I don't have friends and I'm upset?

Question

My bro has so many friends they really get along well and I want that to happen to me too? I am convinced that he has a REALLY REALLY good cominication skills. How do I upgrade my skiils? And I also need more sense of humour. I need help pls ...Tell me how or teach me . TQ

Answer 1

well not everyody has so many friends . you just have to learn to like yourself as you are and then the others will like you too.it's not a recipe.just take it easy and look around...you'll see a lot of people wanting to be your friend

Answer 2

I have the same problem that you have but don't fret just know that the friends that you do get and have will be the ones that will stay with you for your whole life and know that you do not need to look far for your friends, start by looking in your own family. If you think that your brother has some great communication skills then ask him to teach you how to approach others and I know that the brotherly love that he has for you will take over and he will help you.

Answer 3

Ok, time to get serious.

First, everyone who says, "Get off the computer" is right. But social skills are important. Very important.

Most people learn some skills on socializing as they are growing up. However no matter how old you are or how much experience you have or do not have, there are certain fundamental things that make people tick. Learning to recognize certain traits, body language, etc.. is the key to opening up successful relationships.

Very succesful business people use these same learned tools in there everyday life.

Please take a look at these books: (You may find them in your local library)

How to Win Friends & Influence People:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influence_People

How to make people like you in 90 seconds or less:
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/076111940X/002-2504591-7619261?v=glance&n=283155

How to start a conversation:

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0684868016/002-2504591-7619261?v=glance&n=283155

Here are a few additional resources for you to check out.

http://bottomlinesecrets.com/blpnet/article.html?article_id=27109

http://lifestyle.msn.com/Relationships/Friendship/default.aspx

http://teachingtreasures.com.au/Danger%20zone/friends.htm

http://www.teachfirst.org.uk/events/learning_to_lead/how_to_make_friends

http://www.kidscape.org.uk/childrenteens/makingfriends/1makingfriends.shtml

Some people are blessed with the ability to quickly make friends and find instant raport. For everyone else, this information will help you achieve the success and happiness you desire.

Best wishes, your friend,

Blewz4u

Answer 4

Though I really dont know what's the relation between your question and philosophy ! BUT I would like to advice you 1st to start making friends and the 1st one should be your bro. as from him you will gain friends(his) and second you should be your self in some aspects and try to LEARN SCIENTIFICALLY the communication skills by attending courses even if online.May be you are a shy person and that's why I advice you not to try gaining friends from the net as this may increase you problem and your condition may get worse ...YOU WILL THEN BE ESCAPING..You know that people in the net are not real and with them you will live in fantacy and you will not be able to communicate with real people on real earth.. Go out ...Smile infront of others....Say good words to everyone you have....STARTING from your family....

Answer 5

A lot of it is how outgoing you are, in other words how receptive and friendly you are to others. The best communication skill is listening. Ask questions that evoke conversation,not ones that require a yes or no answer. To communicate better, learn about interesting things and current events and then discuss them. As far as developing your sense of humor, read some good jokes, memorize them and tell them to your friends.

Answer 6

Don't worry about it. They will come along. Don't rush it. In fact, the longer you wait, the better the friendships will be when they come along. I guarantee you that some of the " friends" that your brother has, he probably wished that he didn't have. Friends aren't hat big a deal. They come and they go, If you have 30 or 40 friends, out of those 40 people, only 2 might be your real and true friends. Just wait for them to come to you. It will in time.

Answer 7

Are you shy? Do you have social anxiety (always afraid of what to say?). Join the club.
That's it, join a club. Are you in school? Talk to an adjustment counselor there. Never be afraid to ask the adults around you for help.
I was like you as a kid and still am - I didn't get help but I learned to be comfortable with myself as I was and I found friends who were like me. I didn't have loads of them but enough to feel less lonely. I also liked to read so many times I turned to books.

Answer 8

Hang with your bro and observe his technique. Ask him how he feels when he meets strangers and wants to make a good impression. Ask him what he says to strangers. To have friends is to be a good friend. Just relax and enjoy other people's company. Read some humurous books or comics; or short corny jokes to share. That will usually get conversations going. I think you have a gold-mine of information in your bro, don't be too proud to ask him how he does it and make sure you tell him how much you admire him. Good Luck!

Answer 9

Be a good friend to you brother and for sure, his friend will become your friends as well. Analyze and ask yourself what might be it that turns people away from you. You dont have to be a copycat or pretend like somebody else. People will like you for who you are. So just be your natural you. And be the best of who what you can be. People will love you not just because of sense of humor but on how you treat and appeciate them. "Be cool and not be fool, in time you'll see your list of friends not few but full!" :-D

Answer 10

Be yourself. Get off the computer and get out there and make some friends. Find a hobby, do what you like to do. Be outgoing.

Humor just might not be in your personality. Not everyone can be a comedian. Look up jokes on line.

Answer 11

You need to get off the Internet and get actively involved in something you enjoy. Join clubs or volunteer in your community. This will help you meet people with interests similiar to your own and it will help you develop your interpersonal skills. If you are the right age, try Scouts or something like that.