why do we say we dont care what others think but we actually do, deep inside?

Answer 1

Don't say "I don't care what others think"

In part because it's a mistake to attribute "otherness"
But also the inescapable reality of subjectivity.

To MAKE the "subject" real is to stand against the world, when we are living here together, caring, and influencing.

Answer 2

We say we don't care because we wish so much that we DIDN'T care. But we do. We should try not to though. Living your life to gain approval from others is a worthless cause. We should concentrate on taking care of ourselves and tuning out what others say. Lots of them don't have our best interests at heart.

Answer 3

^ ^ "always usually"? ^ ^

at first it's a defense mechanism, then it just becomes a preventative measure.
when we wear on our sleeves that we care, some people will go out of their way to cause us undue emotional harm and upset. We keep people at a distance to prevent them from seeing what truly lays deep in our innermost heart. then that part of us will always be safe from the cruel hand of our fellow man
maybe, it's also wishful thinking. for those who've been hurt(probably more than once), maybe they wish they could cut off that part of them that feels so acutely the judging eyes of their peers. the disapproval of family and friends as they try to grow as an individual and assert themselves in the world, and thus have some effect on it.
Nobody wants or invites pain or hurtful criticisms. we all want to feel safe and secure though few of us ever truly get there. we subsequently lull ourselves into a false sense of security by trying to convince ourselves of apathy. the problems therein are, in the long term, quite consequential. either we become the hardened callous person we pretend to be for so long. or at the core we remain that frightened small person so repressed by our own fears that we convince ourselves never to venture out of that shell to take the risk of loving, being loved, or any of the enjoyable things that do require us to take risks. even more long term, a person is eventually doomed to become bitter and resentful over all that was lost out on, all the experiences that their core personality denied them.
it just makes for a truly miserable life. the important thing is to temper that fear with risk. rejection is a part of life. these disappointments allow us to grow into the people we are to become, it's all part of maturity. so, take the risks to meet new people. do not start out by giving anybody your trust, let them earn it as you earn theirs. after all, anything worth having is worth earning. so is any friend or lover you'll ever have.

be well, and be wise.

Answer 4

I guess we all want to appear independent, secure and strong minded - saying we "don't care" is effectively turning off our external emotions -- it's a method of numbing ourselves to anticipated pain and/or social rejection so we can at least appear to be the secure, resilient people we internally wish we were.

People usually hide what they really feel because to be real is to be vulnerable, and no-one wants to leave themselves open to getting hurt.

It also could be a respect thing. For example, sometimes at assessment time, i don't like criticisms that my uni lecturers direct at me and my artwork. To my peers, though, i say "who cares what THEY think they're just narrow minded" when internally i think "i do care what my lecturers think because i respect their experience and judgment".

Answer 5

It's a defense mechanisn, we try to prove to people that we're our own person and we'll do what we want regardless of what they think. Even though deep down we would like to have they're approval.

Answer 6

Have to agree with you on this one.
I think it's more to do with self pride, we don't want to appear like we "care" or bother but mostly we don't want to appear weak in front of people.
It's a part of human nature. For example most of us can't accept compliments, therefore they return the compliment instead to avoid saying thanks, etc.

Answer 7

I really don't care..people are basically stupid animals that can talk. And like everyone on this planet, our opinions are based on our up bringing and life style. If you know who you are, it does not matter what others think cause they don't know you..

Answer 8

When we signify a low degree of importance to a proposistion, and it has no aparent effect on our life why should you or I care? unless you're trying to achieve something like gettin laid

Answer 9

Yeah you are right, we say we dont care but we actually do...I think it is man's nature...
Thanks,
Sumiya...

Answer 10

Because: We are not really who we think we are, but rather, we are who we think.....they think we are.