Are there any sex or bedroom lessons that you wish men would learn?

Question

I agree MM, I was trying to get some insight here.

Answer 1

As in all things of life, it's a learning communication thing. One area I have noticed is that couples make love, which is the most intimate event ever, but are too embarressed to discuss it.

Answer 2

Yes. Not all of us love foreplay! For instance....I'm a girl but I could do without the foreplay and just get right down to it. I get frustrated and bored with a long foreplay session.

Secondly, it's important to remember that many women need something more than just intercourse to orgasm. Clitoral vibrators are fun to use during sex and it helps take the pressure off the guy to make you come. AND most women can come extremely fast that way.

Answer 3

To get creative! I know it "takes two to tango" but there is a time and place for everything. Sometimes, romance can be good, put the extra effort into some flowers etc. Sometimes, the raw animal hunger needs to take over. Sometimes, we need to be treated like ragdolls and be dominated. Sometimes the thrill of getting caught is hot. Sometimes watching porn or even videotaping your own bodies can be really erotic. Sometimes, we need a man to let us just ride and enjoy the view.

Variety in the bedroom can really help a relationship.

Answer 4

That the actual ummm penetration part doesn't have to last as long as they think it does. Most women are more aroused by what goes on with the outside bits and bobs. Don't worry about that part of the game plan just come as you are.

Answer 5

Some men do need to realize where the clit is and that most women can't orgasm w/o contact there. But I think most men DO know that

Answer 6

Try let the woman hanging both arms on the ceiling. Enjoy.

Answer 7

The most important leason to learn is to appreciate their partner after sex.

Answer 8

YES, to learn to be patient in bed and not to just jam it in cause you're horny. FOREPLAY. From shoulders, spine, neck, chest, thighs etc. w.o touching any private areas. Then when SHE's ready, she will give you a wild ride.

Answer 9

Like everything else, there is no “best” way, because every girl is different.

However, there are some similarities, and some things that most girls prefer.

You asked about positions - I think the best way is laying on my back, or sitting in a chair. Leaning back in a chair is particularly comfy actually – just have her scoot up to the edge.

You will want to slip between her legs and spread them apart, take time kissing down her thighs, and over her mons. Blow warm air over her vulva before pulling away and kissing her other leg or belly. When you get back to her vulva, slip your tongue over her lips, and maybe between them. Make a noise that indicates you are enjoying the experience. Don’t underestimate the importance of the tease.

Once you get started, you can put her legs over your shoulders, or use your shoulders to keep them spread apart. Take a few moments to lick over, around and between both sets of lips. You will want to use the fingers of one hand to spread her lips open to reveal her clitoris, and her vagina. You can dip the fingers of your other hand lightly across her vagina and clitoris to check out how wet she is. If you have done the tease right, she will be. While you are still spreading her lips open, you will want to dip your tongue into her, and lick up towards her clitoris. Be through.

You will want to focus your attention on her clitoris. Start out by closing your lips over her clitoris and suck lightly, or hum softly on it. You will want to use your tongue as much as possible, and keep a steady rhythm – nothing kills a girls orgasm faster than changing technique mid-stream. If your tongue starts to cramp up, you can wiggle it in a different pattern (but keep the rate steady), or you can try a slightly different technique for a moment while you rest your tongue.

Pay attention to your girl, she will let you know what she likes, and what she does not like. Avoid the things she doesn’t like, and keep doing the things she does like. Some girls don’t like direct clitoral stimulation, (though most do) so you will have to be less intense with these girls.

Once the intensity has started to build – you can slip a finger, and then two or possibly more, inside of her. Most girls like the feeling of something inside of them, but it is best to not go crazy and try to stick in your whole hand right away or without knowing that she is into that sort of thing. Just don’t let up on the clitoris, and make sure that your hands are clean, and soft – no rough skin or calluses.

Once she has an orgasm, she will want you to let up pretty quickly, as the whole area becomes very sensitive and any further stimulation can be unpleasant, so get away from the clit, but you can leave your fingers inside of her if you want to, and if she is ok with it – that is sometimes very nice for a little bit. Eventually – after a few moments to a few minutes you will want to slip your fingers out of her too.

That is a basic set of tips – but you will need to experiment with your girl, and develop your own style.

Some additional things to keep in mind:

Girls are pretty self conscious about their bodies and many girls for some irrational reason think that their vulva is dirty or bad, or smelly, and are very embarrassed about having you see it up close, or don’t want you to put your mouth on it – because that will make you dirty or something. If your girl is uncomfortable with you going down on her, make sure that you reassure her that it is something you want to do, and not something that you are doing because you think you “have to.”

Girls are also very insecure about their bodies and are sometimes uncomfortable being seen naked. An easy way to get around this is to sit her in a chair while she is still fully dressed, and slip your head down under her skirt, slip her panties off – if she is wearing any, and go to town. This is also great for a quickie. Or a semi-public place where you might get caught, because she remains fully clothed.

Answer 10

Yes.
To have fun, laugh a little and experiment; to listen to your partner and take time to enjoy all sensations.