05:18:15 · answer #1 · answered by cynthiajean222 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, just no! It's quite disturbing that a man of that age would even consider liking a girl of such an adolescent age. There's only a really incredibly miniscule chance that it would even work out.
All in all, that man just sounds like a pedophile.
2006-06-10 12:16:16 · answer #2 · answered by cupnoodle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this isnt right. the man should grow up and get some help immediately. keep your friend away from him. let an adult know of the situation - this is against the laws of nature and civilization.
2006-06-10 12:11:53 · answer #3 · answered by annie - rainbow goddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn!! Jerry Springer type situation anyway if she 18 she can marry him but not right now.
2006-06-10 12:11:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tel her
wen shez gonna be an adult.. ready 4 fun n lyf.. hez gonna be.. old... boarin.. n all...
GOD bless..
T.
2006-06-10 12:11:48 · answer #5 · answered by tanzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋